V.D.
ok, first i just have to that Abra, the last mom that posted a response was extremely rude and out of line. NO ONE has the right to EVER tell you that your wrong for the decisions you make as a mother. i think if you want to go back to work, more power to you. i've done the stay at home thing and now i work. i stayed home til my son was 4 months. and after my daughter, i was back looking for work when she was six weeks old, and i've had extended periods of unemployment in between. i've always used the same daycare, and i would recommend them to anyone. my children are very social and brite, and i believe daycare played a big part in that. It hasn't at all affected my relationship with my children, they know who i am, and they clearly prefer me above others. honestly though, i prefer to work. i like to get up and have a routine and go out and do something productive. I like to have my own money, and something more to talk about then just my home life. as wonderful as my children are, there's only so much you can tell your friends before they want to strangle you. good luck with whatever you chose, and i think if your really serious about it, then you should put your foot down with your husband. in my opinion, married or not, he cannot make your decisions for you. the happier you are with your day to day life, the better you'll be with your children.