I Love to Dance

Hi,
I am a mother of 3, my oldest girl is 6, my son is 3 and my baby girl is 14 months. Let you kids be kids! Just b/c they want to do ballet, or cheerleading, doesn't mean they are "naked". God knows all and sees all! Do you allow her to listen to Radio Disney? It is 100 percent kid friendly. I am sorry, but you want your kids to be kids right? I think you need to stop being so conservative. Life only happens once, so enjoy it while you can! M.

I try to stay away from religious talk because I tend to make people angry. However, please don't give your little girl a bad and naughty image of her body and I have a really hard time believing that God wouldn't love to sit back and watch a beautiful ballet! If you find something, great. If not, please don't deny her completely! Your amazing love and support is all she needs to stay on the straight and narrow, no matter what dance she performs. Sorry if I upset anyone, I really just wanted to say my peace.

I had to response to this. I think it wrong to teach your daughter that naked is bad. She is child and she came out of the womb naked - that is how God creates us. You are going to cause her to feel shameful about her body and that is not right.

As for dance, there is nothing wrong with ballet, jazz, or tap. They are classical forms of dance, especially ballet. Ballet is performed to mostly clasical music - I can't see how classical music, with no words, could be considered "sinful". I took 6 years of dance as child - it was great fun!

first if your daughter wants to express herself through dance- that is so great. if you don't want her to listen to certain music, thats fine- you are the parent. you can still dance to christian pop music. my problem with your statement was the naked part........ being dressed with little and being naked is two very different things. you are showing your daughter how much you dislike several types of dances because of the clothing or the music. there is nothing wrong- god isn't going to cast you to hell- from jazz, ballet, or tap!!!! dance can be a beautiful thing, i know that you know that. but if you are going to be this stricked about dance- watch out when she becomes a teenager!!!!

I too try to incorporate God and his teachings into my everyday live and my childrens. It is important to teach good values but it is also important to not sheild your child from reality. It is the way people view things that make them sexual or not. The bible says that you don't need clothing and Adam and Eve didn’t have clothing until they eat from the forbidden fruit. It is sin and evil that make us see a body as a sexual imagine instead of a masterpiece god created. If we all were like God then we could walk around naked and not have a problem with it but it is sin that makes guys see a breast and flip out. I don't let my children lisen to music with swearing in it or sexual content or other unsuitable stuff but they watch the wiggles all of the time which isn't religious but great music to dance to. You need to let your children be well rounded otherwise they will end up being teenagers that go wild from all of the restraints you put on them. I was a part of a youth group when I was a teenager and I can tell you the more religious the parents the more bad stuff the children did from sex to drugs. I love the beauty of ballet, the way your body can move like its floating, god made us so beautiful and you should rejoices in that. I would definitely not let my daughter wear a mini skirt or a tight short skirt but a ballet outfit or other conservative dance outfit instead bad. You need to let your daughter know how beautiful she is and her body because god made it and it is perfect. It is okay if your daughter sees someone dressed in appropriately or swear just address it with her and let her now that that is not what you say or wear that you need to respect your body etc. Teach her but don't shelter her or you will have big problems down the road. She needs to have the information to go out in the world and make her own choices. I understand you wanting the best for her but she already has the best a christian mother and the love of god. God will guide her and you if you just let him. Also, you need to reach out to other people in need whether they dress the way you think or do what you think. We help out a friend of ours who dresses in very provactive clothes and so does her 5 yr old. Her husband was just arrested for possession of a gun and drugs. I wouldn't leave my children with them but she has no money and for a while had no place to live and a newborn. We try to do what we can to help her as god would want which is why she is our friend despite the negatives that float around. Her children need the help and deserve it. I don't know but I think it sounds like you shelter your life too much and you can't do that not if you are going to go out and preach the word of the lord and save souls. Good luck and I wish more people were as concerned about these things are you.

P. what church were you going to? You sound like you have my holiness standards on how you live your life. I am very modest in apparel and I don't listen to anything but christian music. My home is a God fearing-loving home. We don't watch hardly any t.v. When we do watch it we usually just watch the news for a few minutes, weather channel and Tuesday nights we watch Deadliest Catch the worlds most dangereous job. What city do you live in and I can possible direct you to a church that does (dance) sign language. I know we are trying to start one in our church! We are having a special speaker this Sunday at our Church here in Brandon. 505 S. Kings Ave. and it starts at 10:00 am. I would love to meet you and your family. My husband and I are the Hospitality Ministry at our church and I think it would be so neat to meet some of the mommysource moms in person! I truly love this website. It has been a blessing to give advice on my own experiences.
God Bless you and your family,
L. Jacobs

Hi P.,
i don't know where you love but there is a christian based dance school here in brunswick. It is agape dance school. I have known miss terry for years. She is a great dance teacher. She is trained in ballet but i think they teach all kinds of dance.

I think you need to let your child enjoy the music that she likes: ballet or jazz or tap are all wonderful kind of music. By you refusing her that kind of music and forcing on her your prefferences are not right.

I am a mother of two children, and I let them make their own choices about what they like and do not like. Because thie is what they eventualy do in their life, make their own choices!!!

Destiny Dance center in Orange Park is Christian Dance Studio. I too, have Christian girls. They have danced since they were 3. They are now 14 and 16. They dance at a regular studio, but last year we were in the process of looking for a new studio, and went to Destiny's recital. It was beautiful, but unfortunately they didn't have classes at my daughters' level. Of course much of the music was contemporary Christian, and leotards must be worn for practice, so I'm not sure how you'd feel about this.