I Just Said the F Word to My Son

I dropped the Sh** bomb on 20 kids, elderly, and moms at school when I went sprawling all over the floor after slipping in high heels.... didnt know what was worse the swearing or exposing 20 kids to the color of my panties that day

PAM I rarely swear. It has to be big, and if I do it ever around my kids I let them phyiscally slap me. Its the only time they can raise there hand to me.

I've done something VERY similar. After apologizing, I explained that "everyone makes mistakes". I think just owning up to it shows character. We make mistakes....

Guilty too.
My 5yo. decided to have a tub party, who were the attendees? My husbands tablet, smartphone and bluetooth, the moment I came into the tub I was like F&*(%$#@!!!......
(he fills a bucket with water and his toys go hot tubbing, don't think I'd leave him in the bathtub unsupervised)
Don't feel bad, we make mistakes, no matter how awesome, we are not perfect. ;)

You made it 9 years without saying the F word around him?? You deserve a medal!

Oh dear, I will pray to the Patron Saint Of Over-reacting Via Using Foul Language To Our Children!

Cut yourself a little slack, Girl. Even Mary had her moments!

:)

Relax, you haven't scarred him for life. My daughter learned to cuss from me.

It happens. And I would be surprised if it were the first time he's heard the word (not from you, but out in public.) I think the important part is that you apologized. It is very important for moms to apologize when we've been wrong. It shows our kids that their feelings are important to us and it also shows them that everyone, including their parent, makes mistakes and that's okay too. So, don't feel guilty; this was actually a teaching moment for your son!

& you both will survive....& when he's 12, he'll tell his friends. & when he's 16, he'll tell his friends. & when he's 45, he'll still be telling his friends.....& his own kids.

Life happens. The fact that you both laughed....means you're a great Mom!

I used to swear in Portuguese so my kids would not know what I was saying. Then one day my mom was watching our then 3 year old and he tripped, fell and out came the Portuguese equivalent of Go to Hell you dirty old devil in front of my Portuguese mom....So yeah, that plan back fired. I swear, a lot. I give it up every new years and my family then waits to see just what will push me over the edge. Neither of my kids (8 and 12) swear at all, which I think is a result of the good nuns at their school, thank goodness.

My husband has an uncontrollable potty mouth. My middle son was driving with me one day (he was two and a half at the time) and a driver cut me off. Usually, I start a phrase and just leave out the bad word. This day, I was mumbling under my breath and I said, "Son of a ...." and from the back seat, the sweetest little voice filled in the blank for me!

Dad and I had a talk about road rage when I got home!!!

No worries, you are a-okay!

I'm a bit dismayed at some of the rest of the answers. I think it's a sign of our society and it makes me sad. Course, I'm appalled at the language allowed on primetime TV. Is it that people think it's cool? It DOES matter. I'm not trying to judge, I'm just trying to understand what it is about swear words that make people want to use them. It doesn't add anything to the conversation.

I have a friend who is not allowed to be around my children because of her potty mouth. She swears like a sailor. She blames it on the place where she works and her biker friends. I say, if you didn't say it all the time, you wouldn't use it inappropriate places either.

I have let out an expletive a time or two - I'm certainly not perfect, but if they're not part of your normal conversations, you'll be allot less likely to use them in front of your kids. It really isn't okay, because then they go to school thinking they can use them with teachers - since they're adults and to impress their friends.

Unfortunately, when I get REALLY mad...words fly like I'm a sailor. I really try to do better and I'm getting better for sure...but some days are just bad.

It's okay :). We're only human!

S.:

Stuff happens. Apologize - tell him you were wrong for swearing and let it show him that you aren't perfect and make mistakes.

Tell him next time to communicate with you about what he is TRYING to do so that you can lend your experience to help him. I doubt very seriously he will try to wash his toys again!

You are OKAY!!! It happens!

We all have done things as a parent we are not proud of. the important thing is you said you're sorry and you will try to not talk to him like that anymore. He also will probably remember to turn the water off from now on because it got such a big reaction from you.

Oh, I love this. I very rarely curse, I'm one of those "oh my golly gosh" type moms. But, even I have dropped the f-word on a few occasions. Always makes me feel sooo bad. I apologize to my kids and tell them, that mommy said a bad thing and to please forgive me and they better never say it too!

You can't always be perfect, my dear ;) I'm sure you've made it up to him by now.

I dropped sh** in front of my daughter. In retrospect I had just crushed her fingers between the key board tray and the arm rest of my chair.

Sometimes, it just pops right out.

I think you just really have to decide who you want to "be" to your kids and try to stick to it. If you use the F word in your life, and around your friends (totally not judging if you do), then there is no use pretending to be a goody goody to your kids, beyond just trying your best, like you are. It will slip occasionally, so you handled it well.

I'm sort of not fond of that word, I do slip and use it occasionally with very old friends etc, but I generally do not swear at all in mixed company, that's sort of my own comfort zone. And I HATE it when frineds use it around the kids (and they do, non parents can't suddenly curb it, I've found :)So I haven't had the mishap of using that word with the kids. I think I have slipped and said "shi__" before...but they were too young and didn't notice :) Anyway, be natural and the version of "yourself" that is modeling control to the extent you believe is proper. Which it sounds like you are.

