Help with My Job

Hi G.:
As you would imagine,its very difficult to give advice,when you hear merely one side of an argument.Under the circumstances,the best thing you could do is stay cool, calm and collective,if approached by your superiors on the subject. As a rule,when an individual appears more stable and in better control of their emotions,they become more believable.If they are steadfast and calm in their demeanor, they exhibit self control. If you act eager to be heard,speak loud,and come across frustrated,or on edge,you appear less believable.It's difficult to do this at times.Especially when your dealing with clever individuals,that boast of their ability to create trouble,or havoc with little effort.I wish you the best. J. M.

G., you didn't give us much info to go on. So all I know for sure is a paper trail is necessary. Document the harassment. If there are witnesses, you write it out, they can sign it. Document times/reasons for visits to the HR dept. A paper trail may just save your butt. Especially if it goes to a lawyer or higher ups.

I was in a work situation years ago where my immediate supervisor, who was in control of all my assignments, did not like me. She hid it very well from others but she was very obvious when it was just her and I. Like it could be late at night, we were both working, we would be the only two there and she would walk right past me by the photocopier or something and look right at me and say things like "yuck". You know, childish stuff. I remember one time, she called me into her office just for me to hear a phone call where she was taking credit from something I had done. Harassment is out there, either find a way to deal or move on.

I chose to move on. I chose www.SolutionsForMyFamily.com. Maybe you will find peace and serenity in a home based business where you get to choose everyday who you are going to work with. I know it has been an absolute blessing for me to work from home, to be there for my kids, to have time to myself and to make a solid income. I thank everyday for that nasty woman who make my life miserable, without her I may not have found my new passion.

Blessings,
B.
Family Wellness Coach

I was a manager in corporate america and dealt with H.R almost daily. Documentation is the key, especially if you have eye witness accounts. As far as leaving the workplace for a home business,,, realize that you are not going to have replacement income right away. So if you can do it on one income until your biz picks up that's great, if not.. .maybe start something part-time. I chose a great company that truly provides real residual income and I don't do party planning or sell products.

I'd be happy to share more details. http://www.HelpUstayHome.com

G.,

Without knowing the whole sitiuation here is my advice with some process added.

Depending on the type of harrasement it is you first need to let the harraser know that this needs to end. I would do it over e-mail or through a letter so that you have proof of this step. If, it doesn't stop let your boss know in person but summerizing your meeting in an e-mail sent to your boss and printed for your file. Again if it doesn't stop back to HR you go with your letters and any proof of the harrasement. If, HR does nothing per the Head of HR it is time to talk to a lawyer. Harrasement in the work place is really easy to prove if no does anything and you have documentation. Unfortunitly what happens is that people feel harrased and have no proof and Manager sweep it under the rug.

I was in the Corp world for to many years and now I am a at home Mary Kay mom:)I wish you well in your current and future career.

Julia M. gave spot on advice.
This is true, in the work world... it is about the "impressions" you give outwardly, that make a big impact and retain a sense of "professionalism" on your behalf.

That being said... you MUST DOCUMENT EVERYTHING, this woman has done... to support your side of the story.
ie: keep track of dates/times/situation/details about what happened etc. Anything.

ALSO, the HR department is supposed to be neutral... but they must adhere to any federal/state labor laws... most states are an "at-will" state, meaning anyone can be hired or fired for any reason.... other than "discriminatory" reasons. And you can find this online.

If you use the word "harass" at work, and say that this is what the lady is doing... then you should document that and if you have "witnesses" to these events of harassment.. then say so. But again, it can all be very subjective... or just a personality thing.

So... it may take time to get this settled... or fixed. But as Julia M. said... you MUST maintain your composure...otherwise, yes, they will think that the other lady is innocent.

But, also, a company is supposed to figure something out... because if an employee is being legitimately "harassed" and/or bullied and/or threatened etc., they can be liable for anything in this sue-happy-litigious world. So... they naturally have to protect themselves too.

Good luck,use wisdom... and research your situation,
All the best,
Susan