I’m going to get straight to the point
I’m a mother of three; I’m always so busy with the kids sports and school actives. I had my little girl 7 months ago and I have been trying to lose the weight, when I was 8months I weigh about 200lbs. Embarrassing, but I did and even had my daughter a month early. Well as soon as I got home from the hospital my husband was, very enthusiastic about me getting back into the gym and my zumba classes.
I was excited too, so as soon as I felt well enough and the doctor said it was ok I started on my gym routine. 5am gym for an hour, take the kids to school, get ready for work, take the baby to the sitter and then off to work (maybe 3xs a week tried doing 5 but doesnt always happen). Well needless to say my weight feels like it’s not coming off, I’m feeling so disappointed and just upset. What’s not helping is when I needed a little encouragement and I kind of felt my cloths fitting lose my husband said I still look pregnant and he could not see the difference. Now that was about a week maybe two weeks ago. Then just last night my husband and I were looking though some of our old pictures and he told me I looked so pretty in these pictures and I felt really good until he finished his sentence and said it was because I was 80lbs lighter. And to make matters worse today at work one of the nurses touched my stomach and asked if I was pregnant. OMG!!!! I don’t know if I wanna laugh or Cry at this point.. Has anyone else gone through this, I’m just feeling so low right now :(
Honestly THANK YOU ladies, this is the kind of talk I needed.. Im feeling better I think I just had a moment, And Im going to keep trying and look into getting a personal trainer..Thanks Ladies <3
Consult your doctor, and or a nutritionist or get a personal trainer. I say this because it seems you WANT to loose the weight.
You can also talk to your husband about how his comments are hurting vs helping and could even be causing you to retain the weight due to depression.
First of all tell your husband to bite me. Second keep on with your gym routine and watch your diet. Drink lots of water,and cut out the junk. After my third the weight was the hardest to lose and it took until she was around 18 months but I am back to the same weight I was in high school. With that being said I have cometo peace that my tummy will never look the same again. Good luck
Well, my youngest is almost 3 and I haven't lost all the baby weight and I feel like sometimes, especially after I eat, I still look pregnant. So...I'm with you!!! :)
Putting our feelings aside, one of the biggest hurdles in weight loss is stress. There's a bunch of science behind it, and chemical whoop-te-doo, but basically if your body is stressed you don't produce the right chemicals or too much of the wrong ones...and it causes your body to hang onto extra weight, thinking you need it. Relaxation is key. Your schedule sounds very full!
Changing your eating habits is also crucial. Making smart choices and watching portion control are critical. You can start by examining what you are eating (be ruthless...write it all down, every day, for a week, with the calorie and fat content.) and begin to substitute healthier choices. You can also use a smaller plate, and not go back for seconds. When I first started looking at what I was eating a few years back, I was incredibly surprised when I added it all up. Adding up all the sugar in my coffee, all the tortillas alongside my healthy chicken, etc, etc...too much!! Also, if you drink soda, cut it out completely...water, water, water!! :)
I'm sorry about your husband...you need to tell him that making you sad and self-conscious only makes you want to eat more, like Momma W said, and maybe he will stop. Men can also be dolts and not realize how truly sensitive we women are about weight. I think my husband would prefer I stay 40 lbs overweight. ;)
Don't know what kind of exercise you are doing, but don't discount the value of simply walking. After my first child, I wasn't loosing the weight...and when she was three, I quit drinking pop, started eating a bowl of cereal at night instead of any other snack, and going for a walk every day...sometimes a mile, sometimes four. Within three months, I lost 30 lbs, and felt great...and it was just those few simple changes. It's starting to finally get warm out, I'm finally done nursing, and I'm ready to do it again!! I'm with you, sister!
Tell your husband his comments make you want to wring his neck,cry and then eat a gallon of ice cream...so the comment does not help the situation...only backfires.
Ask him to encourage you by holding your hand as you go for a walk together in the evenings.
You are aware of your situation....and tell him you are working on it and could use his support. Often when we feel empowered,supported and sexy then we want to do more to help ourselves.
