Lying and Talking Back!!!

I liked the one ladies idea of having a family conference,and explaining that "in this household these things are NOT accepted. Lying, talking back, etc." (I don't think soap in the mouth is a good thing though- that was actually on Super nanny one night and that Mom got in all kinds of trouble!) Make sure you and your husband show a united front though. Maybe you could try the light system, like they do in schools. (Or 1-5 for your son being a little older.) Make a chart for the fridge and he always starts on green.(or 5) Every offense his magnet gets moved. There is 1 freebie chance to try again but when he gets to red a privledge is taken away. I think a week is too long for that age. Probably 1 day is better. The next day he starts at green again with a clear slate. Sometimes people will allow them to move the magnet back one if the child does something extra nice. That's up to you. PS- I have an 8 y/o too, and he's recentley started talking back sarcastically and calling me "woman" so we may implement this too. Good Luck!

OMG! When I read this I felt like It was my life! I have an 8 year old boy who does EXACTLY the same things! We he comes home from school I'll say how was your day and he will say boring and thats it. When we catch him in a lie he will continue to lie even though he knows we know he is liying! The thing thats iritates my husband and I is that he lies over little things that don't even matter! And the talking back is the WORST!! He has an answer for EVERYTHING!! Sometimes I just have to walk away so I dont just strangel him! I guess it's the age they are in and hopefully it will stop when he turns 9, which is in June for us. I guess all we can do is continue to love them and to stress that lieying is unnecessary and hope that it sinks in sooner rather than later! I'm sorry I can't be more help I'm in the same boat that you are. Maybe someone else will have some better advice for both of us.

i have a 15 yr old a 7, yr old and a 9, yr old andthere all girls. they also do the same thing to me so what i do is take away something they like and talk to them constanly about it. i know you dontbelive maybe in spanking but you may also have to do that.

We've dealt with this a lot too with one of our boys (our oldest,now 10) and I empathize with you deeply. We are Christians so our first resource is the Bible. There are a lot of scriptures dealing with lying and we've had him write several of them down. There are also scripture tapes that are age appealing that reinforce the verses and it's fun to learn them that way. But when it comes to holding him accountable, we've found that "time out" in his bed is extremly effective. NO books, toys, stuffed animals... etc. Just lay there and think... He's very social so that one is painful for him. Another tactic is to "run him." He is required to run from one end of the fence to the other, back and forth while we have a timer set for 8 minutes. Sometimes we have him do "push ups" or "squats"... it's all healthy and it's making him stronger physically, but it's not a whole lot of fun!! It also gives me the needed break to cool my jets after the behavior incident. I think it's all a stage, and we are trusting the LOrd to deal with his heart since ultimately it is a matter of his own relationship with God. It has gotten easier and I do remember 8 being a real high point in the back talk stage, so hang in there mama. HOpe this helps!! If you want specific scripture references, just email me at ____@____.com, K.

Christina, Being Strick and Parenting at the same time is Hard yes but Have a Conference in your living room tonight and let him know that this is NO LONGER tolerated!!!!
Write and review everything with hubby before proceeding but this is what i recommend!
For each: lie = soap in mouth for 2 minutes.
talking back = take something that he enjoys away for 1 week.
Misbehaving = try and arrange with school to have after school detention for 1-2 hours.
but yes i know all about these because my sister has went through a time with her boy....and these have worked!
also when you talk to him during these times you act such as a driller would and demand from him something.
when you go shopping he goes with and loads and unloads everything. just some things to teach him really what mom and dad do and if he wants to be put in your shoes wnough to talk back well he is man enough to do the same so be tough or this will esalate and be even more Outta control!
please if you have more questions for me i am here and will help any way i can christina.
P.S. Remember to let him know that good behavior will be awarded and he will be talked to normally once he is acting as the son again. but stay on top and be strick.