Hubby Thinks I Am Cheating!

Updated on July 13, 2013
J.M. asks from Harrisburg, PA
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I have a yeast infection. I told hubby and now he thinks I am screwing around and that is how I got it. I am NOT messing around. One man is enough, at times more than enough! I have never messed around. I am a sahm of 4. He works crazy hours and is away alot. I just can't believe he thinks this! I have had them before. When I was on bc I would get them once a month! Anyone have any information I could give him

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answers from Dallas on

Not really.

Ever consider he might be projecting? To lessen his own moral shortcomings and guilt? Just a thought.

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answers from Baton Rouge on

OMFG. Is he really aso clueless about female anatomy and physiology? A yeast infection can result from anything from hormone shifts, diet changes, antibiotic use, or tight synthetic underpants.

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answers from Washington DC on

The one doing the accusing is usually the one doing the crime....

Tell him if he kept his pants zipped while he's away and you wouldn't have a yeast infection....that might shut his mouth. Yes, it's snarky. But really? Why would he accuse you? (ETA - I know yeast infections are not an STD...)

Tell him to pound sand. If he doesn't trust you. Then he needs to speak up and he needs to come clean about HIS actions while he's HE feeling guilty for something???

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answers from St. Louis on

Yeah, got to agree with Christy here. Usually the person accusing is the one doing. Especially something as stupid as this.

Not trying to scare you but my ex always thought I was cheating. I think it was a bit of projection a bit of wishful thinking to ease that little bit of guilt he felt.

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answers from Columbus on

I'd be turning the question back on him! What is he doing the whole time he's working these "crazy hours" and while he is "away a lot." Sorry, but I think he's got a guilty conscience!!

Good luck!!

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answers from Fargo on

I have never encountered someone who actually thinks that a yeast infection is a sexually transmitted disease (obviously it can be transmitted through sexual contact, but you get the point)!!! Is he really that dense?

Tell him to talk to a doctor or look it up online. If he persists in thinking that you are cheating, I would seriously wonder if *he* is and is trying to shift blame.

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answers from Columbia on

I think you need to ask him flat out if he's cheating on YOU.

Usually, the person making accusations does so out of a guilty conscience.

I would be livid and tell him that he can sleep on the couch until he comes to his senses and either apologizes or confesses his own crimes.

And I'd be on the phone with my pastor, seeking advice and prayer.

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answers from Cleveland on

Honestly it sounds like he has a guilty conscience and is cheating on you

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answers from Portland on

Google "yeast infection" and make him read it.
Yeast infection is a sign of candida albicans, and is NOT usually an std.

Here's one blip:
"Is a yeast infection a sexually transmitted infection (STI)?

A yeast infection (or candidiasis) is not considered a sexually transmitted infection. In fact, they are a very common and normal part of women’s lives. An estimated three in four women will have a yeast infection in their lifetime, and many of these women will have recurring infections. In rare cases, a yeast infection can be spread through vaginal intercourse among partners who have unprotected sex, but the risk is low. Like any other vaginal infection, they should be treated immediately, and if you are sexually active and your partner is having symptoms, he or she should also seek treatment. In any case, sex should only resume once symptoms disappear."


Knowledge is power. If your husband can actually look at medical information and still thinks you are cheating, then I'd suggest there's something deeper going on and a very real conversation needs to be had in regard to your relationship. I'm not saying anything is wrong with your behavior, but I just find it beyond the pale that a fungal infection could mean that you are being unfaithful, unless you are cheating on a diet and eating too much wheat and sugar, which can be root causes of this, or the changes of vaginal pH which happen for many women on a monthly basis.

(I'm sure my husband would want to stop the conversation and just believe I was telling the truth after the phrase 'vaginal pH'.... tell him to please look it up online. And if he's worried about you, then he should get tested too. Does he have jock itch? Could you have gotten it from him? Those are questions I would be considering asking him. :) )

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answers from San Francisco on

Your husband is ignorant. Pull up some info on yeast infections online and if he doesn't believe that, have him talk to your doctor.

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answers from Dallas on

Shoot - have him call his doctor and ask about where yeast infections come from. Google is also your friend here.

Honestly, I'd be really wondering WHY he went there - if you're not giving him any reason to think this, step back and see what may be going on with him. Hopefully he's just clueless and not cheating and thinking he gave it to you. Sigh

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answers from Norfolk on

A yeast infection is not a sexually transmitted disease.
Heck, babies wearing diapers can get yeast infections.
Either Hubby is incredibly uninformed and lazy (how difficult is it to Google info for crying out loud) or me thinks he doth protest too much (he's accusing you of what he's already done).
Always keep some plain yogurt on hand.
Besides eating it on a regular basis, add 1 cup of it to your bath water and apply it directly to where you itch.

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answers from Cumberland on

I think he's trying to tell you that he is cheating-

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answers from Dallas on

If you had them once a month, he already knows they aren't an STD.

Ok, here's a different POV - typically when one partner tries to call another out for cheating and there is no proof or reason to do so - the one making the accusation is the one doing what they are accusing the other of. This accusation and the fact 'he is away a lot' - two big red flags. Of course you know your husband and I don't, but doesn't he know you to know better you wouldn't do that?

