Husband Lost Job - Need Money Saving Tips

Updated on June 15, 2010
M.S. asks from Mansfield, TX
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My husband lost a very good job yesterday and it was a total shock. We have lived comfortably and we have some money in savings. We are already looking for ways to cut back every way we can. I know that some of you mamas have some great ideas. Here is what we are already doing: change tv service (saving $50 a month), changing electric providers, finally going to put some baby stuff we no longer need on Craigslist, and more coupon shopping. I dabble in coupons, but I want to know where most of you get your coupons from - online sites? My husband had also just gotten a membership to Cosco. Is it really worth shopping there or should we drop it and get the money back? You can't use coupons there can you? I am a teacher so we do have my income so the house, cars, and most bills can be paid without dipping into savings. I can pick up insurance through my work, but if I do the whole family it will wipe us out. If I do just me and the kids we can definetely manage. Should I not add my husband (he's got a dr. appt. this week on his old insurance and he's pretty healthy otherwise). My other question is about childcare. I had my kids in two days a week for the summer. We will pull my oldest out (she's starting kindergarten in the fall), but we just put my son in last week. If we pull him out, too, we may not be able to get him back in there if and when my husband finds a job. Should we bite the bullet and leave him in a little longer and decide later on if we need to pull him out?

Please let me know if you have any ideas that could help us save money or any opinions about the insurance or daycare.

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Thanks for all of the advice. A lot of the things suggested we already do (like eating at home, short showers, etc). But I have already checked out several of the websites mentioned and racked up on some really good coupons. Unfortunately we can't do some of the things mentioned (like get rid of home phone) since my husband's cell was through his work, so now he has nothing. It looks like he will be getting more in unemployment than we first thought so I think we will put him on my insurance and we can leave our son in daycare for just 2 days a week (even when I go back to school). That way my husband can schedule interviews, etc. without worrying about paying a sitter. I am starting to see a silver lining to our situation - we will get to spend a lot of time together as a family this summer and my husband is going to volunteer with me at our kids Vacation Bible School in a couple of weeks. I appreciate all of the ideas and support. It does help to know that lots of people have been through this and there is a way to make things work (and still be a happy family)!

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answers from Dallas on

CareNOw has a discount card. We needed it when my hubby was out of work and he fell and bruised his ribs. It is something like $18 a month and then a visit is only $68 instead of $115. It was worth it to us. It was nice to have in a pinch. Hubby has since found a decent job with benefits, so we just cancelled it.

Take Care!



answers from Dallas on

I have a home day care and I would try to keep the little one in as re enrolling would cost admission fees and or supply fees. I ask two weeks up front so I would try to hang on plus if he likes it there it is a great adjustment to start over. I know if kids leave me I try to fill it as fast as I can. So you are right, you probably could not get him back in. I would cut cell phones if you can. tv is great but I cut it once and there was nothing to watch so then I upgraded again. But it is a big expense. I also have gone with Green Mountain Energy and Atmos and they so far have not cost me an arm and leg as others have. My electric has only been $108 the hightest billl and so far am pleased with them. G. W

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answers from Indianapolis on

Hi, I've been going through this for a year, but I've been unemployed as well.......
1. Plan your meals, that helps a lot of impulse buying..........I too buy at Sams......
2. Join can do surveys, but basically you look at ads and they give you points........the more points, the more you can doesn't take very long and if you and your hubby do it, you can use them like we do.........I just bought a 25.00 gift card for a restaurant and so did my husband by using our points.....we are going to give them as gifts for a couple of birthdays coming can also get Wal-Mart cards, clothes, you name it, they have a bunch of takes a bit of time, and you have to look at the emails, but they have some good deals too.....check it out. They have coupons too and you can get points for using them at the stores as well.
3. Go to for recipes and coupons....
4. Check

I could go on, but that should get you started..........We also only eat twice a day.....I fix a BIG breakfast around 8:30 and then we eat dinner around 5......with that said, we have popcorn, or chips, if we get the munchies, the ones that are on sale and cheap....same with cookies........nice snack, and cheap.......

Good Luck and take care.....hopefully we all get jobs soon!

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answers from San Francisco on

About Costco -- it's really great if you have 4 or more people in your family. The savings on some items are really worth it. If you get the $100 membership -- I don't remember what it's called, it's more money up front but you get enrolled in the cash back program, which will pay you back after the end of the year, and will usually reimburse the cost of the membership plus give you another hundred or two, depending on how much you spend.

In this job market -- childcare seems like a luxury, unless it's really necessary.

