Ivf - Jackson,NJ

Updated on January 28, 2012
A.M. asks from Jackson, NJ
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My sister is getting IVF. She had her eggs removed yesterday. They got 14, 5 of which were good and only 3 of which were fertilized. She is freaking that only 3 of the 14 are ok- and they may not even be- she has to wait until Tuesday to find out. Have any of you gone through this? I will feel horrible if it doesn't work for her. Please tell me your experiences. Thanks

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B.C.

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I was 36 at the time.
We harvested 14 eggs and 7 were fertilized.
We used them all and we had a single son.

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B.W.

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Unsuccessful at getting pregant for 13 years. I had IVF done when I was 40. They harvested 9 eggs, 3 fertilized and they put all 3 in. None of them implanted/worked. That was my only try with IVF due to a) the expense, as it was not covered by my health insurance, and b) I was heartbroken and neither of us wanted to go through the emotional roller coaster again.

6 months later I got pregnant and had a beautiful baby girl. :-)

My heartfelt best wishes and good luck to you and your sister!

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B.C.

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My son and his wife had to have IVF. They implanted some eggs (I don't know how many). She had/delivered triplets.

Later she had two more pregnancies and two more kids with no scientific or medical help getting pregnant.

Good luck to you and yours.

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L.N.

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i went through ivf. i had 10 embryos, one was not good. two were implanted, i have twins now. and froze 7 others.
my sister just had triplets. they put in 4. all 4 took. one became a vanishing twins. she gave birth to two boys and a girl a few weeks ago.
for both of us it worked on the first try. tell your sister after implementation stress level has to be equal to zero. tell her to sit as much as she can for 48 hrs. and tell her to think positive. good luck

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B.M.

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While her numbers aren't off the charts spectacular, they aren't horrible either. I went through years of failed fertility treatments and eventually moved to IVF. I went through IVF twice. The first time my numbers were very similar to hers and I DID get pregnant. That one ended in miscarriage unfortunately, but the point is that it did work. My second IVF attempt resulted in better numbers, but not great. They harvested 18 eggs, 14 of them fertilized, but by the time they were ready to transfer, only 3 were considered viable. We transferred all 3, which resulted in my beautiful daughter.

So, from my experience, it doesn't take out of the park numbers for it to work. If she is not successful, it will obviously be very emotional for her. You invest so much into this process mentally, physically and financially and it is a complete roller coaster ride the entire time. Not to mention that you are jacked up on tons of hormones!!

At this point, all you can do is be there as a support system. There really will be no special words of comfort you can give in this situation. The most supportive people to me were always the ones who were just there......just available to listen and let me grieve.

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J.B.

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Well try to remember that it takes only one to work. That said, her numbers aren't spectacular - that certainly doesn't mean that it won't work, but better numbers would be more reassuring at this point.

I did IVF as a gestational carrier (so the embryos transferred into me were the product of the mother and father). During the first round, the M.'s numbers sounded similar to your sister's. At the time of the embryo transfer, none of the embryos was of the highest quality grade but we transferred two anyway. That round was unsuccessful.

For the second round, the doctors had lots of data from the first round that helped guide them in changing up the protocol for the mother. The second round produced many more eggs (more than 20 if I recall correctly), most of them were good, 8 or 10 made it through fertilization to the transfer day and we had several top quality embryos to choose from. They transferred two and froze a few. Both embryos implanted and grew and those boy/girl twins are now 2 years old!

If this round doesn't work, be prepared for your sister to grieve. It's so devastating to hear that the round didn't work and she'll need time, space and gentle support and then, hopefully, will be able to start another round in a couple of months. It's very common (average, actually) for the first round to not work - the doctors just pick the best protocol that they can the first time but after that, they can look at all of the labs and data and see what did and didn't work and design a more tailored protocol for subsequent attempts.

Best of luck to your sister...you're very sweet to care as much as you do and I hope that the first time works!

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L.Z.

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I have done IVF twice (fresh cycle, meaning what your sister just did, then transferring embryos three days later) and neither time worked. I have also done two frozen cycles with embryos left from the batches that were fresh, and those didn't work either. I am on the doorstep of one LAST, final try before I say, it wasn't meant to be. A lot of factors go into IVF. How old is your sister? I am 37, but was 36 at the time of all transfers I did. I was told that age-related factors led to it not working for us (husband checks out fine), and that this is very normal for the past-35 crowd of women. I do believe it, as I have had many friends have the same issue. The lab plays a role in the embryos' development, and if your sister had three fertilize, there is a chance that one, two, or all three will make it to transfer day. The rule of IVF is basically, "it only takes one"... IVF cannot guarantee a pregnancy because it can't see chromosomal abnormalities of an embryo without extensive testing (extra money and can damage embryos, so uncommonly done). Feel free to PM me with other questions... it is a very stressful process but is worth it if it works. Just be there for your sister!!!

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B.B.

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We did IVF twice: 1st time I was 34 years old. Harvested 12 eggs, only 8 were good, 5 fertilized, implanted 2 and froze the other three: result was my amazing son. 2nd time I was 36: we implanted 2 of the 3 frozen. Were pregnant with twins. One did not grow past 10 weeks, the other is our beautiful baby girl.

I know I am not the norm, as it worked both times, the first time. We are BEYOND blessed. Try to help your sister stay positive. It is such a difficult process and takes a HUGE toll on your hormones.

PM me if you have any questions or need support.

Hugs...

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K.M.

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My sister did IVF for the first time in Nov. She had 6 eggs removed and only 4 were fertilized. Of the 4, two were considered great and 2 were good. They implanted the two great ones and they both took! She is almost 13 weeks pregnant with TWINS! Tell her to hang in there!!

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