Job Hunting and Adjusting from Being a Stay-at-Home-Mom

Updated on March 31, 2008
A.R. asks from Tunnel Hill, GA
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I have mostly always been a stay at home mom with my wonderful children. As it is when are in a pretty bad situation and I am going to have to find one and quite likely even two jobs. I am wondering the best way not only to help my kids adjust to this (ages 2 and 6 months) but to help ME adjust to it. I know I am going to miss them SO much... and this is going to seriously cut back on any personal me-time because once I get home I will want to spend as much time with them as I can. I hate the idea of letting someone be the person who spends most of their time with them and rather much raise them. Especially at these early ages. I was just hoping some of you had ideas for how to make this a little easier to bear?

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answers from Nashville on

I found it that just time eases the feelings you get. I've been working 4 months now after being home with my 18 month old dor a little over a year. I found that there were stages, like grief. First I was guilty for leaving him, then I was angry that in my situation I HAVE too work, then I just started missing him like crazy and would get so upset if he was asleep when I get home. I just keep telling myself that I am working for my son. If I want to give him what he needs and wants I have to sacrifice some time with him. But on my days off I try to take him out and treat him to lunch. If you ever just want top talk go ahead and email me k? [email protected]

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answers from Nashville on


When I became a single mother in 2005, it was the hardest thing for me to get through. I went back to school and became a secretary and now, I work for the State of TN. I still miss those days of being home with my children but have seen good come out of this. Here are some good things about daycare.
Children are exposed to more sickness so their immune system gets built up really well as long as you are feeding them right.
They learn to build friendships that they wouldn't have at home.
They learn to adjust to adult authority before they have to go to school.
They get more stimulation at Daycare than they would get at home and they still have mommy at night time.

Not saying I wouldn't rather have them at home, but really there are advantages to this...God bless you and your family as you are going through this situation



answers from Chattanooga on

Have you ever thought or tried working from home instead? That way, you can still stay with your children? I've been doing that myself for over 7 years. I was a single Mom with 2 little girls (ages 9 months, and almost 3 years old) and didn't want to go do the "9-5" job and leave them in someone else's care, so I (after a long search) found something that I could do from home, around my kids. That was over 7 years ago and I am still home today.

Anyway, I just thought I would share that as so many have to make that hard decision (and yet so many times, that necessary decision) but there are other alternatives.

Good luck to you in your search (and really think about the option of staying home and working instead. It has a lot of benefits!).

K. Ladd
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answers from Huntsville on

Also remember that it is good for your children to get out of the house too. If they will be in a daycare setting, that will also be beneficial to them. They will learn so much from playing with other children, and even just watching other children. When it comes to things like potty training or learning how to jump or climb, etc, seeing other kids do these things will help your children to learn & be interested in doing these things themselves.

If you have a weekend day off from your job(s), perhaps you could take the kids to a park or playground to play with you. I'm sure they would like to have special outings with Mom!

I was never able to be a stay at home mom, so I guess I don't know what I'm missing. I just remember that I am working to help better provide for our daughter & I spend time with her at home in the evenings & on weekends. She loves going to her daycare and has made friends & learned a lot.

Good luck!



answers from Little Rock on

Well I had 7 kids and stayed home through a 21 year marriage,well due to tragic cicumstances was forced into the work field.It was so hard to find a job and I was turned down saying I had no skills. But after all those years of being home I had numerous skills. Point is if you can get out and work while you are young do it!!! By the way my 2 youngest were only 4 and 5 when I was forced out. I had to resort and don't laugh to a paper route, and house cleaning because no one would hire me. Plus once I did get out there I realized that I had missed a lot I loved it and my kids adjusted fine.I now I have a great job and I love it. Just get out there and enjoy.



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answers from Birmingham on

I'm sorry to hear of your situation, it is hard to go back to work after being home with the babies, and the idea of someone else caring for them. Your children will realize thier mommy loves them very much. When I had to start work again after my 1st daughter , the very first day I cried and cried and cried and I worked that day and never went back to that job, it's hard, and it's normal, just ease into it, if you are able to. Also, like the other posts suggested maybe consider working from home. I work with and it's great. I suggest go ahead and sign up with them, and have that job in your back pocket, I started with them 2 years ago, and now it's come in real handy, because my husband was laid off. But's a job you can have on side. If you feel if it's not enough.



answers from Tuscaloosa on

I was a homeschooling stay at home mom for the last 6 years. I went back to work in November of 2007. It was the hardest thing I think I have ever done. But it did get easier. I still miss my babies but I also enjoy my job now. I have over come the guilt that I had and my children are loving there school. We were very picky and I let the kids help in the which school. Your children are yonger but you could still do this in a round about way. Call the daycares that you are thinking about. You visit them and if you like them ask if you could bring your son by for a couple of hours to see how he does. Don't leave but do stand off and let him play with the other children. This will also give you a chance to "spy" on the baby room. Best of luck!!



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