In Desperate Need of Advice!

Hi J.,
My husband and I are working on an interesting business project. We really could use a business associate to meet some simply business requirements. This may or may not be for you but if you're available for a 30 minute overview Monday 3/5/07 @ 7:30 pm please let me know. We can do this over the phone.

Give me a call @ ###-###-####.

~M.

J.,

Awhile back someone posted this website for a customer service job from home. I know I saw something about this on TV one time. There are a bunch of companies that allow you do take customer service calls for them from your home.

Here is one of them:

http://www.workathomeagent.com/

If I find the other ones I will post them.

L.

where do you live check your department of human service some places help with childcare

Hi J., as alot of others have said already ... some of us have been there :( I was in a situation similar - but I had just started nursing school and was working full time - it was tough! My parents helped me get thru by watching my kids when I worked and filling in as a parent. I think that was the hardest for me - not really being there for them. I got thru it and so will you :) Sometimes we are faced with many trials in our lives - but thru those trials - we become stronger. I work with a home business company that you could try if you like. You dont need to travel - you can do this from home - if you would like to know more about this, send me a message and we will see how it can work for you. Most importantly, J. dont give up - you are stronger than you think - I believe God will not give us more than we can handle, and he is always there to see us thru. You have alot of support on this site - you will succeed:)

Easy as pie. First, government assistance is there for a reason. Go tommorow and file for everything you can. Food Stamps, Medical for your baby, and perhaps a housing voucher. Sign up for Sect. 8. Unless you are in the city of Chicago, the Sect. 8 will be easy. Also, file for child support. You would be surprised what they will pay for. Next, I would look for a job. Walk into any department store and start filling out paperwork. Or, go into a temp agency and they could place you. Perhaps that temperary job could turn into a permanant one. I think government assistance is there for a reason. Use it to get on your feet. It will work out! Make a plan and execute it!

If you don't mind sharing, where are you living (city)?? From there, we (the members of mamasource) may be able to give a little more guidance....

Keep your chin up and your smile bright....I was in a similar situation about 8 years ago....and guess what??? I'm married, had 2 additional children and am very happy!!!! Don't let this "bump" in the road bring you down.....Like the old saying goes..."Things happen for a reason"!

If God brings you to it, he'll get you through it!!!

Just BELIEVE!!!

Hi J.,
I totally understand your situation, but don't rule out the one thing that definately needs to be put into play quickly...CHILD SUPPORT! If he is working get to filing girl! And J. I know people are reluctant to give you this type of advise but there is truly nothing wrong with applying for State ASSISTANCE. They will even help you get the child support rolling. This is only to ASSIST you until you get on your feet. A lot of people tend to make a living on this, (I don't know how, but they do)That's not your goal. Use if for what it's for only for temporary assistance. I was a single mom before and I had to go on it for a year after my first marriage. It really helped me with food and medical expenses and cash, They will even help you to get daycare at a little or NO COST to you. i.e in 1991 I paid a liscensed daycare provider $1.25 per month!! Yes ONE DOLLAR AND A QUARTER!! It's assistance and that's what it's there for Jess, so don't be ashamed to explore that as an option until you can stand on your own. I hope this helps. warm regards,
L.

Hey Jess. I'm 24 and I'm not with my son's dad either. I was living at home with my parents too. Before you stress out - you gotta make sure that the "father" is in the picture. He made that child just as much as you and just because he doesn't have sole custody doesn't mean that gets him off the hook, ya know? Don't stress yourself about something alone that he needs to help with, too. You have to work, he has to work, you both have bills etc etc... he needs to own up and put forth 100%. Don't let him NOT do that girlie!!
What about your folks? Have you talked to them about THEIR help? It doesn't have to be a lot - just, like you said, something to help you get on your feet.

Secondly, the state has SOOOO many programs for single moms that can help you out. Depending on where you live (county wise I mean) You can get tons of help with day care while you work, and WIC (food, milk etc), state help, free medical insurance... the list goes on...

Do some research and check it out. It's well worth it. I needed time to get on my feet too. But I was 19 when I had my handsome son... I just needed a little support and some guidance. Well five years later, myself AND my son are doing great! His father's in his life and sees him all the time, we have a great relationship. But it took some time.
And I feel even better because I know that I can make it without anybody else now. And that's a great feeling!

