Imaginary Friend??? - West Monroe,LA

Updated on November 12, 2012
H.D. asks from West Monroe, LA
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My son is 3 years old. He does not go to school right now or daycare. I have a daughter that is almost 2 and they are with each other alll the time. They are like best friends. My daughter went to stay the week with her father and his wife for a week. The other night my son came and told me that "Colby" was in my room jumpin on my bed. I asked him who "Colby" was and he just jabered on. I recently was watching My little terror the other night and a little boy on there could see dead people. I don't know if ya'll Believe in stuff like this, I don't know if I do either. My brother in law came over one day and I was telling him about it and he asked my son were "Colby" was and my son pointed in my room and said, "in there". That kinda freaked me out I'm not gonna lie. He didn't say anything else bout "Colby" the rest of the night so I completly forgot about it. He went and stayed with my sister and brother in law and she had told me when they put him to sleep he was in the room talking so they went and asked him who he was talking to and he again said it's "Colby". I don't know what to think. My son is pretty much scared of alot of things and he don't seem to be scared. I don't know what to think. Can lttle kids that's younge have a imginary friend?

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answers from Pittsburgh on

It's perfectly normal for little kids to have imaginary friends. My son's preschool class actually shared one. His name was 'Imaginary Bob'. This did make it pretty clear to the parents that he was imaginary. My son (6) still uses Bob occasionally when he needs a competitor in a race/game and he is alone. Sadly, Bob NEVER wins anything.

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answers from Portland on

It's normal and common for kids to have imaginary friends. I would not be concerned about this. It's a stage and will pass. Just a note, tho, that my 9 yo grandson has several imaginary friends with whom he outwardly talks and plays. Because my grandson has Aspergers as well as some learning disabilities he is seen by a developmental pediatrician who says that this is Ok and not a reason for concern. Most kids stop with the imaginary friends earlier than this.

I suggest, since you mention that he's afraid of alot of things that making up friends may be his way of dealing with his fears. Even adults often "talk" with people such as friends and relatives who've died. A child doesn't have the experience or vocabulary to describe what they're doing in terms that adults would understand. They don't yet understand the difference between imaginary and real.

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answers from Chicago on

My son has a pretend friend(he's seven). He'd be having a rather interesting discussion, and I'd ask him who he's speaking to, and he'd tell me, "My pretend friend, who'd a really good friend when there's nobody but me."

He's had his friend since he was three, so that's about right. Sometimes it's good to have a sounding board for your ideas and thoughts, and "pretend friend" is perfect. Sometimes I ask him if I can borrow his "pretend friend" to help me with something. It does wonders with communication.

Hugs to you Mama!

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answers from Washington DC on

I wouldn't worry too much about it. My DD named her foot Jack. Kids are weird.

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answers from New York on

My son had an imaginary friend from 3 1/2 to 4 1/2. There is no ghost. Totally normal.

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answers from Washington DC on

it's totally normal. When my daughter was 2 she had Nala from the lion king as her imaginary friend. Nala went everywhere with us. She would talk to her, play with her, sleep with her. One day we were in the car and she yelled "Nala just jumped out of the car!". She never came back. My daughter was totally fine with it and even waved to her as we drove off. That was the end of Nala, lol!
With your son having an imaginary friend just means that he has a big imagination and that means that he is very smart :)

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answers from Austin on

Normal behaviors... I had an imaginary friend named Jimmy.

We would hold hands. He would take baths with me. He sat next to me at the table. I had to remind my mom to put a plate down for him and a cup of milk.
We played together. He stayed home while I went to nursery school, but he was always happy to see me when I came home.

My mom also had to give him a kiss at night.

One day my mom put the plate of food down for Jimmy and i told her, "Jimmy is not here any more."

I do not recall really seeing him, but i remember I really felt like he was there.

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answers from Chicago on

My daughter had two imaginary friends from 21 months to about 3. Perfectly normal stuff.

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answers from Houston on

My son did not have an imaginery friend but my sister and I did. Her name was Robin and she lived on the side of our house (outside!). Duh us... lol


answers from New Orleans on

My 5 year old daughter had her "imaginary" friend a few weeks back. We(husband and I) was dropping my half brother off at school and as soon as we drop him off our 5 year old daughter came out and said she talk to her friend last night in her bedroom. Of course my husband freaks out with all that I kinda laugh at myself. I ask her whats her friends name. "Sarah!"
I ask her when she talk to Sarah? Last night ? Yeah,she said. Before or after her sister(her and her 6 year old sister shares a room) went to asleep? After, she said. I ask her what "sarah" looks like? She said pink hair and yellow dress. Her sister said, "kinda like the toothfairy?" Yea, she said. She never said what they talk about. That was a one time thing. My daughter has a imaginary She free going and off in her own It depends if she actually saw anything or if she was "dreaming" and dream about this "sarah" person or made it up. Who knows!!

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