Infertility or Just Not Regular?

Updated on June 02, 2008
K.M. asks from Shabbona, IL
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After being on BC for over five years, I stopped taking it a year ago. I knew I would be irregular for a while so I didn't think much of it when I would miss my period for a month. It happened in September and then showed up 3 days before my wedding! I passed it off as stress. I had my period regularly in October and November, but December it was gone again. I was looking for a new job, so I passed it of as stress again. On Jan. 13 I ended up in the ER with terrible abdominal pain.(the night before I was supposed to start work!) I found out I was pregnant even though I had taken a test 10 days before because I was donating blood and thought it wouldn't hurt to check. They did a ultrasound and said they saw the sac in the uterus and the radiologist ruled out ectopic. I did have a cyst on my left ovary, which was where the pain was so they sent me home. I was in terrible pain and went back Jan. 15 because I started bleeding. It didn't take them long to figure out something was wrong and I was in emergency surgery. It had been a tubal pregnancy and had ruptured. Thank God I went back! I lost almost a liter of blood and they had to remove my left tube. After the surgery I had my period regularly in Feb. and March, but now it's gone again! I was showing other signs of pregnancy (light-headed, slightly nauseous, clear discharge, constipated, mood swings but five tests were negative. I really felt like I was pregnant, but the Dr. did a blood test and said it was negative, but my progesterone was low. I've been taking Provera for 5 days and have five more days left on it. I still haven't got my period and it's been almost 10 weeks without it. Has anyone else had to take this medicine? My Dr. wasn't in the office, so I had talked to a nurse. She didn't say what kind of effects this will have. Will I have to take it to get pregnant now? Is this a precursor to fertility issues? Is the effects of the surgery just messing me up, but why would I have two regular periods between now and the surgery? Also has anyone had trouble with multiple tubals? I'm so scared something is going to happen to my other tube. Thanks for any advice. We haven't been trying to conceive, but we haven't been trying not to either. We would love to have a baby, but we should wait till I get better benefits at work.

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J.E.

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yes you nee to see a RE (reproductive endocrynologist to help you and I also would strongly advise a reproductive immnologist. there is a reason why you had a tubal, meant it was nt safe for the embryo to implant in the uterus. and the cysts and missing periods are poly cystic syndrom get to the Ri and Re. Let me know if you need names or nubmers etc.
good luck
J.

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N.S.

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When I started trying to get pregnant with my second child, I thought we got it right away because I missed my period and I NEVER did unless I was pregnant. I too took several pregnancy tests that came up negative and I had to take medication to bring my period back and make me regular again. I did not have to take anything else and was able to get pregnant after that, it took several months though but there weren't any problems. Good luck!

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S.O.

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How frustrating! Good job listening to yourself and your body. I'd like to recommend the book "Taking Charge Of Your Fertility", it helps you learn about your body's cycles. Talk with your doctor again. A reproductive endocrinologist is a good idea as well. My experience has been that I had to push them. What about this? What about that? Write down your questions when you go and write down their answers.

I did not have irregular cycles after going off BC, can I assume you had irregular cycles before? Just something to think about.

Good luck with everything.

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P.M.

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I'm so sorry for everything that you've been going through. When my husband and I were trying to get pregnant we were surprised at how hard it was. I am not regular at all and often miss periods for a month or so. I went to an OB to talk about fertility issues and he gave me a prescription for a lot of fertility drugs. I also started charting and learning more about my bodies personal way of functioning. I highly suggest charting because I chose not to take the drugs and I got pregnant 2 weeks later and am now 17 1/2 weeks along and things are going really well. Just a heads up I got pregnant on day 54 of my cycle. And the doctor was adament that unless I had a 28 day cycle I was not ovulating, and my hormone levels were all low. He was an idiot obviously! And if I didn't know my own body I wouldn't have known to tell the new doctor that I was probably only 2 weeks when i saw her not 2 months.

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A.B.

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Hi K.,
I am sorry for everything you are going through. I have a history of irregular periods and have been on Provera a few times. I always got my period within a day or two of finishing the 10 days of pills. I did not have any side effects with the Provera. I ended up in fertility to have my kids and I do think it is a good idea to consult with a fertility doc--it doesn't hurt to just sit down and talk. Good luck!

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K.O.

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Yikes, what a rollercoaster. I've had problems with my periods for years. I am a pretty classic case of polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS). Do a google search, and you'll find tons of stuff. I had to go through some of the rigamarole you went through but not to the extent of having tubals or anything like that. I can go 9 months without a period and took 1.5 years to conceive. I have recently learned a lot about natural products and have read some articles about toxins in personal care products affecting our fertility and specifically cited a huge increase in the rate of PCOS and infertility. It used to just affect women in their late 30s and up, and now it's affecting women in their early 20s as well. Something is going on, and it's not genetic, so they're looking at all of the chemicals we're bombarded with everyday to account for a lot of it. If you email me, I can send you some of the articles I'm talking about. If I were you, I'd try to back off some of the toxic stuff and go with more natural things. Also, some good nutritional support can give your body what it needs to put itself back on track.

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K.
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R.M.

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I highly recommend www.fertilityfriend.com to get your questions answered and the support you need.

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E.B.

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K.,

I would ask you doctor to do a blodd test for Polycistic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS) when I went off BC, we found out that's what was causing me to skip cycles. After going back on BC for a while, I was able to come off of it and get pregnant within 3 or 4 months.

Good luck!

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A.M.