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answers from Dallas on

I have not shopped much at Costco, but I have shopped a lot at Sam's over the years and personally, I do not think it is worth it for groceries. My husband gets a membership to both through work and he loves Costco for things like tires, big ticket items, etc. It is not convenient to me to go there for groceries. If you had a really large family and needed to buy in bulk, then maybe Sam's or Costco would work, but I found most items at Sam's to be MORE expensive than Walmart. Like at Sam's you can get two large bags of name brand chips for $7. Big deal! They are regularly on sale at Walmart for that or less and I don't have to buy two bags when I only need one. Yes, you can buy a huge container of Heinz Ketchup for much cheaper than the same quantity in smaller containers, but do you really need, want or have room for a huge container of Ketchup? Do you really want TWO family size boxes of Cheerios? (My husband believes that when we have bought in bulk on items like toilet paper or paper towels, that we tend to use them less conservatively, because we have so much.) You really have to bargain shop and compare the prices. You cannot assume that Costco will be cheaper on most items. But you also have to consider your time and gas, so you shouldn't be going to three different stores to buy everything. I have found Walmart to be the BEST deal on most items and they will honor other stores sale prices. Most grocery stores have door busters on certain items like soda or ice cream, but make up for it on other items. Take the store flyers that you get in the mail and Walmart will honor those prices plus take coupons. I have been really pleased with most of their store brand items also, which are much cheaper than name brand.

Shop at Thrift Stores, Resale Shops, or Garage Sales for kids clothing, toys, etc. You will be amazed at some of the deals you will find. When my husband was unemployed and my kids were babies, I would shop garage sales to buy all of their toys and clothes for next to nothing. Then I accidently discovered Thrift Stores and am hooked on them. It is harder to find things for older kids, but especially for little girls, there is usually a lot of nice things. I even began buying stuff for me and my husband! My kids were always well dressed, even when my husband was out of work, because of this. People would compliment them all the time on cute outfits and I would just smile and think, "I only paid $2 for that outfit!"

Insurance is a gamble. We went for several years without any insurance and we were lucky. We have never met our deductible, so it seemed a safe bet. Then we got a policy that had a very high deductible, but was much cheaper monthly. It was just basically a safeguard for a catastrophe. That is a personal decision that you have to make. You might also need to consider the new Health care stuff. I am not up on all the ins and outs, but it could be that if he is uninsured for several years, he will not be able to opt back into private health insurance and will be required to do the National Healthcare. Just something to consider and check into.

Please remember that this is very devastating to your husband and his ego. For most men, more so than women, their self worth is tied up in their job. He is very likely to go through some depression and difficult times. Try to be encouraging and supportive. It is hard, because there may be times when he seems to be goofing off or not doing all he could to get another job and you will be very frustrated. Hang in there! Avoid making comments to friends or even to your husband about having to save money - just do it and don't through it in his face on a daily basis. Best of luck and hopefully he will be employed again soon!

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answers from Sacramento on

do a price comparison on your vehicle insurance. we saved a ton by switching to progressive for our trailer and boat and geico for our vehicles. see if there is a WinCo grocery store near you. WinCo and Walmart are typically the cheapest. Costco is great if you have a large family, having to buy and store large volumes of product at one time does not work for us. you can save a ton on cleaning products if you use what they used in the old days...vinegar, baking soda, borax, citrus peels. google how to use them if your not familiar. I have a book called "Miserly Moms. Living on One Income in a Two Income World" by Jonni McCoy. she has a lot of recipes for home made cleaners, stuff for the kids to play with (my son loves the monster goo and shaving cream paint), all kinds of tips. If you can manage it, maybe by saving enough money cutting back, I would seriously consider adding your husband to the insurance. Hospitals are going under because of people's inability to pay, and they are a lot tougher to get to consider hardship status. a big medical bill will wipe you out for sure. good luck!

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answers from Boston on

Wow - are you me? I'm also a teacher, my husband lost his job in april, we have kids the same age, etc. Thankfully, my husband is starting a new job in August; I wish you the same speedy turnaround.

As for money saving tips, I just strongly advise to "shop smart" I was never able to save that much with coupons, but just by cutting back on meat and chicken we cut our grocery bill by a lot. Same thing with really comparison shopping for things like cereal. Also, you can cut your electric bill by a bunch by line drying your clothes (if that's worth it to you - I really like line drying).

I would ABSOLUTELY include your husband on your insurance. It would be worth it even if you have to dip into savings a little. Heaven forbid something happen to him - if you didn't have insurance it would destroy you financially. Car accident. Slip n' fall. Unforseen medical problem. These things happen. Just not worth the risk, in my opinion.

Also, re: childcare, I would keep the little one in. But you might want to check and see if your daycare has a "right of first refusal" policy. You could ask if you could pull him for the summer BUT if someone else wants the spot they ask you first and you get first dibs on the spot for September. My center has this, but they don't really advertise it. That might be a way to save some money for the summer. But otherwise, if you like your center, it's not worth losing the space.

Good luck. I totally get how stressful this is. I hope he finds something soon.

