He Won't Stop Crying !!!!! - Detroit,MI

The best advice I can give you is when he does cry/throw a fit, make sure you state something like "I understand that you are upset about the answer Mommy gave you, but I am not going to change my mind. And your behavior is inappropriate." I know it sounds funny, but it will let him know that you hear him, but that you are the one in charge not the other way around. My neice did the same thing for a long time. The winey voice she talked in drove me nuts. A few weeks of me telling her something to that effect everytime she did it was all it took. I hate to say to kids "stop wining" or "stop crying" because in the long run I think that gives the the negative message of "don't come to me when you're upset".

You might want to try wining back at him so he can see how hard it is to understand you and what it feels like to have someone crying constantly.

I hope this helped.

When my four year old was born, he cried constantly. We thought it was colic and were at our whits end because we weren't able to get much sleep. Later I found out that he was very introverted and the more learned, the more it made sense. Introverts naturally have much more internal stimulation than extroverts (who have to seek it from their environments) they need down time and can lose it when they have had too much stimulation. My son used to scream for about an hour and a half or throw up if we did too much during the day. He still has his little melt downs after a busy day and if he is starting to feel out of control, he will lose it over little things. What helps with him is to give him his downtime. I will lay with him in my bed with the lights out and we will snuggle until he tells me that he is fine again, after that he is an entirely different kid!

You may want to check out the book "Raising Your Spirited Child" as it is chock full o' information and tips for dealing with this kind of stuff.

I have a book suggestion for you. I recently read a book called "Raising the Spirited Child" I have 3 very strong willed daughters.
It had a lot of great suggestions and ideas on how to help these types of problems, and helped me to understand why a child may be acting out. I also liked that it made me feel that I was not alone with these issues - that other parents deal with these things too.

Good luck!

Hi,

I have a son who just turned 5. He also cries about everything. He is a sore loser and can't even play games with his friends cuz if he loses he throws a bit fit. He is a perfectionist too. If things don't turn out perfect for him (coloring, drawing, etc) he gets all bent out of shape and starts crying and gets up and leaves the room. My husband and I are trying to work with him. We tell him crying isn't going to help him and that if he keeps it up he won't have any friends left. He has gotten a little better (with his friends), but still not good. I don't know what to really do either. If you find anything out let me know! :) I'm with you on this one.. Good Luck!
Marci