Kindergarten - Dyer,IN

Updated on August 16, 2011
H.M. asks from Tinley Park, IL
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So my baby girl starts kindergarten in a few days (my first one going to school) and each time I think of It I start to tear up. I was not fortunate to stay home with her and she had to go to daycare. Is this normal that I"m so emotional I feel like I did the first day I had to go back to work after maternity leave.

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She was a very excited and happy little girl this a.m. to ride the school bus. I met her at school and walked her in I did not tear up until the aid took her hand and walked her to her classroom at which time she turned around and said MOM I'm fine you can go home now. She never saw me get tears in my eyes only a big smile on my face and blowing her hugs and kisses wishing her a great first day at school.

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T.R.

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I felt the SAME way with my first and am experiencing it all over again with my second starting today. I was also VERY emotional when my oldest began first grade and was gone all day. I missed her so much! I very much agree with what Connie said though...don't let her see you upset. You both will be fine!! Such a milestone :)

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J.C.

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Absolutely normal, and it only gets easier with time. By the time she's in her fourth week of going, you should be able to send her off without tears!

But then it starts back up the next year! : (

My children are in 6th and 3rd this year, and I know I will sit in the parking lot and cry for 20 minutes after I drop them off. But last year, it only lasted 5 days. So it DOES get better as they get older.

hugs and blessings!

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K..

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I'm with ya... I have been an emotional basket case for all of last week. Right now I am sick to my stomach. I stayed home with her for the last 2 3/4 years, and it's just as hard. The thought of her going from being in a 10 student in home Pre-K class to a class with more than 20 kids, and a school that goes up to grade 6 just makes me so uneasy & worried for her. I know she'll be fine, I know it's all me, but it's really bittersweet for me. I am happy about the new adventure, learning, freedom, etc., but sad for the fact that she is not a baby anymore. Ok, I'm going to log off now, I'm getting all teary as I type this.

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S.H.

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This stage, is a "Milestone" and a Rite of Passage for a Mom.
Moms... have 'developmental' stages too.
This is one of them.

My son just started Kindergarten last week.
He loves it, as do I.
He is fine.
He is happy.
I am assured by that.

Sure, they are growing up.

Yes... take the day off from work if you can. Then you can take her to school, walk her to class, bring a camera to take pictures (all the parents do that), meet the teacher, and see her classroom etc.
And then you can pick her up, after school.

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M.M.

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I was an assistant teacher when number one went to kinder.
The other asst also had a kindergartner.
The poor head teacher. Both the other asst and I came in distraught that first day of kinder for our oldests.
She looked at us like we were crazy, then four years later she was in the same boat.
it is very normal. Just wait until she graduates, her whole senior year will be an emotional roller coaster. And it isn't getting better with the second one this time around.

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M.L.

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Very, very, very normal. Almost every mama tears up when her baby goes off to school for the first time. It's a milestone for you both.

Are you able to take her to her first day of school? Do it if you can - or if you can't, at least get a picture of her that first morning. Encourage her to enjoy her new adventure. If she knows you're crying, let her know that you're crying for joy because she's growing up so beautifully.

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N.P.

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yep, I cried when my second went to kindergarten, when my first did of course too. I cried when the first went to the first day of junior high for god's sake! It's a bit of the "they are growing up!" thing - you can't go back in time and you wish you could.

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K.L.

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My grand daughter will start preschool on Wednesday this next week. She just turned 4 last week and shes only been to my house and her dads parents for days when M. was at work. So, her first experience with a kids group setting and a teacher. Its normal to be a bit emotional about your baby growing up. It reminds you of your age too, time slipping away, days gone by, the future closing in on us. I was happy when my kids went to school. I wasnt too emotional about it. This grama stuff makes me realize I am getting old. I cant wait to see how much fun she has. Shes so excited and sooo ready to be in a class room. She needs this. I wonder if my daughter will be emotional about it. Im planning to take pictures.

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R.R.

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It is hard to see them grow,,,and normal to feel this way.
God bless you, Heidi ❀

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M.T.

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Kindergarten is a very special milestone. There have been numerous posts in the last couple of days on this topic. I was only excited when my kids went to kindy and met other milestones - now my oldest will leave for college in 2 years. I also worked, and didn't consider myself or my children unfortunate for that. It's normal to feel a little emotional about this special milestone - crying every time you think of it, not so much.

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A.S.

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If it makes you feel any better when I dropped my 1st child off at pre-school I had to go into the "kiddy bathroom" and yell at myself to pull it together because I started crying in front of complete strangers and I didn't want my daughter to see me upset. My 2nd daughter is starting Kindergarten this month. It does seem to get easier. She's very excited to meet new friends. They really do have alot of fun in school. It is much harder on us than it is them. Blessings to you : )

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E.A.

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It is so normal. I remember my when my son started kinder he had to take the school bus to school on the 1st day :( I was so sad & cried as soon as the bus left. It was so hard but seeing his happy face when he returned made it all better. It's a huge step. I put a small picture of us in his backpack so if he needed me I told him to take a peek. Now he is in 3rd grade & my little one will start kinder next week too. I hope I can be strong & wish you luck :)

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A.W.

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It is a huge milestone for working and non working moms. I think you have every right to be emotional. Your first is growing up. This is huge! Give her extra hugs and lots of love.

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C.F.

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Yes, it is normal, but don't let her see you cry. She will think something is seriously wrong if mommy is crying. I cried when my son went off after joining the Air Force and he was 19, then when I had to leave him in Texas after graduating from basic training. I have 3 children and he is the middle child. The oldest 26 and youngest 16 are still at home. The first day I took my oldest to day care and he had to be pryed off of me I cried all the way to my Dad's and spent the day with him. It is hard, but they have to learn to be their own person seperate from you. You will be fine in about a week LOL. She will be fine as soon as you leave.

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