IUD And Three Pos. Preg. Tests.

You absolutely need to go to the Dr/ because of the iud. Get on medicaid if you can, at least go to Planned Parenthood.
http://www.plannedparenthood.org
I believe they do things low coast and can give you information on Dr. refferals if you need.

I too lost a parent and know how hard it can be. If you need to talk, just send me a message.

So the IUD is still in? I guess it's risky to remove it, huh? ... but I guess it's also risky to leave it in. I'm here to talk to if you need to. I don't know a lot about this kind of thing.. but I'll lend you an ear.

-A.

I'm so sorry you're struggling with this. It sounds like it's been a rough few months for your family. I found a website that lists "crisis" pregnancy centers in Texas. There are several in Dallas, Grapevine, Grand Prairie, etc. The one I am familiar with is Woman to Woman Pregnancy Resource in Denton. It's a wonderful place and they would love to help you. Any of these clinics should be able to answer your questions about the IUD and provide prenatal care (I know Woman to Woman does this), or point you to the right resources to get it. I think Planned Parenthood bills clients on a sliding scale, so not sure if it would be free, but they have clinics in Irving, I think near the mall. Their nurse practitioners should also be able to help with the IUD question.

Just remember, God is the giver of life. It sounds like He's pretty determined to give you this one.

While losing both of your mothers is a devastating coincidence, God knows what's going on, and He can carry you through it. He will if you let Him, just like He will carry you through this pregnancy. Go ahead -- break down and cry to Him. Scream and yell and let it all out. He can handle it. It's when we're at our wits end...at the end of ourselves...that He can redeem us and show His glory through us.

Hi A.,

Real choices pregnancy resource centre in Grapevine can help you. I believe they do check ups an ultrasounds for free and they definitely will listen to you when you call them. tel:###-###-####.

I always donate my toys and baby clothes etc. to them. They give them away to lady's that can't afford to buy them. That's how I know about them.

Good luck, and take care.

Please email me if you'd like to chat - ____@____.com. I'd be willing to lend an ear (I'll give you my phone via email, not here). I go to an awesome church that might be willing to help. My son, Nathan, was 18 months when we too were surprised with another pregnancy last Easter. Elijah - 10 weeks - is such a blessing, though!

A.,
((((Hugs))))

What a hard time! Hang tough! Check out http://www.dallaspregnancyresource.com/
They have 3 locations
12959 Jupiter Rd, Ste 140, Dallas, TX 75238
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7015 Greenville Ave, Ste 100, Dallas, TX 75231
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3901 Holystone St., Dallas, Texas 75212
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They can hive you free counseling and help you find the resources you need right now. They have different classes- all free of charge- to help you throughout your pregnancy. Most of all they have really loving and caring women who will come alongside you and help you through this challenging time.

All the Best,
D.

A.:

I was glad to hear abortion was not an option. I also have to say, are you sure adoption is not an option? I have been the adopted child, and adoptive mother, and highly promote adoption. Only you can decide if that is a right choice for you though.

As others have suggested Planned Parenthood, I cannot. They do promote abortion and say it is just a mass, fetus, etc. It is a child not a choice, in my opinion. So I would not suggest going there.

You can get on medicaid to take care of the expense of dr. visits, etc. You could get other assistance too. WIC is also for pregnant women. You can go to Womens Resource Center in Ft. Worth. Sorry I could locate a website or phone #, but our curch supports them and volunteers there and here is the church # and they can direct you. They give free pregnancy test, sonograms, etc. ###-###-####.

I hope you find what you need. There have been many suggestions here. Our prays will be with you in this very difficult time. I can't imagine losing your mom and being pregnant so soon afterwards and at such a young age.

J.

I agree with Maggie.
Just hang in there and take each day at a time. It will not be easy, but it will be worth it down the road.
Let your hubby have some time to think and accept all this without too much pressure.
Have you considered temporary Medicaid? Just because you are married doesn't mean you don't qualify. It is worth looking into.
Just remember - the fire clenses!!

I am 3 mo pregnant with an unplanned pregnancy, I have a 22 mo old already and she is more than enough. We concidered all our options and I stressed everyday and no one knew and we were scared to tell our family figuring they would freak. Of course they gave us the save your money, Ty can't miss work 30 second lecture and then cried they were so happy. I felt alot better once everyone knew and I could talk openly about it. We are still getting used to the idea and getting a little more excited everyday. I went right into Human Services and filled out Medicaid for pregnancy since his work insurance doesn't cover it. I got my info a week later, I hope it doesn't take much longer for you. Also, you can go to the hospital or clinics billing offices ahead of time and talk to them and set up payment arrangemnts till your medicaid kicks in. Just don't stress more than you have to, it's ok.
As for your expanding belly, join the club, I can still button most of my pants but only because I needed a belt for them and they are the hipsters that go just below my bulging waist. My husband says it is because I stopped the situps and stopped sucking in my belly. I went to the thrift store and got a couple pairs of maternity pants for 3.00 a piece.
If you need a friend who knows how you feel... ____@____.com

Hi there.

