Help from Co-Sleeping Moms!

Updated on June 10, 2009
M.A. asks from Chicago, IL
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Hey Co-sleeping moms,

I have a 4.5 month old daughter. She mainly sleeps with me in my bed or occasionally in the swing next to me. While I don't want her to sleep in bed with me forever, I'm okay with it IF we are getting a good night's sleep. Eventually, I know I'll transition her to another room, her own crib, etc(this worked well with my first daughter) However, lately, she will not sleep more than 1.5 intervals. Then she is squirmy, wants to nurse constantly. By the time I doze off, she is at it again. I honestly think she needs not to be so close to me. Every time we have a sitter, she goes down at 8pm and sleeps soundly for about 5 hours. Any advice on how to handle this? Have you been there and can even lend me a little moral support. The only other room I can put her in is my 3 year olds and I don't want to disrupt her sleep. Any advice from those who have been in a similar situation would be appreciated!

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Moms! Thank for your advice and support...it was just what I needed to hear! Last night, I did manage to get my darling to sleep in the co-sleeper! she only woke twice. I followed the advice given to me to wake myself up, nurse her and put her down..this helped tremendously! She is now napping (for the first time) in her co-sleeper!Thanks so much for being there, moms! I was really feeling overwhelmed yesterday. I will remain hopeful that we are on the right path!

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J.P.

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I have a 9 month old and 3 year old and had the same issues. My advice is to transition her now. I am totally for co-sleeping and my littlest co-slept with me until 7 1/2 months because the night wakings/nursing got to be so frequent. Sadly he is still this way even though we moved him to the crib. I believe I should have transitioned him earlier than 7 months. Since he is sharing a room with his older brother any type of sleep training can't happen and he is still waking up atleast 3x per night to nurse. Of course this could be his personality and maybe not related to the co-sleeping but my oldest co-slept for about 4 months and transitioned beautifully. Also my two boys share a room and it goes just fine, easier than I expected. My oldest never wakes when the little one cries at night.

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K.

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We have a similar situation (2 bedrooms, 3 year old and a baby), though my daughter is now turning one next week. I had a co-sleeper side-carred to my bed that she slept in until she was about 7 months (or rather, she started out the night in it but would end up in bed w/ me). That allowed her and I both to have more space than if it was just the bed. Once she got to be around 7 months old she was just rolling around too much and co-sleeping turned into co-not-sleeping for us. At that point I moved her to a crib, but still in our bedroom. That was MUCH better for everyone involved. That is where she is right now, though I am getting to the point where I think she needs to move out of our room (because now she sits up and yells but only when she knows I'm in the room).

Do you have enough space in your bedroom for a crib or co-sleeper so that she can be close but have her own space?

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B.S.

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We Co-slept with my son until he was about 6 months old. It was just easier to night nurse that way, but then he started nursing all night long. So, I slowly transitioned him to his crib. I set up the pack and play in our room and got him to sleep in it pretty much through the night. The key is to wake up yourself and put him back in the pack and play after nursing though. Then we transitioned to his crib. It was hard at first and he cried for about an hour the first time we put him in there. But, every night it got better and after I transitioned him into the crib, he started sleeping through the night because I wasn't there to "remind" him to nurse. Now he's a pro and goes right to sleep. But, they do sleep better without you as a reminder to nurse.

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H.D.

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I have my 2yr old in my bed. We have to share a rm so it's too hard for her to see me across the rm and stay in her own bed. She also nursed when she was a little baby and wanted to nurse all the time. She did sleep better when someone else would watch her too. I'm not sure why they do this and it is REALLY h*** o* your sleep and your mind. I really don't have a ny suggestions but I knw how you feel. I was always so tired I would cry. Hang in there. They are only so small for a short time. Good luck:)

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J.K.

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My son started this exact same thing at 3 months and is still doing it at 13 months. He starts in his bed around 7 pm. He wakes up between 11-1. I send my husband with a bottle,but the baby will only take 4 oz at a time. And now he is teething so he often won't go back down after that so he ends up in our bed. He still nurses on and off all night and uses me as a paci. He has slept in his crib a few times all night, but he has been teething on those front lower teeth like crazy! It's been swollen since winter. They are finally erupting. Anyway, can you fit a crib, playpen or co-sleeper in your room? The sooner you do it, the better. Otherwise, you'll end up like me - spacey and sleep deprived.

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S.S.

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My baby is 2 months old and the first few weeks I had him in the bed with me because he didnt want to be put down in the bassinet next to our bed. I found that he would just take little "snacks". So now I started feeding him for a full hour before I put him down for the night. He willsleep 4 hours an dthen get up to eat. Even though its hard, at 3:30 am I sit up in my bed and nurse him for about 30 minutes. when he starts dozing i make sure he wakes up to keep eating.

your baby may just be hungry because she is not eating enough at each feeding. If you want to contiune having her in your bed, try the same thing, but instead of putting her in the bas. put her on your bed. Good luck!

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