How long does it take to conceive a second child?

Updated on February 21, 2008
S.H. asks from Bethany, LA
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My husband and I have been trying to conceive since April. We have a beautiful 18 1/2 month old little girl. I am starting to get a little down because it is taking so long to get pregnant this time. It only took us four months to get pregnant the first time, which we lost that baby, and only two months to get pregnant with my daughter. Its been nine months since we started trying. Did it take anyone else this long to get pregnant after there first child? Do you think it is time to talk with my docter?

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There are a lot of factors involves when trying to conceive. Some conceives right away, while some couples takes years, it really depends on each individual. Check out the article for other couples' experience, and consult with your health professional.

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answers from Birmingham on

It took me 4yrs the first time, 2yrs this time, and it took my sister 15 yrs. My sister just found out that she is pregnant. Im 19 weeks pregnant with a little boy. Dont take this the wrong way but mabe you should give up. I swear as soon as you do itll happen, It did for me and my sister. I did the basal temp and the whole 9 yards. Two weeks after I through out my thermometer I was pregnant. It will happen try not to be down.

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answers from Nashville on

Nope..... stop trying. I know so many people that wanted one so bad and tried and tried and tried. When they adopted or decided that they were blessed with what they have.... BOOM! they were pregnant.
I can definitely vouch that NERVES has everything to do with getting pregnant.
Tell yourself you are fine with what you have and you will just go about life like this. Plan some mini family vacations and get your mind off of it.
It works everytime.
And sometimes, God has a time and a plan for you too.
Besides, you are only 23... you have 20 years left to have a baby. RELAX. Don't think about it.
Good Luck

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answers from Memphis on

hi Sweetie, oddly enough caffeine can be a cause not only for not getting pregnant but for miscarriage too... and you probably consume more because you are juggling more responsibility at this point... So, try to relax, try to drink more water and stay hydrated, try to sleep as much as possible (haha right?) and try to reduce caffeine if you consume a lot. My husband and I have had the same issue, and you have to acknowledge that you and your husband -- the good news -- have "all the right stuff" to make a baby, and then, it's all about taking good care of yourself for the next baby. So, take good care of yourself (as well as you are taking care of the others in your life) and remember to breathe deeply and drink lots of water. God's timing is flawless! That precious new baby will be along right on time. Good Luck!!!



answers from Texarkana on

I tried actively to get pregnant with my seven year old for at least a year and a half. It took a long time...When I went to the doctor, he said try more often and come back in six months. Sure enough, I was pregnant within six months. We just weren't trying hard enough, I guess-lol! Good luck. I know I was really down each time it didn't happen, but when it did I was overjoyed! Also, try to relax. That was my problem, I think. I was too focused on the outcome, not the fun. After we went on a cruise, I was pregnant the next month. I was TOO stressed out! Hope you get pregnant soon!



answers from Austin on

Hi S.! :)

It took me 5 years the first time! LOL! What made a difference was an improvement in diet. I cut out all additives, preservatives and artificial anything and started eating lots of fresh healthy stuff. I lost 16 lbs and became pregnant. :) A healthy diet can really make a difference in your body's ability to conceive. :)

Best of luck!



answers from Jonesboro on

Hi S.,
What kind of birthcontrol were u on after the birth of ur daughter? If it was the depo shot then it will take at 6 months to a year to get out of ur system. Sometimes longer. When I got off of mine it took me at least 2 1/2 yrs to get pregnant again. We lost the baby and then was told to wait a year to get pregnant again. We waited for the year then miscarried the baby also. So in all it took us 6 years to have our youngest daughter. First of all if I were you I would start tracking my cycles, If u havent started doing that yet. Then also get one of those Ovulation predictors. They work really good. It doesnt have to be the most expensive ones either. I got the Answer Ovulation predictor tests. The first time that I used them I found out that I was pregnant 3 weeks later. I will also post a site on here for u to use to track your cycles. Here it is.. here is another one I wish you the best of luck!!! I understand how painful and worrying it can be.


answers from Fort Smith on

Hi S., I can feel your pain. It took us longer to get pregnant with our 2nd one also. Same with some of our friends. We know 2 couples that have been trying for a year now and they just found out they are pregnant. I think alot of it is - we are anxious and ready and think it won't take long. We got pregnant once we weren't thinking about it all the time and taking pregnancy test all the time. I talked to both couples and they were anxious and taking pregnancy test all the time. Once they forgot about it and knew it would happen when it happened, it worked. Hope this helps! Good Luck!!