I got prego with an IUD myself. My hubby and I were only wanting 2 and now have 3. My middle child was a high risk pregancy. I went with the IUD b/c I had a lot of medicine in my system that would knock out the birth control. Was told the IUD was 99% a sure thing and birth control makes me sick and I usually forgot to take my pills.

I went to the ER for pain. Found out that I was 14 to 17 weeks and that the pain was the baby laying on the IUD which was causing my inside walls to be pulled by the IUD. And trust me that is very painful. The docs told me that I had a 50/50 chance of losing the baby because I was very far along and that the baby could be permantly attached to the IUD. So the longer you wait, the more the risk to you and the baby are.

If you need someone to talk to you, email me and I will give you my number. I certainly understand most of what you are going through.

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J.

A.,

Email me if you want to talk. ____@____.com
I am married with two girls.

K. W.

I know this must be a really hard time for your. I 24 and we have 2 kids and it is so hard sometimes with money. I would for sure go to the doctor to get the IUD removed.

If you need someone to talk to feel free to email me and I would be glad to be here for you! ____@____.com

You should really see as Dr. because of the IUD. I have no idea what the IUD could do to the baby, but you should check about having it removed if possible. Planned Parenthood is a good source if you are strapped on cash.

If you need someone to talk to, I would be more than happy to lend and ear and extend friendship to you. My email is: ____@____.com, and I would be more than happy to give you my contact info via email.

Good Luck and Welcome to Texas!
A.

I am 8 months pregnant and I had an IUD at conception too. You need to get the IUD removed ASAP. You can apply for medicaid and get the care you need. I hope it all works out for you. If you have any questions, I'm happy to help.

R.

Take a deep breath and relax a moment. And just for added comfort, I am preg. right now with you, totally unplanned also. My husband and I had just moved from 1600 square feet house that we sold because we needed the money (to pay bills and for our 9 mos. old) to a 500 square feet hole in the wall and found out we too were preg. again, despite the precautions we took.

I've had a little more time to adjust than you and this is what I would suggest.

1) Remember that every child is a gift and this is a surprise, not a mistake!
2) Find a local organization that supports women in crisis or unexpected pregnacies. There is one near me (extreme north TX-Gainesville) that is called ABBA (All Babies Born Alive) that does medical visits, sonograms, preg. testing, gives vouchers, and donates baby gear, maternity wear and nutritional needs to moms and families who want the child born alive. It even has nurses and midwives on staff and offers a lot of referrals to family friendly drs in the area. It is not a religious organization, but is given aid by several local churches esp. the catholic churches (Catholics are anti-abortion), as well as individuals and other outside funding.
3) Don't stress about the size of your belly already. Like I said, I'm on my second preg. and you are on your second in 18 mos. Most women need AT LEAST a year for their womb to shrink back to it's previous size after preg. and for many women, it is more like 2 years+ or it will never be the same size. For that reason, you will show much earlier and be much larger with this one than before. I am a house compared to my first preg. I still have 12 weeks to go and am very close to the size I was 2 weeks prior to birth with my first child. Just try to eat healthy and don't worry about the rest. Your body knows when you need to eat!
4) Know that many, many people have had un-planned pregs. and many, many of these families turned out just fine. Yes, there is an initial shock, no lie, but remember that you are still fortunate to have what you have that some expectant mothers did not (a home, husband, food on the table, some income, etc) and you are not alone.
5) When you visit your dr, talk right away with the business office and set up some sort of financial service. Most baby drs. don't bill until the child is born except for any lab type work done in office. ALso, this being a medical bill (as opposed to credit cards, etc), as long as you pay something (and it is usually very minimal) EVERY MONTH, it can not be counted against you and you won't be charged any interest. Often, if you talk to the office and tell them you will pay cash, they will give you a significant discount. Just get all of your options up front and make sure they take your insurance. Every dr. I have ever had (for any med. reason) has worked well with this method.

Best wishes and remeber it will all be ok. You get through it no matter what. You never know how strong you are until you are tested. Then, once it is over, you wonder why you stressed so much.

Hope I helped!

Hi. I don't know much about your situation either, but there are places that can help at very low costs. You need to se a doc, especially becuase of the IUD. Planned Parenthood should be able to help, or call a local church (Catholic churches especially tend to have services for pregnancy in difficult situations). Send me a PM if you'd like. I don't know how much help I can be, but I'm glad to listen.

Sweetheart. I read your post and my heart broke for you. I am a mother of 4 children. A long road of travel and some way too close pregnancies but we are a long way down the road now. My Oldest is 18 and my youngest is 13. I am here if you need to talk. I will be an ear for you, and you can vent my way anytime. Please feel free to email me at ____@____.com and we can talk. I live in red Oak, Texas and if you need a friend, you have found one in me.
I will also give ya some advice about getting the pregnancy covered as well as going to a clinic as already been mentioned. I will even give you my phone number via Email or call you since we have unlimited LD in case it's LD. I help with phone support in another area, so feel free to vent... Your Friend, T.

I'm so sorry you are going through this but you need to get the IUD removed. I know you mentioned you don't have money to go to the doctor but you need to make sure that your pregnancy is not outside of the uterus (ectopic pregnancy). I've never used planned parenthood clinics but maybe you could call them and they could provide you with some medical advice.