We got married in 1995 and divorced in April 2006. I left him finanally in Nov, 2005. But 2 weeks after our divorce we got back together. Now I want to leave him and never turn back. but 2 weeks ago when I told him this, he threatened that if I go, that he will get custody of the kids. He says I can't even watch and keep our three year old out of the street. He happened to excape and followed our older son down the street. I'm a great mommy, but he was trying to use that against me. How can I protect myself? I have already filed and been granted costody of them, in March 2005. Can he really do this? I want to leave him, but I don't want to lose the kids. thanks for your advice.
This morning he asked me what my problem was and I told him, that I didn't know of what to say. So he told me to take my "stuff" and get the "he l l" out of here. I told but the kids come with me. He says he has proof that they can't. I told him yes they can, because I have custody of them. Since March 2005. So I have to go and I'm taking the kids.
intimadation is a terrible thing that only weak people use and usually because of guilt. you you want to leave, leave. If you read my story you will see I understand intimidation. It makes you feel horrible and scared. By what you said I see no reason why he should get the child(ren) but always be on guard, document everything.. I hope this helps. You are not alone...
If you're worried about his threat to take custody of your children, I suggest you definitely have a consultation with a family lawyer and discuss the whole situation.
They can advise you legally with your needs in mind.
Hi Holly,
From what you just explained, I don't see how he can take your boys away from you since you have a full custody for them.
When did your little one escape and ran after his brother, was it after or before you were granted the custody for your kids?
If it was before, then there is no way your husband is going to change that.
Does he have a proof of you being negligent with your boys? Are there any complaints from neighbours, teachers, police, social workers about your being a bad mother?
I believe those might be the factors for the custody to be revoked.
Good luck,
You should do what's best for your boys. Divorce should be a last resort unless you're in an dangerous abusive situation. If you're arguing over custody, both of you must love the kids. You at least have THAT in common.
No he cant really do that! You are already divorced...everything you want has already been given to you by the state of...wherever it is you live.... All you need to do now is find a new apartment, move in and do not give him the address. You left him once, you can do it again...dont give in to his idle threats....he makes these because he has NOTHING ELSE!
good luck
Holly, I have been told what your being told. My ex threatened to get custody but he never even started the process. I was so fearful that I let it consume me. Your ex will have to show proof, solid proof that you're an unfit mother. And I'm sure that's impossible. So take a deep breathe and try to relax. The best thing to do now is to leave him because if you're not in a healthy relationship than that can affect your kids. Good luck
If you already have custody then he would have to take you back to court in order to get custody, plus he would have to prove you an unfit mother and it would take much more than that.
let us know what is going on and that you are safe. if you have custody and then move back in you are probably not making a good case for yourself. If you have custody get out and get a restraining order. you have to be able to show you feel threatened, and then prove it. My girl friend cried wolf but never followed through. Everything you say maybe true but it has ro be backed up too. It is only fair to you and the kids...
Not over that. See a lawyer, quietly, without telling him, and have a candid discussion with that lawyer about your options.
