Hi D.,
This may or may not help, but if you are considered generally healthy and "low risk", you may have better luck with a midwife than with an Ob/Gyn. Even if you're not, all midwives partner with OB/Gyn's who they can call in for backup and/or refer patients to who they are not qualified to take care of.
I really like the midwife philosophy of care much better than the docs. They spend more time with the patients, tend to be more available for questions, and are more concerned about the person's whole body rather than just what's involved in the pregnancy.
I'm pregnant with my first and have been seeing the group of midwives at Nortwestern Memorial Physicians Group - I think they have a clinic in Evenston too. I have been very happy with the level of care and attention that I've received - I went in and chatted with one of them before we started trying to conceive and have continued to go to the same group. My past experience with Ob/Gyn docs has been similar to yours - they don't seem very receptive to answering questions or giving you any advice other than their short medical opinion.
Hope this helps!
-K.