JFF: What Your Wedding Style Reveals About Your Future Marriage?

Updated on October 19, 2012
☼.S. asks from Chula Vista, CA
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I saw this article online (What Your Wedding Style Reveals About Your Future Marriage) and thought it was kind of interesting. Do you fall into one of the 5 types listed? Maybe I thought it was interesting because my husband and I DO fall into one of these categories. I'm curious if you moms on here see yourselves in this article, too. Don't overthink or over-analyze it, it's just meant to be fun. Food for thought!

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My husband and I fall into #5, married for 15 years.

ETA: I forgot (how could I??) that I made my own invitations, wedding favors, etc. So I guess I can also include the DIY, too :)

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V.T.

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We fell into Number 3, but not by choice. We had 200 guests, 120 of them were family, not even too many extended family, just siblings, parents, aunts and uncles. We just have two huge families. We do struggle sometimes with extended family issues. While are wedding was large in number, we didn't go over the top on anything like one might think with an "elaborate" affair. We had a giant party. Food was good, drinks were flowing and people were dancing all night. We've been married 6 1/2 years.

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V.W.

answers from Jacksonville on

Yep. We are #5. All the way.

Even the comments about the comments the spouses make "he/she's my best friend"... and "we already feel like we are married".

We've been married for 16 years this December. :)

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K.M.

answers from Oklahoma City on

We eloped, and at first I was going to say "The Elopers" didn't describe us. But we eloped to Hawaii, so I looked at "Destination Wedding." That sounds more like us! Been married 2.5 years and doing good so far!

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M.P.

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Well we eloped but the description for that category doesn't fit us one bit!! We do fit into # 5 though. We had wanted a very small intimate wedding but our small intimate wedding started to get bigger and bigger once we started planning so we said "screw it!" and eloped. Took the little wedding money we had and spent it on a really nice honeymoon in Hawaii. Been married for 17 years.

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J.W.

answers from St. Louis on

We are none of the above. O well. We had a laid back formalish wedding.

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B.K.

answers from Albuquerque on

Ours is hardcore #2. And we definitely have the attached problem, I just got through scrubbing the house and I'm getting ready for dinner and DSS's soccer practice. DH is napping.

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A.J.

answers from Williamsport on

#4, drove thru Vegas after being "exclusive" (only on my part it turns out) for 4 years...., and now that things are ending 7 years and 3 kids later...it's apparent the hubs never even thought he was married.

Cute article and I know couples who fit lots of these!

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L.U.

answers from Seattle on

I didn't see #6 - The Make Do wedding. For those of us that really loved our spouses but didn't have the money to go anywhere or do anything. We just wanted to be married!

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A.G.

answers from Dallas on

Yes. We're #5 all the way! We had 24 people at our wedding, and we've been happily married for 18 years so far. :)

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C.C.

answers from San Francisco on

We eloped, it was a destination wedding, AND we had our closest friends and family there... so I guess we have 3 out of the 5 types of weddings covered! LOL I'm not sure what that says about us or our marriage (that we have a lot going on all the time? Yes, yes we do!). But we're happy, 11 years later, so I guess it worked. :)

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J.V.

answers from Las Vegas on

Oddly enough number 4..... Now it's make it or break it after 7 years...

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C.J.

answers from Dallas on

Totally fun, but our wedding didn't really fit into any of these categories. It was a hybrid of #3 and #5 from psyche to event.

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D.K.

answers from Cincinnati on

That was an interesting and fun little article. I'm not sure where my husband and I fit into this. We sort of fall under all five catagories. We eloped several weeks before our scheduled wedding. Yet, we did have a wedding with over 100 guests, mainly members of the congregation at my church where we had our wedding. Everyone loves a wedding I guess. We invited mainly our family and a few close friends, but were joined by my church congregation. I designed my own wedding dress. My mother did the sewing, and she also did half of the flowers because I wanted irises in my bouquet. Irises were out of season by then here in Japan, so we used silk flowers along with real ones. We got married in Japan, so my side flew over. We did hire a florist and caterer. I had a tiered cake which is unheard of in Japan. So that took part my getting supplies to have one and finding a chef willing to do it. The majority of our budget was spent on the photographer, more than 2/3 of our budget but totally worth it. We have all the negatives, plus a disc, over 500 candids, and one very nice professional album. We also bought disposable cameras and had our guests take photos. We had a reception at the church. We also did a second wedding party, two weeks later, to invite all of our friends who couldn't fit into the church on the wedding day. The planning took about six months, over two continents. But we decided rather suddenly a couple weeks prior to the wedding to elope, so that we could make the long trip to the embassy to change my name before the actual wedding, rather than waiting a couple months after the wedding to change my name. As a result, it turned out so much cheaper than your average Japanese wedding, but probably about normal for one in the States. We sort of fit with most of the strengths and weaknesses listed in the article. Not sure what that means, but it was fun to read.

