I Am 10 Weeks Pregnant and I Just Wanted to Know If Its Normal to Be Scared?

I'd think you were nuts if you weren't scared! It is such a huge change. And unlike getting married, you don't get to meet this little person before you're stuck with them for life. It's such a huge responsibility, and so different from anything else you've ever done, it really is scary. But I promise, it's also incredibly rewarding, and the best thing that's ever happened to me. It will be ok!

Completely normal to feel the way you do. I don't know many moms or moms-to-be that aren't or haven't been scared at some time. I was and I would always start thinking about the worst that could happen. Until I realized that God had blessed us with this baby and it was in his hands how everything would happen. If you have good prenatal care you will have a bunch of tests that will ease your mind about the baby. You won't be able to find out everything, but a lot. You will get over your feeling of being scared and realize that this is a time of your life that you will want to remember always and enjoy being pregnant and carrying that little life inside you. Also, don't stress yourself out too much by being scared so that you don't stress out the baby.

Congratulations!!! Being a MOM is wanderful.

Yes, I felt this way too, and now I am 6 weeks pregnant with my 2nd. I would HIGHLY reccommend educating yourself. Besides my Zofran for nausea, these books brought me so much comfort during my pregnancy! The 2 books I read cover to cover throughout my entire pregnancy was "What to Expect When You're Expecting" AND "You're Pregnancy Week by Week"

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Anytime I had a weird symptom or concern, I just read about it and it put me at ease. Also, a good obgyn will help you and childbirth classes later on down the road will help too. You usually take them through your hospital. Good Luck and relax!!

www.babycenter.com is also a good resource, but I recommend the books first.

I also took a child physcology course at TCC specifically infants and toddlers and I learned SOO much! It really helped me with understanding parenting, discipline, growth and development stages as well. There are also great books that can help you with this such as "What to Expect the First Year".

Hi N.,

I think you're going through a lot of emotions and it's okay (and normal) to be scared. A lot of changes are coming your way and it's going to take a lot of time and preparation for you to feel ready. But, you will be. And, when you're baby comes, you're going to be excited, but also going through many emotions. Do you have someone close to talk to about this? I wish you the best of luck. And, when you have any questions, ask us! We'd love to be able to help you out and put your mind at ease.

Good luck!
C.

I think we are all scared, so you are very normal. Those are very common concerns when you are pregnant. I was probably the worst, I didn't want to wash baby clothes until she was born, I counted every time the baby kicked to see if she was moving enough etc.. I even rented one of the heart monitors to make sure my baby was alive, you are doing fine! I would highly recommend the same books that the other mother recommended (what to expect when expecting, and my pregnancy week by week) both are wonderful. If you ever have any questions, the moms on here are a wealth of information! Congrad's on the pregnancy and enjoy every minute.

Hi N....It is very normal for any woman facing motherhood to feel scared. I especially understand your concern because you have no mother to ask for help or advice. I lost my mother at 16 and I feel the same way. I am 8 weeks pregnant and I have a 3 year old. If you have questions, ask the moms around you for help. Just explain to them that you have no mom of your own to ask so you just need a little advice. I love to ask older ladies for advice because they know everything and they don't mind sharing. My daughter's first babysitter was a 73 year old great-grandmother with 25 grandkids! She knew EVERYTHING about babies. She could tell if a baby was constipated by the way they cried! No joke. I loved her because I trusted everything she did and said. Try to reach out to the older grannies out there. They would love to help you out. Also, I only have one child but I think I know a lot so feel free to send me a message if you need to. Good luck with the little one and you'll see everything will fall into place once the baby gets here. Oh, don't forget about books--they helped me a great deal. What to Expect When You're Expecting is still one of my favorites. I had a miscarriage a few years ago and I knew exactly what was happening to me because of what I read in that book so I was very understanding of what I needed to do and how the doctor would handle things. Try to relax, things will work out fine.

Yes, it is. Pregnancy is amazing and everything is extra vibrant including emotions. As an example, I suspected that I was pregnant with my 3rd child when I started having very vibrant dreams because I only dreamt like that when I was pregnant. Go figure.

You are not alone. Anytime you need a comforting word, post a message on mamasource. We are here for you. Also, get the what to expect when you are expecting book and the girlfriend's guide to pregnancy. They may even be at your library. They will give you an idea of what to expect now and in the future.

I think your mom is watching over you and your baby so don't fret. Everything will be fine. And you will have a wonderful pregnancy, easy labot and a healthy baby. Congratulations, N..

YES!!!! It is a huge thing you are going through, and the reality of your new calling is awesome to say the least!! Not to mention the hormones! I am nervous everytime and I am currently pregnant with my 4th seemingly perfectly healthy child. I felt certain with #3 and even this one, that something would go wrong, as the last 2 were perfect, so statistics did not seem to be on my side. But, they are all perfectly healthy and motherhood is all of the ups and downs I thought it would be. I would recommend reading some common, simple books, like "What to Expect when you are expecting" and asking your dr anything that comes to mind. And, of course, ask this group anything, no question or concern is too big or small if it is on your mind! Try to do things that excite you about having a baby, like taking a walk through Babies R Us or something. Good luck, and have fun getting ready! ~A.~

It is very mormal to have all those thoughts running through your head. I am pregnant with #2 and still go through the whole is everything ok and all the scary feelings. It will get better you are almost out of the crazy first trimester and things are alot better from than on. Good luck and try not to worry about everything take things one day at a time. Just know you mom is looking down on you and watching over you and your baby!!!

Hey there! I was 18 when I found out that I was pregnant and I was terrified! I have have had three children and I was scared everytime. But the being freaked out about everything kind of subsides and then you get to enjoy being pregnant. The best thing that I can suggest is to go buy "What to Expect When You're Expecting". It was a huge source of reassurance to me. If you don't have one let me know and I'll get you a copy. But as for being scared, yup it's normal. I think that all the worry when your pregnant is practice for when they are teenagers(I have a fourteen year old stepdaughter)

N.,
First of all let me say congratulations. You have a wonderful road of love and yes hard work ahead of you and it will help a little to fill the hole in your heart right now. Nothing can take the place of your mom, but a new baby can fill you up in thier very own way.
It is the most normal thing in the world to feel scared right now. I teach an early pregnancy class for first time moms to help them know what to expect from the pregnancy.

Also let me recommend 2 excellent books that really give you the lowdown on pregnancy.
1. Pregnancy for Dummies. You can get this thru amazon and it is a little cheaper than the specialty stores like mine.
2. Your Pregnancy week by week. It is also excellent.
Both books are straightforward and written by a combination of Dr's and Nurses to tell you what you need to know.

If you take my class I will give you some coping mechanisms as well.

email me off site for more information about classes or just to chat. I am a mother of a 40y/o and grandma to 1-19y/0 and one due in a month.

K. @ The Nestingplace