Is It Too Soon for Sex

Updated on November 08, 2010
L.S. asks from West Mifflin, PA
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I had a baby three weeks ago and had a very easy delivery. i did not need an episiotomy and did not tear, so no stiches. I feel like I am ready to have sex again, but is it too soon?

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answers from Ocala on

TMI ( To Much Information ).

I would wait the six weeks for intercourse.
If the bleeding has stopped for you,
I would not wait to have oral sex with your husband.

So that's something to think about.

= )

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answers from St. Louis on

I too had a very easy delivery and we only waited 2 and a half weeks. I just made sure I was on top and didn't push it. (haha my hubby just said TMI!) :)

I didn't get an infection or have any other problems.

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answers from Chicago on

The general recommendation is six weeks to avoid infection. I had a c-section, so obviously no tearing either, but I would follow doctor's orders.

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answers from Seattle on

My doc's answer was that I was ready when I felt ready, and would know if that status changed... so just take it slow if I was unsure. (Yep, female doc).

Ditto no episiotomy, no tearing.

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answers from Rochester on

My doctor told me six weeks, but we never waited that long and she said as long as I was comfortable and had no pain it was fine. I think we waited about four after my first and maybe 4 1/2 weeks after our second. I would highly recommend a good lubricant just to make things more comfortable whenever you do that again and don't feel bad if you decide last-minute that it is not really a great idea (just be willing to do something else!). Honestly, those four weeks were some of the longest of our marriage, so I was very thankful I felt so good. I can't imagine having had to wait six! =)


answers from Allentown on

Hi, L.
Sex can mean anything.
Your body, mind, and spirit will be your guide.



answers from Scranton on

I had four kids and never made it past the 3 week mark with any of them. You also have to remember you can still get pregnant unless you use something. Your body can ovulate at any time. I never had any problems with starting back early;) But take things slow!



answers from New York on

I think the six week wait is to prevent infection. I waited because I did have stitches. Good for you for wanting to, I was so exhausted that was the furthest thing from my mind lol!!!



answers from Philadelphia on

I think you are supposed to wait until your six week checkup. I think I got to five weeks and could not take it anymore. I felt like I was ready. The only thing I would say is to make sure you use some form of birthcontrol so you are not pregnant when you go back for your checkup. You know your body better than any one else. Have fun. :-)


answers from Modesto on

It was 3 weeks for me, but I got pregnant right away again, so be careful ;)



answers from Charlotte on

It's a matter of making sure you don't get an infection. That's why the doctor recommends waiting. Perhaps you could give a call into the office and ask.



answers from Spokane on

Most Doctors give the generic 6 week rule to everyone. My midwife said I could go ahead as soon as I felt like it, as long as I wasn't bleeding still. Lucky for me, that was right about 3 weeks, and I never tore or had an episiotomy or anything. As a matter of fact, it only took about 3 days to feel "normal" down there again, which was amazing to me, because with my first baby, I couldn't even have intercourse at the 2 month mark. I did get pregnant though when my son was only about 7 weeks old, so make sure you're using some kind of prevention method. FYI---Breastfeeding (even exclusively) will NOT keep you from getting pregnant hahaha! I thought I was safe because of that, and boy was I wrong. Good luck with this.



answers from Provo on

of course the doctors say to wait the 6 weeks but I have also heard that if you are up to then go for it but nothing wild. Have FUN!!!



answers from Harrisburg on

What did your doctor tell you? The norm is 6 weeks, and there are reasons for that! The body needs time to get back to normal and rest after pushing a baby through there. It may feel just fine but you can't see inside. I've done the early thing with my second child and regretted it. It felt uncomfortable afterward. Some women claim they were fine. Some found it was too early. Why take a chance? Also, you don't want to take a chance on getting pregnant again so soon. There's no set time when you ovulate after giving birth.

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