One disturbing thing about my dad (not really, but just saying...) he was EXTREMELY controlled about swearing my whole childhood (my mother never swore and still doesn't). If he was BEYOND FURIOUS, he may have uttered "dammit" or "hell" and my brother and I were SHOCKED. He didn't apologize, but it was so rare, we knew it was SERIOUS and we wouldn't dare do it :-0. Well, now that we're adults, he does swear around us, which is oddly uncomfortable for some reason :) SO sometimes I worry that if I set "too much" of a pure example to my kids, I'll scare them later :) So I'll try to keep it as close to my own standards as possible, not perfect, and not letting them do it of course! :)

If you are a bad mom then ive been a bad mom at least 4 times in my life.

"YOUVE GOT TO BE F%$#@ KIDDING ME" as she was about to roll down the stairs on her new big wheel when she was 2.

I dont remember the incident the other times, but i know its happened more than once. Its totally human.

Very rarely do I ever fly off the handle and NOT swear up a storm.

It is just apart of who I am:)

Not ashamed at all :)

I said the F word many times, not proud of it, but there could be worse.My son knows not to use it, til he is 14...ha..ha.Most kids will end up saying it,no matter what,even if you think, they would never.I have teenagers and a 7 year old.I know how they talk with their friends.I never swore in Germany, we don't have a lot of swear words.
I still think I'm a great mom, if you'd ever meet my kids you would know.
People I believe make to much of words, but I do tell my kids, you will be judged, by the way you talk..so chose wisely.

ugh...been there! this morning i said one. i never cuss to him, no matter how mad i have been. don't know what the problem was, it wasn't even that big of a deal. i have had a long week, pms'ing/on period (i get both at the same time- not pms, just MENSTRUAL STRESS), and a headache niggling, waiting to explode on me...luckily i got over my hissy fit fast (told my son i was putting myself in time out) and after that we got past it. can't believe i did that. grr!

we all make mistakes. maybe it's the added stress of the holiday...i guess we should give ourselves a break. it's ok for them to see us "human" - as long as we deal with it as we hope they would when they screw up.

You're not a bad mom, you're just a mom like the rest of us. I have slipped up a few times myself where my daughter has heard me. She tells my mother when she calls that I need a spanking and then laughs.
As long as you apologized to him and explained that you were stressed out it will be fine, just don't get too upset if he blows up one day.

You're not a bad mom-and I'm sure the bathroom floor is spotless!

I that situation, I would have done the same. :)

You've apologized and that's the most important thing. Try not to make it a habit or else it will lose its effect next time.

yeah I did that a few times tonight actually - not on purpose. Toddler been having a bad WEEK and tonight I just could not take the wining and screaming and tantrums.. I said out loud AHHHHH!! For F sake would you just give me a break!! I can't think with you screaming in my ears 24/7

you are not alone.. some times I say before I think... he is 3 but that is no excuse.. I know one day he will repeat my cussing at school... Yikes

REALLY totally not trying to be judgmental, But Pam B has an excellent point and I agree. I don't use those words normally, and I never use them ever in front of kids. I could bet anyone a million bucks that my mom has never said the word in her life.

So, I could not find that slipping out accidentally in front of my four kids. Because, not only do I have a filter, but it isn't in my rotation of words regularly used.

BUT, I do think less classy stuff is "cool" nowadays, including bad language.

ALSO, just to add, my husband DOES have that word and MANY other words like that in his vocabulary (uses them FREQUENTLY when joking with his friends-adults only in presence), and we have four high-strung, dramatic, stressful (yet loving) GIRLS, and he hasn't let that one- or any other- slip out in front of them.

BUT, certainly not the biggest mistake by any means to let it slip out in front of your boy. Nobody is even close to perfect, as everyone knows.

No worries. If you swear like a truck driver all day you might be concerned but an F bomb now and again won't do any harm. My mom swore a lot growing up but I don't. Only once did I let loose on the F word in front of my then 12 yo when a car almost wrecked me on the freeway. "Just effin GO!!" I've never seen her eyes get so big!

Although not appropriate, they are just words. They have as much power as you give them. With that said, I think dropping a swear every now and then gives you an opportunity to discuss with your children about why and why it's not appropriate, and when and when not to say certain words.

We are all human! I've dropped the F bomb myself in the car, I've called other drivers things that are definitely not appropriate when frustrated and only a few times slipped and done this with my 11 year old in the car. I would immediately apologize and let him know that it's not appropriate and what I could have said instead. (I also mentioned about respect for others etc.)

No you are not a bad mom! I think if you make a big deal out of stuff like this then the kids will be more drawn to saying those inappropriate words and get themselves in trouble. Open communication is always the best way to deal with it!

I don't think it is a big deal. You are a good. One bad word does not erase 9 years of love and comfort.

Occasionally, it just comes out. It happened to me last night. My cat was sitting on my lap and my 9 yr old was trying to get her to play. She lunged for my daughter, but ended up biting my hand. The words "Get the F%$k off me" came flying out of my mouth as I pushed the cat off my lap. My 9 yr old and 6 yr old both said "oooohhhhh" and I said "Sorry, and I better not hear you say that word".

my boys both say their curse words just like i do, accent and all. i know exactly who they learned it from. no it isn't acceptable for them to say it and they don't often, or they know soap is in their future. ;)

No worries and as long as you both had a laugh this will be HYSTERICAL later on. Kids need stories like this later on in life. LOL

After seeing the "Dr. Phil" episode with Darral Hammond that's NOTHING compared to things his mom had said and done to him. YIKES!
SHE was effed UP!