I Have a 5 Month Old and I Just Found Out a Have Cancer....

C., You are in my prayers. There is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING that you can't get through with the help of our Lord! Turn all of this over to God and He WILL deliver you! I absolutely believe it! Psalm 119 is my favorite Psalm - here are a couple of the verses that are especially fitting for your situation. Psalm 119: 25 - I am laid low in the dust; preserve my life according to Your word. Psalm 119: 28; My soul is weary with sorrow; strengthen me according to Your word. Psalm 119: 153 - Look upon my suffering and deliver me, for I have not forgotten Your law. I hope you find comfort in these verses and in knowing that there are many, many people out here praying for you - including me. Take care. God bless. S.

I have had melanoma, on my rib cage. My youngest was 6 months old. The dermatolgist removed it two weeks after expressing concern... then came back withthe melanoma results. I went back for a second surgery which they removed a larger area to make sure the got it all. I then went to a local hospital a few weeks after my second surgery where they did a chest exam with a xray machine or one of those momagram machines? (I can't remember it was 2 years ago this Nvemeber) This was to make cure it was not spreading. Fortunately it did not spread. I can't remember the word the doctor used but I had the one that mean 'superficial'.

I am fine but my cousin past away 6 years ago before his 39th birthday from melanoma- it was NOT in the early stages whent they found it. So with my Irish heritage, several others with pre-cancer moles, and my own personaly history, I go every 6 months for full boys screening.

I was 29 when I received my phone call telling me I had melanoma. I cried, my husband cried, my parents cried. (Fortunately my kids are/were clueless).

Call your doctor, asked to speak to her directly and tell her what you are emotionally and mentally going through. Mine as a elder lady who was very grandmotherly and explained everything to me without promising too much. Tell her your scared and you don't understand what is going on. Ask her what 'early stages' means in your case. Ask her exactly what is going to happen and what the plan of attack is. Sometimes being 'part' of the fight helps with keeping a game face and 'surviving'.

Thinking of you,
A.

I'd like to offer prayers of support for your husband. Those of us that have weathered some of life storms know the fragile balance of health and love and fear. We also have learned that the greatness of just being human - though never earned, is somehow aquired during the moments we felt our fears the most.

Hi C.,
I realize this post is old, but I thought I'd respond to it. How did your surgery go? What stage are you? I absolutely understand what you were going through, and even what you may be to this day. I was diagnosed with melanoma in July 2008 when my daughter was 4 months old, I have two other young children as well. I am a year and a half out from my diagnosis. I am used to the idea, but today I found a new mole so I'm in panic mode again. It's dark and needs removed. It brings up all the fear again when you find something else and have to wait to get it biopsied and then wait for results. How are you doing?

C., I personally don't know what you're going through, but you are young and they caught it early. Nothing says that you aren't going to live or that it will come back. I do know how hard it is waiting for results though. You just have to think positive and pray. Surround yourself with positive people. I don't even know you and can tell you are a great mom and wife. Keep your spirits up and try to hang on for the two weeks. Worrying won't do any good but make you sick. I will be praying for you. If you need to talk, pm me. Please keep us informed.

C.,
Hello! A girl I went to high school was was 4 months pregnant this past spring when she found out she has breast cancer! She is my brother's bestfriend's wife, if you can follow that!! She was 28 when she found out! Her name is Janessa Neal-Brewer. She was interview last Monday on Good Morning Texas! I will provide the link below! She also has a website where you can go and read what she has gone through! Her baby is about 6 months old! She has had surgery and all other sorts of things....I hope this helped! Please don't give up....if they say they caught it early, then let's pray they will remove it!!! God Bless you!!

Copy and paste this link into your browser and it's the interview w/the pregnant and breast cancer

http://www.beloblog.com/parent/2008/10/notsoperfect_pa_21...

here if the link to her emotional diary:
http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/janessabrewer

C., I'll be including you in my prayers tonight. I'll prayer for the strength and patience you'll need to wait until Friday and for your body to soon be cancer free. I'll be thinking of you often.

I am a melanoma patient, recently diagnosed a few months ago. I have small children also. It's scary, and waiting is the worst part, but I've been there, and am going through treatment now, and I know your frustration. my e-mail address is ____@____.com, you are welcome to e-mail me and I will give you my phone number and we can talk if you would like. here is the best resource I have found for melanoma,

http://mpip.org/bb/bbindex.html

please take a look, and ask as many questions as you have. There is also a chat room in this site you can talk to people who are going through the same thing, and can usually answer questions you have. It has been a great comfort to me. I hope this helps. Please call me anytime.

A.

C.,

I will pray for you! Please don't give up on you. It sounds like you are already talking as if your not going to be around for long. Keep your head up and stop thinking like that. If you are always thinking about what can happen to you then how can you enjoy your family now? Live everyday showing your husband and child you love them. Have fun with them. Take pictures of you and your kiddo. Watch a movie with your hubby. Play cards w/your hubsand. Talk about when you and your husband first met and how that made you feel. Just think about it now! Think about when you found out you were going to have a baby. Don't forget the good things in life. Go out and buy some flowers to out in your home on your table. Or plant some flowers in your yard. Please, enjoy what you have in the present time because none of us know when our last day is. Only God knows. You may out live some one us giving you advice! You are alive now so keep your head up and enjoy your sons smile,your husbands laugh, and most of all your family as awhole!