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I would go for a consultation with a doc specializing in fertility issues ie a reproductive endocrinologist. I love my doctor - Dr. Kazar at Northwestern. the good news regarding tubal issues is that you don't have to have tubes to have children - obviously it is much more straightforward if you have them and they work well but today with all our great technology, you can still have a baby without them - via IVF. My sister has Crohn's disease and due to many surgeries, her tubes didn't work and she is having twins shortly via IVF. But to see what is going on with you, I would go to a specialist. If you need Dr. Kazar's contact details, email me or you can google him and find the contact info there. There are lots of other specialists in the chicago area as well. Personally, I don't like FCI as it is like a factory with so many patients. But some people love Dr. Kaplan there.
And take heart, modern medicine gives us all tons of options.

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L.K.

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I would not wait to see a fertility specialist to try and have children regardless of your insurance. One of the first symptoms of perimenopause is missed periods.This may not be your case but you should not wait to see a fertility specialist.He/she will be able to tell you exactly where you stand in regards to what help you and your husband need to get pregnant.Especially with your past medical experiences you would be in a safer situation if you are monitored by a doctor during the beginning of a pregnancy. hang in there.Good luck!

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T.R.

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Hi K.,
I think it's great that you're getting all this stuff checked out now before you're really ready to get pregnant. That being said, you mentioned the low progesterone. I too have low progesterone and just started taking clomid. It tripled my progesterone the first month (although I didn't get pregnant) so we know it worked. I'm skipping this month and then starting next month. Might be something to ask your doc about. If you or your husband has decent insurance, I would suggest going to see a fertility doc just to have an expert opinion. If you are not far from the Oakbrook area, I'd be happy to email you my dr's name and #. He is absolutely wonderful. Best of luck to you...I'm no stranger to "babies on the brain!" It will happen for you. Believe me :)

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L.W.

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If the doc did a blood test before he gave the script for provera, he would have know if you were pregnant or not. Your period will start after the full perscription of provera has been taken.

I am so sorry for what you have to go through. If you need support the ladies on the Nest Trouble Trying to Concieve(TTTC) board are fantastic, as is the Pregnancy Loss board(PL). Here are the links. I hope a successful pregnancy is soon to come!

TTTC: http://boards.thenest.com/boards/ShowForum.aspx?ForumID=425

PL: http://boards.thenest.com/boards/ShowForum.aspx?ForumID=426

I also saw a pp suggested Taking Charge of Your Fertility. That is a wonderful book. You can also chart your cycles online with fertilityfriend.com. PM me if you have any question about fertility friend; I've been charting for over a year now.

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A.B.

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I have had to take Provera - I don't remember any side effects. It didn't consistently start my period at the same date. You could look into the book - Taking Charge of My Fertility - it has a lot of helpful information about a woman's body and how to chart to find out your most fertile time. I used the charting for 6 months and then took the information to the doctor. That way we were able to make a plan right away versus being sent home to do charting prior to medical intervention.

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W.W.

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Hi K.,

i know that this must be just driving you crazy. First let me tell you a little of my history. I am a endometriois sufferer. I started going thru some of the very same problems that you're experiencing now. Because i did not have a+ insurance. I got the run around for about 15 years, before i found a doctor who was willing to look pass that i didn't have good insurance and that (i'm an african american female) you see they normally think were all just a bunch of (whores-who have slept with the world and now full of disease so they won't help us!) but, i thank god for the doctor who did help me and my color didn't matter. Enough of that now let's help you!!! It sounds to me that you may very well be developing endometriois, but, because a lot of doctor's who aren't specialist don't really know anything about it, you could go on for years without any help. Don't let this happen to you i don't want to see you or any woman, suffer like i did.

1st you need to do some things for your self to make you healthier ok. Start taking a daily dose of folic acid, this will help with reproduction and nuture your eggs. No stress, no stress, limit your walking to a minuimun, no lifting any objects over two pounds, no more than 5-6 stair climbing. Eat healthly, no over aggressive lovemaking and tell hubby only loose boxer shorts from now on ok.. There is a group called fertility lifelines, you'll be able to get a lot of helpful info and dr recommendations from them ok. Here's their email address www.fertilitylifelines.com. K. i suffered a long time. I got married at 27, we wanted to start a family right away, but it just didn't happen. But their is a god in heaven who heard our prayers and answered and sent us to dr. Robert springer, expert in infertility and endometriosis who took great care of me. Performed a mircale surgery and now i'm almost 43 and a proud mom of a beautiful girl-8 and a wonderful set of very busy identical twin boys-6. God bless you and your husband. An if you don't mind, i'm going to keep the two of you in my daily prayers. All i ask is that when the mircale happens, please let me know, my name is W.. I truly do pray that this info helps you!!!!!!!

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S.E.

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For 6 years my husband and I tried having a baby. I had such irregular periods that I thought I would never get pregnant but we finally said we are going to do something about this. I had been without a period for 6 months and I asked to have move tests done. Finally when it came down to the day they were going to check my tubes for blockages. I went into the hospital and before doing this test they have to give a pregnancy test. I found out that I was pregnant. I asked how could that be I have not had my period for 6 months. She said just because you did not have visible period doesn't mean you did not ovulate. To this day I don't quite understand that we could have bought an ovulation kit at the store to check when and when I was not ovulating. I did not know that know I do.
I also was heavier when we got married than when I got pregnant. She said weight for some women plans a big part in the success of getting pregnant.
I know it is tough when you would like a baby and month after month the test is negative but keep trying. Just trying can be a lot of fun.
Sorry I can't help about the medication you are taking.

S.

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