Sorry I have had this done to me twice when I was much younger (both were long term relationships) so my response includes personal experiences to which I see a different angle other than giving him information on yeast infections. Like I said at the beginning - he knows yeast infections are not an STD.

I apologize if I have offended you. I truly hope my response does not reflect your situation and he's just being an idiot.

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answers from Minneapolis on

I had a situation similar to this several years ago. A couple weeks before my now hubby and I met, I had a STD test that my doctor does during every PAP. It came up negative of anything. Hubby and I met and I was ONLY with him during hat whole yer. At my next PAP the STD test came back positive for Chlamydia. I immediately called my then boyfriend/now hubby and told him, thinking that he had given it to me. He went an got checked out, but his test came back negative. That by itself was odd because we had been having sex for a year. If I gave it to, how couldn't he have gotten it? Anyways, he accused me of cheating. Even though I have told him so many times that I DIDN'T cheat on him, he didn't believe me. Eventually he "forgave" me but STILL thinks that I cheated on him back then.

At my first prenatal appointment with this pregnancy (This past Monday), it came up in discussion with my doctor (Still not sure how). Find out now, several years later when it no longer matters, that it was probably a FALSE POSITIVE... Didn't even think that was possible.

Anyways, my point is I know it sucks.

But yeast infections aren't sexually transmitted. Like someone else said "Google and print"... I also suggest highlighting "Not sexually transmitted" as many times as needed for him to get the point!

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answers from El Paso on

1st off I've learn that if your partner suspects you of cheating then they've most likely have in some way cheated or almost did. But that's just my personal experience.

2nd yeast infections are easily to get, you can wipe wrong, oral sex, anything touching the butt area and inserting to the vagina afterwards may cause yeast infection, even dirty hands/mouth.

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answers from Allentown on

I am just baffled why hubby would make such a stupid comment. I can't even imagine how someone would think a yeast infection was from cheating. I have had yeast infections regularly since childhood. I always get them when I eat too much sugar. I get them when my pants r too tight or when I sweat a lot and when I don't wear my cotton undies. I get them every time I have antibiotics. And I have not had sex in 9 years. So yeast infections have nothing to do with sex or cheating. They can be transmitted via sex but the majority of yeast infections are from other causes. Maybe hubby is cheating or cheated in the past. Maybe he is just an idiot. Maybe he needs some education on yeast infection and their causes.

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answers from Tampa on

Tell him BABIES can get them.

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answers from New York on

Google and print. Men just don't get it, do they? :)

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answers from Miami on

Stop trying to defend yourself to your ridiculously dumb husband. When he's in the room with you, call the doctor's office and ask for the nurse. Then tell her what is going on and ask her to talk to him. I hope she rips him a new one over this.

If this doesn't work, then you need to leave this jerk. Unless he is seriously stupid, he is using this an excuse to bully you and be abusive.

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answers from Detroit on

If you and he are both willing, print out the answers you get here and have him read them. Yeast infections are not sexually transmitted - they just happen. I have had a few here and there, and I have never slept with anyone else except my husband since the day we met 13 years ago.

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answers from Dover on


Look it up online, tell him he can read it. End of story.

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answers from Philadelphia on

LMAO I hate to laugh but him thinking you're cheating on him because you got a yeast infection is like him thinking you're cheating because you got your period! Holy cow! How can he not be in the know when it comes to a woman's body, like his own wife. That's crazy! Have him talk to just about any woman out there.

K. B
mom to 5 including triplets

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answers from Phoenix on

I googled "causes of yeast infections" and this is straight from WebMD:

Can vaginal yeast infections be prevented?

If you practice good genital hygiene, you can help prevent infection.
Keep your vaginal area clean. Use mild, unscented soap and water. Rinse well.
After using the toilet, wipe from front to back to avoid spreading yeast or bacteria from your anus to the vagina or urinary tract.
Wear underwear that helps keep your genital area dry and doesn?t hold in warmth and moisture. One good choice is cotton underwear.
Avoid tight-fitting clothing, such as panty hose, and tight-fitting jeans. These may increase body heat and moisture in your genital area.
Change out of a wet swimsuit right away. Wearing a wet swimsuit for many hours may keep your genital area warm and moist.
Change pads or tampons often.
Don?t douche or use deodorant tampons or feminine sprays, powders, or perfumes. These items can change the normal balance of organisms in your vagina.



answers from Oklahoma City on


Google female yeast infections and pull up the ones that are the simplest for him to understand then make him sit there with you and both of you read them and discuss the information.



answers from Chicago on

Honestly, I don't think guys get it when it comes to down there for a woman. I used to get a yeast infection monthly, right around my cycle. My husband did not accuse me but did act like "yeah right". I Noticed that if I take in more sugar at a certain time of the month, I am sure to get one. A friend of mine has a naturally low good bacterial level. If she forgets or runs out of her supplements, she gets one.

I just wanted to mention that at one point my husband and I were not communication well and at one point he accused me of cheating. At no time did I even consider that he could be and really just getting a guilty conscience like others have suggested. Sometimes they are just so insecure.

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