No..I have not gone through this but I sympathize with you and want to give you some support. Keep doing what you are doing by going to the gym and doing ZUMBA. Get a personal trainer that will be your personal cheerleader and help you target the areas you really need work on. Drink a ton of water and I mean a ton, try walking more throughout your day. Can you go for a walk during your lunch break at work...get a couple other ladies to stroll with you? This is not just because walking is good for your body but it is good for your mind. And, when you are trying to lose weight..any lift of endorphines is a good thing.
Good luck and best wishes.
Buy yourself a pedometer and walk. Make a goal to walk X,000 steps every day.
http://www.thewalkingsite.com/10000steps.html
Walking is the best exercise for every day when you can't get to the gym.
On gym days, cardio, cardio, cardio.
Also, consider talking to your doctor about a nutritionist and any other help they can offer.
I still look absurdly pregnant and I only have about 20, maybe a little more to loose to be back to where I was before getting pregnant.
A lot of my pot belly is damaged ab muscles I think. My third child decided to spend a very large part of the third trimester sideways, with her back tucking up under my rib cage. All the exercises I had done with my first 2 made things worse because it was a whole different set of muscles and a whole different kind of damage. I stopped doing what I had done with my other 2 and started a different exercise plan and I'm finally making progress. I've lost 15 lbs from my highest so far and while I still look pregnant it's getting better.
It's possible that you need to change up what you're doing.
Your husband needs some sensativity training. Sounds like you have a very hectic schedule, so unless you are over eating or binge eating while doing all the running around and household work, I think you should be easier on yourself.
Keep exercising, drink the right amount of water, cut out as much sugar (if not all) that you can. Watch your daily portions and one day a week give yourself a "special treat"....eat what ever you want in small portions....this includes any alcoholic beverages.
Oh, and lastly, ask your husband to join you in your quest and be supportive instead of making mean comments.
That's no way for your husband to talk to the mother of his children.
When he can push 5-10 lbs of child out through his loins (3 times over, no less) he can talk.
For right now he needs to shut his mouth until his brain engages.
Are you done breast feeding?
If not, you're still eating for two - so dieting is not recommended (although you can cut out junk food and empty calories).
If you are done breast feeding, then start a food diary (My Fitness Pal, Spark People , etc - there are are lot of good free ones out there) and count calories for everything that goes in your mouth.
Be sure to drink eight 8 oz glasses of water per day.
If you can keep to no more than 1200 calories per day, you might be able to lose roughly 1 - 2 lbs per week - which is a safe rate to lose weight.
I saw my doctor and started this beginning of last Dec and I'm down by 40+ lbs.
I've got a long way to go, but I'm making progress.
I try to walk for 30 min 3 times a week.
Exercise is good for you in so many ways, but it's never helped me to lose weight.
My daughter is two years old, I've lost all the baby-weight from her, and I still look pregnant. I agree with Katrina that I blame damaged ab muscles. I'm working on losing weight the healthy way, and praying the tummy will go away eventually (but we're considering Baby #3, so I doubt it will happen right away). Talk to a trainer or your doctor about exercises specifically for new moms. Good luck!
I'm so sorry--I am still carrying an extra 50 lbs from my pregnancies--and am pregnant right now. I eventually want to lose about 90 lbs.
Have you adjusted your eating habits? Visited a nutritionist? Tried Weight Watchers? WW is the most effective way I have found to lose weight. As soon as I have my next baby (in 23 weeks...) I am re-starting WW and will be exercising 4 days/week once I get the clearance from my doctor. Food is the most important factor in weight loss. 90% of weight loss is from your diet--10% is exercise. Once you reach your goal weight, 10% is the diet, and 90% is the exercise.
Your baby is less than a year old. Weight doesn't just melt off the way it seems to for celebrities, who are genetic anomalies and who have personal trainers and nutritionists at their beck and call.
I think people have unrealistic expectations about what women ought to look like during pregnancy and immediately following delivery, let alone 7 months and a year following delivery.
You are still recovering from pregnancy, labor, and delivery. Read that sentence again. What you should do is talk to your doctor and discuss appropriate ways of getting back into shape and hooking you up with a nutritionist. You need to be sure that you're building back up your stores of nutrients and recovering from the damage pregnancy did on your body.
