Having a Baby

I am in a very similar situation. My kids are (nearly) 9, 3, and 10 months, and I want to get pregnant in August. I wanted 6 originally, but now I want just 4 (because of having to have 2 c-sections). Honestly though, if we could afford it we'd probably have a dozen. My husband feels as though we aren't in a position to have any more, but I REALLY want one more. I can't explain it, I know it isn't rational, but I don't care.

I grew up as the oldest of 5 children, in an extremely poor family. I would trade my siblings for all the money in the world. There is no one in the world that you can count on like a brother or sister and I want my kids to have that. My siblings would do ANYTHING for me, and that feels great.

I've been slowly bringing it up with my husband, asking him if he is ready to talk about it, about once a month. DON'T be pushy :) Finally, last week he said he was willing to talk about it, and we had a long talk about the options, consequences, etc. I think its going to happen but we still have some more talking to do.

I hope it helps to hear somone else who feels the same way. Good Luck!!

Try just being blunt and honest and than let him tell you how he feels and go from there. I hope it goes well for you however you decide to tell him.

Hi T. my husband thought i was crazy when i wanted our fourth, we already had a girl and two boys my stepson and my goddaughter living with us. I just laid it out and told him how i felt and we got my littliest angel lol.I always wanted a big family and there is sometimes when it gets a little crazy but hey mostly its just great fun with alot of love to go around.we now have a 18 year old a 16 year old a 12 year old a nine year old a six year old and the baby who is now 3.and i wouldnt change it for the world!!!! Just tell him how you feel good luck let us now when your due. (lol)

I always knew I wanted another baby (or two...), but my husband didn't even want to HEAR the dreaded "B" word for the longest time. However, I'd go through true periods of baby blues and he knew how badly I wanted to add to our family... eventually, he became willing to discuss the idea and, a year later, he was finally ready. I think a serious discussion is due for you guys - he needs to be able to express why he's iffy and let you know what steps you could take to alleviate any concerns he has about having another baby. The one thing I would NEVER suggest is trying to "trick" him into getting you pregnant (I've actually read this suggested on BabyCenter boards!). Make sure you're both in it and ready for it together, otherwise resentments could find their way into the relationship.

Good luck!!

All I can tell you is to try and think of them as 18 - 16 - 14 and 12!! Teenage years are very, very hard and will probably be much harder by the time you get there. Enjoy what you have and you will be thanking me later! This from a mom who has 28 26 and 24. I also wanted six but I thank GOD every week that I stopped! The worries about everything never STOP!!
J.
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