I don't have any good advice, but wanted to tell you that you are not alone....I've been with my husband 3 years and have his 2 children (10 yrs. old/8 yrs.) and our child(2 yrs.), so 3 children and he shows very little interest in the kids and rarely helps around the house...usually he's on the computer or watching tv and trys to find odd jobs...and work MLM businesses. I work full-time out of the house and the kids are dying for me to be with them...they need that parental attention. I don't know how you've done it for 11 years without going crazy. I've been told time and time again, you can not change your husband. The best thing to do is to get into counseling and if you can get him in, b/c somehow there is a disconnect if he is not interested in his family and the development of his child and helping out around the house...somethings not right - it's like they are rebelling or just being lazy...neither of which we (moms) need to be around!!! I've been told if he is not willing to change to leave - b/c it will not get any better. You either have to live like that or get out! Make sure your child has some other father role-model, grandfather or some other male adult as a good example of how a 'good' dad is suppose to act!!!