How Do You Get Your Husband To....

So funny. I'm with ya. Mine does the same thing. Like when I'm bending over getting things from the dishwasher. Really? You think now is a good time? Drives me crazy! I have to be careful when I'm cleaning so as not to stick my butt out doing anything. This is a guaranteed green light for him to come over and pat my butt, or say something. Most of the time I just laugh it off, he means well. He's attracted to me, and that's good. But I swear sometimes he's like an animal! :) I've told him to try a different approach, and he is kind of getting the idea. Men and women are just different. They don't understand why we don't just hop on them for sex.

Just let him know that women don't "heat up" like men do (with a grope). If he wants you to want to get physical, he's going to have to pre-heat the oven!

You didn't "turn uncool." I guarantee that there are things he used to do to pre-heat your oven that he's not doing anymore. Remind him that it's a two-way street. It's not just about him getting to "touch a boob," it's also about YOU getting enjoyment out of it.

ETA: You know...after reading 8kidsdad's response, I couldn't help but think of something...

If your hands are in the dishpan or you're leaning over the dishwasher or maybe your hands are stuck in ground beef...and your hubby grabs you...try NOT squirming away. Think of the fantasy that is going on in your hubby's mind. Shoot...wear a flowy skirt and (so long as there's no danger of the kids walking in) GO WITH IT! Bare your neck a bit so he can kiss you. Lean into his touch. I'll bet he will do more than just grope...he'll use those hands to please you too! Just your willingness and response to his touch might be just want he needs and what you need as well. ;o)

I've read "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands." While a little bit of it is not possible for me (I can't be a SAHM at the moment), there is a lot of AMAZING stuff in there.

And now I'm wishing my SO weren't deployed overseas! I miss him!!!

I would LOVE to get attacked, LOL!!

If he's intentionally trying to get under your skin (which he is), get back at him by playing by his rules. As he's getting ready to go to work, instead of a quick hug and a kiss, grab his crotch... when 'it moves', smile, peck his cheek, and say 'okay honey! have a nice day!' and shove him out the door... see how comfortable (or not!) THAT ride to work is, HAHAHA!!

When your husband said, "Take it easy" it was probably because you squeezed too hard. Rub, Yes. Stroke, Yes. Lightly "tickle" or scratch, Yes. Squeeze, No.

Get the book, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands." It will explain a lot about how your husband feels. After you read it, give it to your husband so he can read it. He will learn a lot about you.

The longer the time between being intimate with you the more your husband will have sex on his mind.

If you want things done differently, then show him, tell him. But realize you are giving mixed messages. You said, "I have told him a million times, if he tried a different approach, like maybe a kiss or a hug first and would get him way further than groping. Maybe if he could ease his way into it, I would stop doing the dishes and give him attention. I am not against groping at all, but geez, take it slower!" Then you complained, "Before he left his morning he gave me a kiss and then stuck his hand in my bra. I gave him a funny look and he was like 'Why cant I just touch a boob before I leave?' lol." You asked for a kiss or a hug first, then when he did, you complained when he touched your boob.

Almost all men love to touch their wives. Its apparently a man thing, from what I've learned on this site.

What should you do the next time you are washing the dishes and your husband reaches around you and gropes your boobs? Tell him to back up 15 seconds and try again. Tell him, first grab my upper arms and squeeze, like a hug. Now, step forward and kiss my neck on each side and say, "I love you!" "I think you are so sexy." Now reach around and grab my boobs and hug gently (or however you like it.) Undo the buttons on my blouse as you kiss my neck and nibble my ear(s). Tell him to say, "I love you so much" "Thanks for doing the dishes and the laundry. I sure appreciate what you do for me and for our family." Now undo my bra. Kiss my neck some more. Give me a hug. Now reach under my bra . . . I could go on, but you get the idea.

I realize I may have the wrong words or gestures, but YOU know the right words and things you want him to do. By giving him "private lessons" he will learn and you BOTH will be happier. When my wife and I went to a couples massage class on one of our cruises, I was massaging her too hard in some areas and not hard enough in others. If she hadn't told me what she liked, I'd still be doing the wrong thing.

You are welcome to e-mail me if you want to bounce questions or ideas off me, but I have no doubt you know what to do.

Good luck to you and yours.

Annoying. You proved it by your experiment. I think a happy compromise would be to make sure you give it to him on a regular basis, but on your terms. That way he gets it and you get to control the how and when.