Truly,

Eliyah

C.,

I cannot imagine the fear you are experiencing right now. I have never been diagnosed with cancer but I am a type one diabetic. I have thought about not being there for my son but we cannot dwell on that. This is when you faith must be strong. Trust in God. He will get you through this. Don't give yourself a death sentence before you have all the details. You have to survive for your son. My father in law was given two years or less to live with colon cancer about a year ago and we did not accept that diagnosis. He went to two different doctors prior to going a place in Tulsa. Where we are now happy to announce that there is no sign of cancer and the doctors have no idea how to explain it. His faith got him through this. Put your life in God's hand and trust that his Will is for you to be a mom to your son for many years to come. God Bless and I will keep you in my prayers.

Whoa! Slow down, C.! You sound like you've already given up! You're scared...I get that. Who wouldn't be? But your life is not over. Far from it actually. You will get through this. I have a family member who was recently diagnosed with Melanoma. She's 28, also a young mother, and her doctors have given her a great prognosis even though the cancer had already spread to her lymphnodes. She's being treated at MD Anderson, some 500 miles from home. But to her it was worth it because they are the No #1 Cancer treatment hospital in the nation. I'm not saying that would be right for you, but it is important for you to feel comfortable with your doctors. You want to make sure he/she has tons of experience treating patients with Melanoma. Most Cancer Treament Centers do.

I found the American Cancer Society's Patient Services Center to be a great resource for anything cancer related or not. They were knowledgeable and genuinely caring souls. I don't know what I would do without them. I would recommend calling them ASAP to help you better understand your diagnosis and what it all means. 877-227-1618

You have youth and otherwise great health on your side...and God! Don't lose your faith now when you need it more than ever.

I have so much more I could share with you, so PM me if you're interested. I would love to help if I can.

Just remember: It's not what happens to us that defines who we are...it's how we deal with it! Get informed, and get ready for the fight of your life!

God Bless you & your family!

You must be so overwhelmed! I am so sorry for you, and send my best wishes and prayers your way! I did want to tell you that you absolutely can, and should plan to, beat this!! i have a friend who was diagnosed with a rare sarcoma on her tail bone a few years back, and it was bad! Really bad! She went completely paralyed with in a few days of diagnosis. We were certain several times that she was not going to make it! I mean, really worried! She was even sent to Utah for treatment. She was around 28 at the time, and had 3 young boys, all under 8. Not to mention one had downs syndrome. She warriored through some harrowing treatments, and is getting ready to do the 3 day walk for a cure next week. She had about a year of chemo, but came home and continued to heal. Sometimes I see her walk by and I am in awe that she is still living. But she is, she lived for her children, she knew they needed her! You can too!! You have every right to feel scared, to think about the worst possible outcome, to fight for your rights to know exactly what is going on, and then to take this thing head on and beat it! You are a mama now, and there is no force in the world greater that the love of a mother for her child, and so, you will fight for him. Be strong, we will all be here for you the best way we can, prayers and words of encouragement! Be strong!! ~A.~

C.,

I am sorry you are having to go through this. When my grandmother was young (I think late twenties) and had three young children, she was diagnosed with cancer. She ended up having a double masectomy and has had to battle other cancers as well. She fought through it, though, and is now 81 years old and still in good spirits. She has a strong faith and a positive attitude which I think makes a huge difference in getting through these types of trials. I hope this example can give you encouragement and hope.

Expect miracles and live faithfully!

I can not begin to understand the meaning of cancer but I can tell you I understand the meaning of leaving behind a child. I have 3 little ones 5, 4, and 2. I do want you to understand that GOD puts us through trials and tribulations and he just wants to see if we can hang in there and trust in him and have faith. Also what we believe comes to pass so if you believe you will die you will. Faith is the key to your life and future with your son.If you have even a little doubt you will be like doubting thomas. BE strong for your son he needs a mother and if you hold your head up high and believe that GOD can HEAl you then he will. Only the man upstairs can make you whole and new just have faith and believe.I will believe with you that on Friday the Lord God will be there with you. to direct your path and future. No matter what the doctors say have faith that the Lord can change the results. Remember what we confess out of our mouth so be it. Say with your mouth postive things and you will see the difference. I believe that anything is possible for you and your son.GOD BLESS YOU!

I don't know if there are really any words to comfort you at this time. All I can say is to pray. Pray for healing. Pray for comfort. Pray for guidance. Pray for peace. Find comfort in the One who created us. "Trust God with all your heart, and lean not on your own understandings." (I don't recall the reference).

Reading this made me crybecause it hits very close to home. My husband was diagnosed with leukemia when he was 17, and went through 2 1/2 years of radiation and chemo. This was before I ever met him. However, I still have that thought in my mind...What if it comes back? What will I do without my husband? What will my son do without his father? Even though he's been in remission for almost 8 years, and done with treatments for 5 years, that thought is never far from my mind.

My husband is also not a very emotional person. The only times I've seen him real emotional was when our son was born, and when memories of having leukemia come back to him. It was the hardest thing he ever went through. But he made it, and he is stronger now because of it. I know the thought of getting cancer again scares him. But he doesn't live his life in fear. He lives each day and loves with all his heart.

If you are a member of a church (and even if you're not), go to your pastor and ask if there are any support groups, or counseling. They should be able to help you, even if it's just to listen. God takes care of His children. He knows how scared you are, and He will be there with every step you take.

God bless!
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I know this is a hard time and you are right to reach out to others. I feel you are borrowing trouble by assuming the worst, that you won't be around. This can and will be beat by you and your doctors. I highly recommend getting into a cancer support group. There is a great one (meets in someone's home) through Covenant Church in Carrollton. The lady that leads it is a nurse and a cancer surviver. Her name is Jo Cason. If you want her phone number, send me a message and I will get it to you. My Mom, who is a cancer survivor is a member of this group. She has shared many encouraging stories with me and how the group really stands with you as you walk this journey. Don't give up!