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answers from Dallas on

first off - give your hubby a big hug and you guys hold on to each other as you go through this! Then you two need to sit down together(with no kids) and make a budget. Write down everything you need to spend your money on for the month- starting with what is most important. ie: Food, lights, house, car etc. then write out(starting at the top) how much you need to spend for each until all your money is put to work. We have been in a tight crunch before- we have 1 paid for car, 1 cell phone(because the land line was actually more expensive) no cable, and no extra activities(like soccer, baseball or dance). For fun we go to the park, play board/video games, rent movies(or get them at the library) grow a garden and have friends over.
If you haven't listened to Dave Ramsey- I strongly suggest you check out his web site or his radio show(570am from 1-4pm) He has great advice for getting out of debt and for dealing with emergencies like job loss.
Good luck and God bless!

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answers from Dallas on

I'm in the midst of this myself (a single mother with no job since March, although fortunately I've got a couple good offers on the table right now). As far as insurance, if your husband qualifies for COBRA, depending upon your income, he can get a big discount on that due to a law passed by Obama:

Otherwise, your idea is good - i.e., insure the kids through your work. I chose not to do the COBRA because I figured I could find a job within a reasonable timeframe and my income level excludes me from taking advantage of the subsidy. If your husband has any Rx drugs he takes regularly, then make sure he gets 3 mos. worth filled before he loses insurance. Also, the rules of Flexible spending accounts allow you to get reimbursed for the full amount that would be taken out of his paycheck for the whole year. You can use that for alot of OTC products, so I stocked up on those and Rxes before I lost both my insurance and FSA. The biggest thing you should be worrying about is making sure your husband has life insurance if his coverage was through work. Also, look into whether you can get life insurance for him through your work. I did not do this because I felt that I have enough in savings/401K and my sons' father is financially stable enough that if something did happen to me, they would be okay financially. If this is not your case, then you really need to do this ASAP.

I would suggest you leave your son in childcare. Even if your husband does not have a job by the fall, looking for work is a fulltime job in itself and he can't be expected to take care of your son. Also, I hope that you are already taking advantage of the childcare deduction of up to $5000. If that was coming out of hubby's paycheck make sure and add it to yours if you can.

As far as saving money, Costco can be cheaper for some produce, in particular organic and some other products, but you really do need to shop around and keep track of the prices at various stores for the products you buy most regularly. Costco has store coupons out regularly. As far as food, most coupons are not for the healthiest of foods - i.e., most of the time they are for processed foods. You can actually save money (and improve your overall health) by removing processed foods from your diet. Boxed cereals are the biggest ripoff. You can buy oats in bulk and make oatmeal - if you cook in bulk, you can easily reheat on the stovetop (just add extra water) or in the microwave. Eggs are a great source of nutrition and still very inexpensive. Costco has the large bags of organic carrots - those are great snacks. They have large packages of organic raisins as well as other organic dried fruits. They also have good prices on bananas and pineapple. The price of their organic chicken is reasonable and they have a good variety of fish quite often. On days when you need a quick and easy dinner, their roast chickens are quite reasonable - $4.99 I think. Costco has the large containers of organic salad mix for the same price everyone else charges for the smaller ones.

For dried and canned food products, I take advantage of my Target visa - I get a 10% coupon for one shopping trip for each $1000 I spend. You can usually get 15% off one shopping trip when you apply for the card. I use this to stock up on things like canned salmon, rice, dried beans, etc. And, on this topic rice and beans provides alot of nutrition for very little money. You can stretch your meat by also serving beans with the meal. Also, stir fries with meat and veggies can stretch the meat - serve that over rice.

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answers from Dallas on

I didn't see where anyone else mentioned the Grocery Game ( It is an awesome savings website for not too much work. Especially if you already do coupons.

The other thing - have your husband check into COBRA. Most HR departments tend to gloss over this little nugget (assuming the law hasn't changed in the last few years) but you can not sign up for COBRA for now since your husband is healthy, then if anything happens you have a specific period of time (I want to say 90 days, maybe even a little longer) to sign up. You have to make it retroactive, so it would have to be a big something to make it worth while, but if your husband ended up in the ER or something it could be. It has been a long time, but message me if you have any questions and I'll try to reach back in my memory file and answer them :-)



answers from Chicago on

I am so sorry that you are going through this situation. It sounds as if you are on a great track to getting by until another opportunity arises.

Some ideas:
1. I shop at Sam's and without a doubt there are some products that are considerably less expensive (even without coupons) then Walmart and Target. When I was not working I made a spread sheet of the items I purchase most (it was time consuming and long but made me an informed shopper) at Jewel (my grocery), Target, Walmart, and Sams. I found Sams and Walmart to be the most cost effective.

2. I recently discovered the coupon websites: and love the ideas. It also posts deals at each store to help with where to buy.

3. I would leave your son for a few weeks but if your husband can't find a job within that time frame, then I would pull him out.