J., let me know if you need any more help... I've been there. I'll help out in any way I can. I've got tons of info. If you're looking for any job ideas - I have some for you too. It's how I got started. Wish ya SUPER good luck with everything!!!!
Kim

I am a mother of three and at one point of my life I had to move in with someone while I got on my feet it was very hard and I've cried and prayed many nights. What I would suggest is that you if possible find a part time job and try to get child care initiative to help with the daycare I know it is hard putting your baby in a daycare but if you have no other chose you have to do what you have to do, and as far as no car use public transportation. I don't know the extent of your situation with money (I know that you said you don't have any) but they do have employment classes where they will give you public transportation cards to travel if it is used to find employment. A little bit about myself I am 27 years of age with three children and me and their dad split for two years straight and I had to do things on my own even though he gave me a little money to help with our children. I still had to find a way to pay for a lot of things (food, clothes, babysitter, etc.....) including paying the person I was staying with and I didn't have a car either. There are many different programs out there that can help you out on some of the things you are having problems with. I don't know what area you live in but my point is that you may not see it right now but you will eventually get on your feet you just have to find your inner strength to do it for your child and start seeking help within the government programs, that's what they are there for.

where do you live? I am sure your parents dont mind if you stay with them to get on your feet. Is your mom at home? or working? She can help watch your son, while you apply for jobs. You can then be searching for child care homes that have any openings. If your in my area, I would love to help you in this catagory.

Baby steps and take one day at a time. You and your son will be just fine.

S.
Maple Hill Farm Daycare
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I found myself in the same position 1 year ago and am still in the same spot. My best advice is to accept that it will take time and not get discouraged. I truly thought that I would be on my own in a few months, but for the same reasons you are experiencing, I am still with my parents. I took out a loan and got through a medical assisting program, only to find that there aren't any part-time positions so that I can work and still take care of my daughter. Without money to pay for care, it is very difficult to get a full-time job so that you can make money- quite the "Catch-22", huh. Just do the best you can and be as upbeat and positive as possible for your son to see.

I experience the same situtation that you are facing. I was expecting my second child when I left my husband and had a daughter that was 15 months old at the time. I had no money, no job and I was living with my parents. While I was pregenant I look for a job everyday on the internet. I would talk to other parents when I would go for my prenatal visit. Through them I learned about Child Care assistance, Department of Human services that offer free child care while you enroll in job training programs. Today My children are age 3 and 2 I'm working full-time and they are enrolled in daycare. I went from receiving food stamps and a medical card to full-time job with benefits. Remember there's always light and the end of tunnel. Stay encourage.

Wow! Well, I would take one issue at a time. You have to crawl before you walk.

Can you find a way to make money at home? Maybe babysitting? Or maybe a job at a daycare center? Temporary until you can sock some money away or find something else that you really like.

Car and apartment - can come after some time. If you are on a timetable (parents give you a deadline), can you get a roommate? Another single mom who has similar needs (childcare and transportation issues).

It's alot easier to work in tandem with someone else than trying to do it all by yourself.

Good luck.

Hi J.

Have you tried your local church? I don't want to preach but i was there, and I found out that the Lord never leaves you, although people do leave you. (not all of them, mind you.)

Try reading the book of John in the bible. Willow Creek is great for helping out.

I will pray for you. If you want to talk, go ahead and email.

hugs,
L. K.

HI! MY NAME IS DELA AND I BEEN A SINGLE MOM ALL MY LIFE SO DO NOT WORRY WHERE EVERY YOU LIVE IT IS A PROGRAM THAT PAYS FOR YOU SITTER TO WATCH YOUR CHILD THEY WILL EVEN PAY YOUR MOM E.T.C IT IS CALLED DEPARTMENT OF HURMAN SERVICE find out from them every thing you need to know and if you do decide to put the baby in a daycare please for me make sure that they will treat your child thee same love you give and get back with me on this to let me know and you can pull them up on thee website they have a listing for your city and if you lived here in chicago I COULD give you thee information for help for you and your little child. GOD BLESS! REMERBER GOD KNOWS ALL ABOUT YOUR PROBLEM. NOW HE WANT YOU TO DEPEND ON HIM FOR EVERYTHING.

Hi J.-

I am so sorry to hear of your sad news. That has got to be a very dificult situation (all the way around)

Well- I work full time and I have a part time job- I am an advisor for lia sophia jewelry part time- I do it on weekends and weeknights. Considering you have nobody to watch your son during the day this could work to your advantage. I make between $100-$300 per show. I try and do 2-3 per week so my weekly paychecks are pretty decent. Here is my website. Feel free to look it over and if you have any questions please feel free to call me. www.liasophia.com/jackiehugelier The start up cost is $149. With that you get over $1000 in jewelry and supplies, enough to start you off with at least 6-10 shows. The start up can be put on a credit card and I promise that you will pay it back with your first show and have it paid before you even get the bill in your hand- The average show is $705.00. So if you meet the avg. your first check would be $211.00- I hope this information helps you and I wish you the very best of luck!

Jackie

HI J.,

Wow, your situation really is hard. Have you thought about working in a daycare? I am a teacher myself. Daycares make it a little easier for moms. They usually offer discounts on childcare for teachers. This way you can start yourself out and see what happens from there. Be careful of the chains though (Kindercare, Children's World, TutorTime, etc), they tend to pay less and offer less of a discount to employees. Find an independent proprietor. For example, I work for an independently owned center where they offer us $100 per week per child for daycare. I feel also that because the owners get to know you, they are more empathetic to the needs of their teachers and are more willing to work with you. I really hope this all helps. Good Luck to you.