My husband of six years has type 1 diabetes and it is a huge part of our life and sometimes an extreme stress. We have weathered low blood sugar seizures, viral meningitis and hospitalization (diabetics are more prone to this), depression, chronic back pain from injury during the seizures, mood swings, high blood sugar lethargy, constant need for extra sleep and naps...I could go on and on, but you get the picture. We are blessed with two kids--2.5 and 5.5, and I am a full time grad student and he will be getting his teaching credential next year.
I get incredibly drained. I have found a few things useful in maintaining...I take a weekly yoga class, which has been truly helpful, we have received couples counseling, especially after a bout of severe illness or injury, and I have had to substantially lower my expectations of what our life is like. Often the house is not perfect, and our kids watch more DVD's than I would like, but we are coping and we are succeeding! We have almost accomplished our career goals, and we have a strong marriage. The other thing I have been practicing lately is mindfulness, which is basically just breathing and focusing on the here and now, the present moment. Also, my hubby and I will take turns napping if life is especially stressful, just to catch up on much needed rest, which rejuvenates us.
THank you for bringing up this important topic. I wish you and your family the best!