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J.H.

answers from San Francisco on

Cute! We're solidly #5 too :)

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S.B.

answers from Houston on

3 and 5. We have been married 26 years. So its all good!!! =)

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S.J.

answers from St. Louis on

We were DIY's and Intimate Wedding-doers (well at least I thought 75 guests was intimate!) - so 2 and 5, mostly 2. Cute article!

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V.P.

answers from Columbus on

What if you didn't get the wedding you truly wanted. We acquiesced and had the traditional wedding my parents wanted for me (even though we paid for the bulk of it). To this day, I regret not doing it the way I wanted -- I never even said what I wanted. I would have preferred eloping/destination wedding.

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S.G.

answers from Grand Forks on

Totally #2. DIY. Practical and resourceful. Frugal too.

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D.E.

answers from Cincinnati on

We were a DIY wedding, meaning I DIM, did it myself lol I made the centerpieces, the favors, bought and stocked the bar. Paid for the majority of the girls dresses.
I LOVED my wedding. I would have LOVED to do destination but my mom wont fly and we couldnt have afforded it then.
I had a great day, and was probably a little selfish. We enjoyed ourselves and had a great time. I probably should have spent more time thanking guests but really or friends and family didnt lavish us with money or expensive gifts and we paid for it all ourselves so we felt like it was our party! I wouldnt change it!

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K.O.

answers from Atlanta on

As a couple, I think we fit into number 5, But, I think our wedding was more of a 3. Big and intimate are relative terms though. We had a 125 person country club wedding. It was a 500 person, 60,000 dollar affair, but it wasn't a 25 person home wedding either.

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A.C.

answers from Cincinnati on

I would say mostly 5 with a touch of 2. Our wedding was with less than 150 people, but all were family & close friends only. We did organize everything ourselves. My hubby & I have been in a relationship (and yes, best friends) for 15 years and married for 9. Still happy as a clam!

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S.H.

answers from Honolulu on

I/we kinda fall into #5 and #2.
But not exactly. Who does.

Been married 15 years.

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K.M.

answers from Kansas City on

What a fun post!

We were the elaborate affair, but it was not my choice. I had a difficult MIL who made it stressful and she wouldn't have it any other way. It was her party.

I was never so happy to have that day over with in my life. I made the most of it and had as much fun as I could, but the happiest part of my wedding was getting away from everyone for two weeks on our honeymoon and having my husband all to myself.

We've been married for 16 years. My MIL is still just as difficult, but I'm over it. My husband and I have a great family and a wonderful life together!

Thanks for posting this article!

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S.H.

answers from San Diego on

That's crazy, yes it is us. I was a wedding planner, so our original plan turned a bit because we really wanted to spend 3 weeks in Italy for our honeymoon. So, while we were always going to have an intimate wedding (which fits our marriage), we also ended up doing a very DIY wedding which also fits our personalities and marriage. I am kinda the DIY, craft goddess in our house and I definitely take on WAY too many projects;)

Fun JFF, thanks for posting.

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A.V.

answers from Washington DC on

DYI and Intimate. Will be married 10 years come June.

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K.I.

answers from Los Angeles on

Totally cool!

Only we were/are a mix of 3 different weddings...
#1 destination wedding
#2 DIY
#5 intimate affair

All 3 fit and are 'us' ...loved it!
Cute post!

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J.G.

answers from New York on

I'm a little late on this one ... but we are definitely a #2. Made our own programs, husband did the music himself (which I did not support, but, water under the bridge...).

We also have the problem they warn about, and having "appreciation dinners" would probably help us. Thanks for this!

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