My daughter-in-law and i haven't spoken in over a year. To this day i do not know why,i visited her and my son and grandkids and everything was fine we have always been close and we had a good time. When i got back home i called to let them know i was ok and no answer and she didn't call me back. After calling several times in the next 9 months my son finally called me and let me talk to the grandkids but still i didn't get to talk to my daughter-in-law. I have sent letters asking for an explanation and giving an apology for anything i may have done that hurt her. Still no response. I got to talk to my grandkids and son on christmas but not her. I really miss her she is like my own daughter. I don't know what else to do i have just been waiting to hear from her. She is very ill and i'm afraid she may not be able to contact me. My son tells me everything is ok but i don't believe him. Something must have happened. I just want to have a relationship with her again and be close like we were. Anyone out there have any advice for me.
Hi M.,
Your situation is heartbreaking to me and I am sorry it is causing so much angst and grief.
Is there any way you can go to your son & daughter-in-law's home, preferably not alone, to see for yourself what is going on? What about your other 2 sons. DO they have any idea what to make of this situation?
I do hope you get some answers soon and are able to reconnect with them, especially your grandchildren.
May God bless you M..
A.
I think it's time for another visit. My guess is this is the only way you will get your answers. Have you asked your son out right......."Ok, you wanna tell me whats going on, I haven't spoken to "daughter in law's name" in over a year, are you going to continue keeping me in the dark". How about contacting your daughter in laws family. Being that she was ill, perhaps they can shed light on this. Good luck M., I hope all turns out well for you.
I believe you did all you were supposed to do as a good christian woman, am sure you do miss her and you are perplexed about what is going on but what else could you have done? you wrote letters you even asked your son and he said everything is OK... May be they feel as if this issue that they are going through is something they want to work out together as a family with no other members. At least you get a chance to speak to the children and your son, when they are ready i guess they will invite you in to let you know whats been going on, till then just keep praying for them and try to enjoy the voices of the others that do speak to you. This doesn't mean not to ask any more questions concerning your daughter-in-law, am just saying that you tone it down and let them come to you. Well I do hope all works out for you and the family, cause there is nothing like a mother-in-law that actually cares about you and wants a relationship.
Good luck, T.
Maybe she doesnt feel well and it is not you..
have you asked your son outright if he knows what's going on? i generally find that complete openness and honesty are the best in these types of situations. Tell them how you feel adn ask them openly what's going on..
Wait so it took your son 9 months to call you? Sounds extremely fishy to me. Have you asked your grandkids how mommy is doing? Not to put the kids on the spot but it could be a start. Call me synical but I can't help but to wonder if something awful has happened to her. Do you hear her voice in the background when you do talk to the grandkids?? I can't imagine why else your son wouldn't just say something like she's mad at you if that were the case. Someone else suggested you call her family..I 100% AGREE! If in fact something has happened and your son knows it and isn't telling you I for one would be forced to wonder where your son's priorities are. Oh and if you don't mind me asking, what is she ill with? Please keep us updated. I hope everything works out!
