Im PG 14 Mos Clean and Dont Want Cps to Take My Newborn

Not only do you need to be clean but you need to provide a safe, stable home for these children. Love is simply not enough. Can you do this?

I think adoption is one of the least selfish, loving acts a mother can do for her child(ren).

Best of luck!

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Because CPS is involved with your children talk with the caseworker to learn what plan CPS has for your baby.

If you want to have your older children returned to you, you will continue to work with CPS. They will know you've given birth and will be involved with the baby to ensure the baby is safe and we'll cared for. If you move out of the state and don't return you'll lose the other 3 children. Is that what you want. Going to a different county will not help you keep the baby. In fact, leaving your county without telling your caseworker makes it more likely they will remove your baby.

You said everyone is against you. Have you asked yourself why that is and what you can do to to change the situation? I adopted my daughter from CPS. CPS tried to work with her mother so they could return her child home. They tried for 3 years before the court took away her parental rights. CPS wants to return your children. They are trained to work with families and have the children reunited with their family.

Because you asked this question, I suggest you are not getting help because you are not doing what CPS and the court is asking you to do. Once children are in the court system parents have to do everything the worker and the judge says. Everything! Parents must let the caseworker know everything about their lives that affects the children. Asking, us instead of your caseworker, how you can keep your baby tells me that you are not working with your caseworker. The only way to keep your baby is to be open and honest with your worker showing that you are able to provide a stable home for your baby; that you understand what your baby needs and are able to provide those things for him.

maybe don't get pregnant again until you've got your life together to the point you can get your other children back?

i'm no fan of CPS, but if they've intervened and taken your 3 kids, it must be pretty dire. if they're 'against' you, there's a reason. foster care sucks, but so do some parents.

what have you done to convince the authorities that this baby SHOULDN'T be taken from you and given a safe place to live and the hope for a life that isn't dangerous and dire?
khairete
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I have no idea if this is real or not....
If you have lost custody of ALL THREE of your kids I have to think you were messed up. Maybe still are.
Why in the WORLD would you let yourself get pregnant again? Without custody of your children? How do you think they feel? "Oh great! Mom was a total drug/alcohol addict and the state took us away. NOW, she is replacing us with another baby because she has been clean for 14 months. Great. She can forget about us and move on."
Get your sh!t together. Go to meetings. Go to counseling. Go to all of your visits (I hope you weren't SO messed up that they took visitation away from you). Educate yourself, go to school. FIGHT for these children that did not asked to be born into your selfish messed up world. Show them that you love and care for them.
Unless you have lost custody without the chance of getting them back. Which would be sad....for them....to have been dealt such a sh!tty hand.
L.

P.,

Welcome to mamapedia!!

There was another mom on here who had her kids taken away by CPS.
http://www.mamapedia.com/questions/8181556688822992897

I'm sorry that you are paranoid. You have THREE children already and pregnant with another one??? I'm sorry - but you need to stop having children. After you have this baby? I would STRONGLY suggest that you get your tubes tied.

No one is AGAINST you - that's paranoia talking. WHY do you have that paranoia?? Why did you change your location from Prescott to Rochester?

You need to grow up. You need to take accountability for your actions. You run away from this? You will lose all of your children (your other post about having a baby in another county - sorry CPS is STATE WIDE).

You shouldn't be thinking that CPS is all against you.
They are all FOR your children and they are trying to help you see what's best for them.
When you can see what's best for them - then you and CPS will be on the same side.
Have your tubes tied right after this next child is born and do what you have to do to get your kids back.

P., you are brand new to Mamapedia and we know nothing about you. You have 2 related questions but you posted them separately, and neither one has anywhere near the amount of information that people would need to give you advice. Please eliminate one question (you can't delete it, but you can remove the content and the title, leaving the whole thing blank), combine the information into the remaining one, and add a whole lot more detail. I understand you may be protecting your privacy but there is just not enough here for anyone to even begin to hazard a guess. Good luck.

Here's what is going to happen. If you are following the plan they have for you in your court papers AND you and the baby test clean at that baby's birth then they might not take it.

You can't go anywhere else and have the baby and keep it. If you do go somewhere else they will find out and come take the baby because you tried to evade them.

You need to ask your worker what their plan is. You have to look at it like this. Their job is to reunite the family. That's their goal. They want YOU to do all the work and they want to do nothing.

YOU need to do every single thing on that court plan, go to counseling, go to meetings, get your own place and pay your bills. Stay CLEAN. Stay SOBER. Do not go out with friends, stay home and be a good little mom. Do the psych evaluation because that's their loophole. That's the way they catch everyone. If you are required to do a psych eval and it's not covered by your insurance you have to figure out a way to get that cash and pay for it. Then of course they will accuse you of all sorts of things and want you to prove how you paid for it. Then they'll use that against you, that you can't pay your own bills.

It's the one thing they do to keep your kids and adopt them out.

If you are truly clean and working on your life then you need to find out from your attorney what you need to do to keep this from happening. They should look you in the eye and say "xxxxxxxx". This is what YOU need to do to get your kids back. If your attorney isn't working for you then you need to request another attorney through the courts. You are entitled to a good attorney that will work for you.

Reread Marta's advice.