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Updated on December 08, 2010
Z.M. asks from Concord, CA
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i have two question. the frist one is how do i get my ten month old son out of mommy and daddys bed into his own bed???????

ok so my son is ten months and he still awakes up every two to three hours in the nite to eat. how do i get him to sleep thought the nite.????

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S.J.

answers from Huntsville on

my son didn't start sleeping more at night until I got him out of my bed.
I read a post on here the other day about 'touching it out'.....a lady put her baby in it's crib and let the baby touch her until it fell asleep...that might be a thought...might help with the change.....

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N.B.

answers from Toledo on

Since he's in your bed and eating 2-3 times a night, he's probably nursing, so you have 2 separate problems---- being in your bed, and waking unnecessarily to eat. Solving the first problem will phase out the second in a short time. You can get him out of your bed cold turkey into his crib, be there to soothe after 5 minutes of fussing, then take a few minutes more each time to respond. He'll eventually go to sleep waiting for you. The other problem is eating. He'll soothe himself without eating when you take longer and longer to respond. Right now, he doesn't have to move or fuss or probably even wake up fully to eat, so why wouldn't he grab a snack? Heck, if I had a plate of cookies by my bed every night, I'd be snacking in the middle of the night, too! He doesn't need to eat at night anymore, and he DOES need to establish good sleep habits. You'll all get a better night's sleep.

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K.P.

answers from New York on

First answer- put him in his own bed and don't let him back in yours!

Second answer- he doesn't need to eat in the middle of the night, he's looking for comfort. Cry-it-out will do the trick if you stuck to it and do it the right way!

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C.B.

answers from Boston on

Get Doctor Ferber's "how to solve your child's sleep problems" from the library of Amazon.com. With my first I let her cry it out: 4 nights in a row she cried for 4 hours straight and then slept through the night. With the second I used the Ferber method: it took 2 weeks but seems much gentler (on mom as well). Although they are now 10 and 13 and neither remembers that time, so if I were to do it again I would do the fast crying it out method. Good luck.

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T.H.

answers from Bismarck on

not sure about the first question because we never did that but I'm sure if you just put him in his crib and let him realize that he needs to sleep there (it might be a tough couple of nights but he will learn). As for the second question, basically the same answer as the first. Let him cry it out in his crib. At 10 months unless he is extremely small and your doctor tells you to continue feeding him through the night there is no need for him to be eating at night. It will be tough on him and you at first but just pull through it and you will all be much happier in the end. Hearing your baby cry it out is never easy but sometimes that is the only way they will learn. I would give it a 3 nights at least and I'm sure you will see results if not I would maybe try going into his room and rubbing his belly or back just to let him know that you are still there but don't feed him. Just my suggestion. Hope it helps.

M.J.

answers from Dover on

I was a cry-it-out kind of mom. Don't get me wrong, it was torture for me to go through, but after 2 nights we never had the sleep-in-your-own-bed problem again. Granted, my son didn't sleep with us, he just wanted me to hold him until he fell asleep & then gently place him in his crib, but I had a new baby & just wasn't able to do that every night for him anymore.

As for the waking up for feedings, I would just make sure that he has a good dinner & maybe some extra cereal in his last bottle of the night. If he's not hungry that should help with the problem I would think.

K.N.

answers from Austin on

As for the sleep question, it's hard to answer without know what his diet is like. If he eats more carbs and fruit than protein (especially before bed) then he probably is waking up hungry. My motto when my daughter was that age: Hungry children will not sleep. If she woke up every few hours, that told me she was hungry and hungry was waking her up.

Sorry, can't advise on undoing the co-sleeping question.

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R.J.

answers from Seattle on

Have you tried yet? Some babies transition very very easily. Others don't. Until you actually try for a few nights you won't have any idea if you'll need to do any kind of transition or not. There are hundreds of transition tricks (from sleeping with the crib sheet for a night or two so it smells like you, to moving them once they're already asleep, to staying with them... literally hundreds of things to try).

It's fairly normal for babies to still be waking to eat every few hours, especially when they're in a growth spurt. There's no way to "get" a baby to sleep through the night if they're not ready. It's just a choice of to ignore them or see to their needs.

As has been mentioned, babies often will not sleep through the night when they cosleep. Some do, most don't. We all move around a great deal when we're sleeping so for a light sleeper, every movement during the wrong cycle in their sleep will wake them. Making sure their bellies are as full as possible, and that they are dry (even changing them while the sleep) helps. But many baby tummies just aren't big enough for 5+ hours of sleep. Most are at around 6-9mo, but many aren't. Some 2 week olds have bellies big enough. It really is on a child by child basis. Another thing is to make sure that they aren't overtired when you put them down (any baby that's overtired that I have ever known will wake and wake and wake).

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T.C.

answers from Colorado Springs on

I always start the transition at nap time. Once they are comfortable with that routine, I just move it to night time as well. You might try putting a heating pad in the bed before you put him down so that it is nice and warm for him when he gets there. Of course, make sure you remove it before putting baby down. The sheets should be snuggly warm for him, just like you are.

Some babies need to keep nursing during the night if you are breastfeeding. At 10 months, are you feeding him table food yet? I have some who did by then, and others who didn't. If so, you can maybe give him some bananas right before bed as they are very filling. Maybe mix it with some cereal if he has that. Enjoy these days. They really don't last forever, I promise. :)

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S.R.

answers from Detroit on

For the question of sleeping you will just have to keep putting him in his own bed. Yes I hate to hear them cry but try the five minute thing it will get better.

Now for the night feedings what I did with my first was when she would wake up and want a bottle all I would put in it was water. She did not like that at all. After a few nights she gave up and just slept all night. The Doctor was right the night feeding was only a habit not really needed. Hope this helps a little.

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J.C.

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To get him in his own bed, just put him in it. He may cry, just go in every 5 minutes to comfort him without taking him out of the bed. When he is calm, leave, and if he fusses again wait another 5 minutes. He will get it. For the night waking, there is no reason a 10 month old needs to eat at night, he is looking for comfort, so you need to teach him to self sooth. The 5 minute trick will work for that as well.

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