Having a Hard Time with 1St Grade

Updated on September 19, 2008
M.H. asks from Orem, UT
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My first grader is very bright and talented and has always LOVED school....2 years of preschool and then kindergarten....until now with first grade. She cries every morning and tells me she has a sore throat or her tummy hurts....I even had her tested one day for strep thinking it may be...until I caught on and realized she is just fine-she tells me she misses me too much while at school-she calls home a few days a week telling the nurse she is sick....it is driving me crazy and I am sure it is driving her teacher crazy...what do i do?

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K.H.

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That's such a long time to be gone everyday for these littles ones. My son is loving kindergarten but keeps asking when he can stay home. I think he feels like he's missing out on fun things at home. I can't believe how well sticker charts or reward systems works with my kids! Maybe each day she comes home, you can add a sticker to a chart and at the end of the week go out for ice cream, or go to the park. I would also try to find out if there's something going on at school that is causing her stress. Good luck!!

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J.S.

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I had a daughter who had this same problem in 2nd grade. She actually was in a full time Kindergarten and we moved here and she loved school. I did not recognize the signs and I tried my best to help at home. I had a medically challenging baby born the March before this, so I was rarely around as I spent most of my time and energy on the baby. I counted her problems on the instability of home life. It wasn't until late in the year (and not worth the effort) before (in talking with a friend that worked in the school) I realized that the teacher and some of the kids in the class even were adding to the problem. I know I couldn't do anything at that point, but I made a point to make sure she was not in the same class as these bullies and made a point to get a good teacher this year.
It isn't the fault of your child nor the teacher. But we all have our own personalities and at a young age, you should not be forcing your child to get along with someone that clashes with their personality. So as those before me have suggested, observe the class and possibly talk to different aids that might come and go. The teacher and students will behave for a one time observance. So if you can't get involved, talk to other mom's and get their opinion.
Good luck

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C.S.

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As the other response suggested, you really need to get into the classroom and see what is going on. The problem could be anything from another student to the teacher to struggling with the work or paying attention. At your child's age they do not openly admit problems they are having because they are afraid to face it. Talk frequently with your child and find time to visit the classroom- and maybe the playground at recess to observe your child.

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H.G.

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Maybe her teacher gets angry at some of the kids. My daughter went through this and she was sick because of worry and stress over the other children who were being yelled at.

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P.W.

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First I would see if there are any big changes effecting her life right now, and see if she is stressed about them. Kids act out and things like this in order to cope with bigger issues they can't deal with on their own.

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L.J.

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M.

My oldest son had this problem in school also. He did great up until 1st grade. So what I did was scheduled a meeting with my sons teacher. I discussed his problem and asked what time my son was having the hardest time. I found out it was right before lunch. So I went and and volunteered for two weeks everyday during that time. I found out that this was the time they had silent reading. My son was having trouble sitting still. He also was seated in the conner of the room facing the opposite direction of all the other kids. I took care of that of coarse. He also had other problems like trying to crawl over people to get to centers because he was seated in the middle of a bunch of kids. so until I change a few things with his teacher to make his time more comfortable at school this problem went on. I also found out my son had A.D.D. It doesn't really show up till about 1st grade. I wish I caught on sooner because he would of had a better year. HE also would have enjoyed school better. SO I suggest you go to school and investigate and make sure your child is doing well. If things need to be change suggest it to his teacher. If you child need more re-enforcement you can talk to your son teacher on how you do that at home. I am sure she will do what she can to make him more comfortable in school. A lot of times just a simple observation in class can tell you why your child is acting that way.
I suggest you go every day for two weeks. Find a baby sitter if you have too. The first week I went to class it seemed just fine but the second week I was able to see the problem because everyone guard was down. I hope this helped

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