Please. Please. Please. Talk with your pediatrician.
You're looking for perfection or something and I'm not a doctor. I've NEVER seen your daughter. I've NEVER evaluated your daughter nor would I over the internet if I were a doctor.
Consult your physician. Detail your concerns. If you believe there's a problem? Video tape what you see....if you are trying to "develop" her? You are going to push her...which normally isn't a problem - but STOP trying to make her be where you feel she should be.
My kids all developed at different ages. My daughter (now 30) was crawling commando style at 6 months, walking at 9 months...off the bottle at 9 months and ONLY sippy's she refused a bottle after 9 months. Had a pacifier until she was MAYBE 2.
My oldest son (now 16) didn't crawl until 9 months, walked at 12 and was yapping at 9 months old...NEVER used a pacifier. EVER.
my youngest (now 14) didn't crawl much - just went straight into walking. Stopped breast feeding on his first birthday. LOVED a bottle. Had a pacifier until he was 5 (this was a HUGE bone of contention for me...)
My boys were both preemies. Six and 4 weeks. My oldest was in the NICU for 10 days. My youngest was in for 9 days and he flat-lined on me when he was 4 hours old. Talk about panic.
You see? Even with the same mother? Children develop differently. Any mother on here will tell you each of hers did things differently. Hell - even TWINS do things differently.
BREATHE mama. BREATHE....write your concerns down. Consult your doctor.