4. I would add my husband just in case something did occur.

Good luck and my thoughts will be with your family.



answers from New York on

I hope I can help with a few of the questions.

Costco - You'll probably want to keep the membership. It really depends on the items your purchasing there and difference you pay there compared to what you pay in the grocery store. We have a BJ's membership, and for us it is a huge savings. I don't know about Costco, but BJ's has their own coupons, plus accepts manufacturer coupons.

Childcare - It sounds like you'll be working p/t during the summer. If yes, take him out, hubby can watch him while you're working, and on your days off, hubby can spend more time focusing on finding another job.

Food - There have been lots of post recently about saving. Do a search for some great tips.

Phone Service - Many people have gotten rid of their land lines and just use cell phones. Or depending on your cell service, maybe you can change plans for some savings.

Insurance - Your husband should check with his employer to find out when his expires. There's a chance that if he working even one day in June, he might be covered until the end of the month. He should also be offered COBRA. Once you find out the COBRA rates, you can determine whether to pay COBRA or put him on your plan.

Electric - ok this may be obvious, but start really being aware of everything. Put the computer on sleep or shut off when not in use. Are unneeded lights on? Watch a/c use, my husband likes to set it to 64, we fight all summer 68 is fine, I'll even settle for 70. Hang clothes out to dry. Cut back on shower time.

Good luck to you.



answers from Dallas on

I would recommend an online subscription to They have all sorts of resources/ideas on saving money, matching coupons to current sales at a variety of stores etc. They have links to print coupons. I just saved over $67 at Walgreens by following their tips. There is always new information coming in so it's all current. People share their successes on the Centsible Chat section and you can copy what they do. A lot of people stockpile for themselves, to donate and/or to have a huge garage sale making over $1000 at a time. You can get the online version and magazine or just the online I believe. I think it's only $20-25 but you will save much more than that in less than a month.
It sounds like you are being very proactive which is smart. Thank you for being a teacher. You are appreciated more than you know!



answers from Dallas on

I'm surprised that no one recommended shopping at the new Aldi stores that have opened up all over the area. Definitely huge cost savings at this store. If you don't mind buying off brand/generic foods, then you should definitely check it out. You need to either recycle your old shopping bags or be prepared to purchase (and then reuse theirs). You will find that by shopping there you can cut your grocery bill almost in half.



answers from Lubbock on

Sometimes coupons dont save you money, most of the time you are paying for the brand name, so you really dont save anything. When you go grocery shopping look at the ingred. in the back of brand names, then look at a generic brand.Awhile back they had a special on how to save money, I think it was on Good morning America not sure.Sometimes its good to buy in bulks but usually depends on what you buy, also depends on if you cook alot at home.I dont make much and when I was married the only one working I made a budget on my grocery list, I would spend not over 40 a week and it fed 5 of us, we didnt go out to eat except once a month. Made supper before going to work that way all they did was warm it up. Frozen foods cost to much for my pocket. Couldnt afford day care, usually got family members to help. I hope I help you out some.
Lisa H. Ralls Tx.



answers from Dallas on

I have not read all the responses, but have you seen the produce prices at Aldi?



answers from Dallas on

i am sorry to hear that. check out my - she links all the store ads with extra coupons. i would do what i can to make sure everyone has insurance. put your kids on yours and have your husband get temp insurance through someone like blue cross. check with your hubbys work - he should be able to stay on the insurance for a while with the company subsidizing the cobra for sometime. good luck!



answers from Dallas on

when i was teaching my husband didn't have insurance through his job and it was a lot to add him to my policy. So we looked into an independent plan. If he is fairly healthy it is a much cheaper way to go. My husband was around 25 then and it was only $70 a month! I would check blue cross blue shield and unicare.
certainly look at cutting out your home phone (if you both have cell phones) and dropping your cell phone bills down (drop the data plan, minutes, and unlimted texts ect.)
Simple life changes are important. Eat at home as often as possible, redbox instead of going to the movies or even blockbuster. Drop netflix and all magazine supscriptions. MAKE A BUDGET!! the best way to really see what you are spending your money on and where you can save. I would look at the total money makeover by dave ramsey. It changed our lives!

i would personally think that the extra time your son would get to spend at home with you and your husband is a pretty neat opportunity for him! I wouldn't want to waste it at daycare if you don't have to.



answers from Dallas on

You may already know this as a teacher, but for the other moms out there looking for some good deals, the bookstores are having some great incentives to get free books - I got plenty of "free" books from Half-Price last year, with it being a $3 off coupon every week... you could probably get a stash of presents for those bday parties (since they do sell new things as well)



answers from Kansas City on

If your insurance offers mail-order prescriptions that is a great way to save.
Also, look into cancelling subscriptions to magazines/newspapers, etc.
Good luck!

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