answers from Knoxville on

Hey, don't worry about it. Just relax, lite some candles and let nature do its thing. If you get all worked up about this you will never become pregnant. You and your hubby need to relax. Try something different, take a shower together, drink a glass of wine or something. It took me 7 years to get pregnant. I finally said forget it, if it is meant to be it will happen and well, she was born on my birthday. Relax and don't wnat it too bad.



answers from Lake Charles on

Yes, it took my husband and I 3 years to get pregnant. I got really discouraged and would cry and cry, but as soon as we quit trying, I got pregnant. All it took was a night out alone, a few drinks, and a Christmas party. Our baby is now 4 months old, and absolutely the biggest blessing of my life. So don't give up. Quit trying and enjoy yourself. It will happen when the time is right. Believe me, I am speaking from experience.



answers from Montgomery on

I would go ahead and talk to your doctor, it can't hurt, and at the same time, you could buy an over the counter ovulation packet and try using that to concieve. Keep your spirits up, don't let this get you down! I'll be praying for you.




answers from Macon on

Keep telling yourself that you are going to get pregnant in the right time and you will eventually. Stop focusing on what you don't have and focus onyour little girl and you will have your baby in no time. You have to have positive thoughts. Reads Proverbs 18:21. Life and death are in the power of your tongue and it is so true even in this situation.

Best of luck
K. S



answers from Hattiesburg on

I know it is hard to think of anything other than the baby in your future, but if you stop trying you will succeed. The stress of trying so hard makes your body fight the stress taking away from the goal. I was told at 19 i would never have a baby. I tried and tried to no avail. when i finally gave up and said well i guess it is not meant to be i got pregnant 2 months later. Do not fret if it is in god's plan it will happen when it is supposed to. GOOD LUCK.



answers from Memphis on

I concur with everybody else--don't stress out about it. You're so young that it shouldn't be a worry. I think the prevailing wisdom is that if you haven't conceived in two years from trying, then maybe you should seek help. Use this time that you're trying to conceive to take a close look at your health--diet, exercise, and stress level--because it can make it harder to conceive if you're eating poorly, not exercising, and stressed out. Besides, you will have a better, more healthy pregnancy and easier birth if you are healthy going into pregnancy. I know it can be frustrating, but just try to relax, and think that there may be some good reason why it would not be the best time right now to be pregnant. Think of the negatives of pregnancy, and that you may have horrible morning sickness coinciding with your daughter's flu, if you were pregnant now. Or something like that. Things will happen when they happen, and worrying about it won't get you pregnant.



answers from Huntsville on

i know exactly what u r going through. my husband and i have been trying for 7 months. i have tried the ovulation kits and then i tried to not worry about it but u have to think about having sex to get pregnant. people keep telling me stop trying it will happen but u can't stop trying.. we have a little girl who is 3 fixing to turn 4 in aug. i just don't understand how it can happen so easily the first time and now it's so hard. so i am with u on how frustrating it is. if i were u i would visit the doc or just leave it up to god. it will happen in time.. good luck



answers from Chattanooga on

I agree with all those that have said...relax, just let it happen, don't stress about it. My oldest son is 7 years old. I had him when I was 18. Of course my boyfriend then (husband now) had NO intention of having another for a VERY long time. I went on birth control immediately after Hayden was born. After my husband and I got married we discussed when we wanted to have another. We decided that when Hayden turned 4 we would start trying again. Well...Hayden turned 4, I stopped taking birth control, and we began trying to conceive. Every month I would think am I pregnant, is this the month...and then my period would come and I would go through about a week of depression and sadness. When Hayden turned 5 and I STILL wasn't pregnant I finally thought to myself...this is silly, I give up...if it happens, it happens. Two months later I was pregnant and Bodhi was born 3 months before Hayden's 6 birthday. Again my husband and I discussed when we would start trying again for a girl and thought when Bodhi turns 1 we will start trying again, and bam 3 months after Bodhi was born I was pregnant again. Zoe was born 6 days before Bodhi's 1st birthday. So stop stressing, enjoy the trying part, in fact try 10 times a day, just have fun with it. Once you have fun with the trying, you will find yourself expecting. Isnt trying the best part anyway:)! Keep us updated.

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