Too funny. You are handling it well. You've just reminded me that my husband hasn't just reached over in the car and grabbed my boobs in a while. It used to annoy me, and I felt bad that I could not explain to him why. Now, I wonder why he's stopped. (Isn't that just like a woman?)

Anyway, maybe you should get yourself all worked up one day and just jump him. Let him work that testosterone down to a good workable level while knowing that you're still interested. (You guys are cute.)

Maybe I'm weird lol cause I LOVE when my man does that kind of stuff!!!!
o o Do what Rachel said! Give it back!
Tease the S&$% out of him just to get on his nerves. Hey you might like it too haha

My hubby does that all the time. I was baking muffins yesterday, after the 1st batch was done he comes strolling in the kitchen. I was taking them our of the pan to cool. He comes up behind me to get one. He grabs a muffin with one hand and my breast with the other......he says "oh I'm sorry, I was just trying to reach a muffin" lmao he's a punk like that

Keep doing what you tried, Molly. That's the best defense. And when you grabs your boob, say back to him "Take it easy, or I'll attack your junk again." THAT should seriously work!!!!

Dawn

Oh thank god! I thought I was alone!

My husband is forever going for my boobs at the worst times and not just a handful or playful "honk" (yes, he "honks" them from time to time), but right for my nips, which are SUPER sensitive since I gave birth and breastfed. It's like he figured out what play there can do to me and now it's his favourite "button" and he skips all the others. Like you said, I love him and sometimes playing "horny teenagers" is great, but I swear, sometimes that Neanderthal instinct takes over and I've lost him. Deep down they never do grow up.

LMAO! Thanks for the laugh.Sounds just like my husband, ugh. Drives me NUTS. What's even worse is when he does it when we have our Sunday dinner with his parents. Gross.

No advice for this one, sorry!

**Rachel D, I actually did that to my husband last night before he left for work (works nights) he was NOT a happy camper.

LOL! I just read this post to my hubby & we are both laughing he is so much like your hubby I can be in the cooking, washing dishes or just trying to have a conversation w/him & he will come up behind me & rub against me or stick his hands up my shirt or whatever whenever.....his response is...we as women grow up & become mommies & forget what it was like when we were dating. hubby also says that's how he shows me his affection, that he's turned on by me & he's saying WOW! even though you're a mom you're still hot!

Mine is the same so I have no idea but ill watch yours and see what the peeps come up with LOL

Ha. I like the approach you've taken to just start groping him. I'd say "Just want you to see what it feels like. Wouldn't you rather I kiss your ear before I grab your junk? Well that's how I feel when you just grab my boobs. I'd be much more turned on if you took a more gradual approach."

But honestly, I kind of WISH my husband touched me like this. It could be worse -- where he only touched you when in bed during sex.

Lmao!!!
I think our husbands are brothers in a past life! I feel your pain, don't get me wrong I like feeling wanted and live that he us that attracted to me but control yourself! I agree with the other moms, give him what he gives you! I do and sometimes it back fires on me but but not always!!

He's being annoying...like my husband. They don't get that these things are offensive to us especially at inappropriate times.

My husband is too much the other way! I never get "attacked"...
But I'm sure if he did it ALL the time it would drive me nuts.

At least all of you ladies don't work WITH your husbands too!!!! ☺

If I grope mine back... He says, "Alllllllllllriiiiiiiiiigggggghhhhhhhtttt... Giggidy." *Think Quagmire on Family Guy*

Molly, if he is doing this to bug you it's called disrespect. I don't care how often y'all have sex, it doesn't mean that he can grab at you whenever he pleases and ESPECIALLY when you are busy doing something and you have your hands full.

Sexual touch is for mutual pleasure, not just for him to touch some boob before he goes to work. If that's all he wants, you can buy a prosthetic boob and hang it by the door so he can rub it on the way out. I am kidding, of course, but I hate the "entitlement" thing that says that men are just wired that way so they should be able to behave like apes.

Yes, tell him what you like and tell him that he is not winning himself any favor by doing the sneak attack. But, don't let him read that Proper Care and Feeding..... book. It doesn't teach men anything nice about women and that's a tree that you don't want him barking up.

What's a "drawl?" ::rasises eyebrow:: I thought that was referring to a pattern of speech. Confuzzled. Unless you mean he sticks his hand in your drawers/pants.