Have Sex Everyday Until You Get Pregnant?

Updated on April 02, 2012
B.M. asks from Cleveland, OH
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we are trying for our second child and it's been five months, and we are still not pregnant (I am 37). I thought maybe we should try to have sex every day and see if that works....will this help or hurt our chances? I do track my cycle w/fertility calendar and check for mucus. I also take guaifenesin and vitex.

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J.S.

answers from Chicago on

I don't know about tracking, so I can't answer that. But I know that 5 months isn't "that long." I know it feels long, but don't lose hope!

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S.H.

answers from Honolulu on

A woman, gets pregnant when she is ovulating.
So, you need to know your body and when you are ovulating.

I got pregnant that way, each time, naturally, and I was about your age.
And when I was ovulating, we had sex everyday.

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K.H.

answers from Los Angeles on

that's a lot of work and pressure! :)

I recommend figuring out your ovulation cycle (there are tons of methods out there) and shoot when it counts, so to speak :)

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M.S.

answers from Dallas on

First, I would suggest you track your cycle and use ovulation predictor kits to determine when you ovulate. Once you've got that figured out, start having sex on or near your ovulation days. If after 2-3 months that doesn't work, I would suggest seeing a specialist for an evaluation, not because there will be something wrong, but because you don't want to waste time if there is.

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K.D.

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We didn't have to try very hard in my case. Every single time we have had unprotected sex in my fertile window (within 3 days of ovulation, in my case) I have gotten pregnant. Honestly, you don't need to do it all month long, though that would be fun, lol...it isn't always convenient! There really is only a small frame of time per month that most women can actually get pregnant. If you haven't really charted your cycle in the past, the single best way to know if you're ovulating is if you have slippery discharge when you wipe. Usually 14 days after the very first day of your period is when you ovulate. Good luck, let us know what happens!!

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H.M.

answers from Dallas on

You don't want to do it everyday. When you are at your peak you want to do it everyother day. That way he has time to get build back up. Thats what a fertility specilist told my friend to do. When I was trying to have my youngest I took my temp everyday and when it went up an full degree that ment I was ovulating. If you continue to have issues you might talk to your dr.

Good luck and God Bless!

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C.B.

answers from San Francisco on

It will lower the chances. Chart your cycle and try to ONLY have sex when you're ovulating.

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P.K.

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Every other day is best.

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S.F.

answers from Utica on

I didnt read the other responses but Im sure that many have said to stop trying and just go with the flow - enjoy sex when it happens and not make it about trying to conceive. I say this from experience. When we were trying for our first born it happened the first try so we assumed that that would be the case for B. number 2. I went off the pill in Nov and I didnt get pregnant until that following June. We tried and tried and tried and never had sex for the sake of having sex (if that makes sense) and then one day I said to my husband that it seemed we were never going to get pregnant and he suggested that we just stop trying. I swear I was pregnant the next time we had sex after that conversation. Your body is most likely stressed about all the charting and planning and is causing you to limit the chances that you will actually conceive. It really is harder said than done but if you can just try to let go and go with the flow it should happen. Also think of it this way - if you are trying for your second and maybe your last B. then this will be the last time in your young fun active sex life that you can just have sex and enjoy it for what its worth and not have to use a condom or take a pill everyday or whatever you do for birth control
B. Dust all over you and happy humping =)

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I.X.

answers from Los Angeles on

Get the book "taking charge of your fertility". Figure out when you ovulate and have sex like crazy around ovulation, especially the day of ovulation. One way to know you are ovulating is by charting your morning temp. Another way is that your cervical fluids are clear and stretchy, and yes this is a real term, like "egg whites". So when you have "egg white" fluids you are fertile. Don't' worry about all those non fertile days, no amount of sex will get you pregnant if no egg is present. At your age you likely have 2-3 fertile days month. Figure out when those fertile days are.
In theory sex every day might sound like a plan, but you have a little one so I'm sure you know that sex everyday would be exhausting and unrealistic. And what if you exhausted yourself with all that sex and skip on your one fertile day. I say be smart vs. frequent. If you don't want to figure out when you ovulate, then have sex every other day for 10 days in the middle of your cycle (so day 10-20 of a 30 day cycle). And most especially on the last day you have "egg white" cervical fluid (which is most likely your ovulation day ((your most fertile day)))

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E.W.

answers from Chicago on

I agree with the others - it should be every other day to every few days...

I feel for you though, I'm 28 and have been trying for #2 for almost a year...I've been using chlomid (not sure on spelling) for 4 cycles now...this is the last one b/c my OB told me if we didn't conceive this time that I will need to go see an endocrinologist. It's difficult not to stress over it and to me even charting my cycles felt like it took the fun out of making a B. (this is even less fun since you take pills at the beginning of your cycle and then go have a US done on day 12 to see if the pills worked and then ttc around ovulation)...I don't know how I feel about doing further testing/procedures...my best advice is to relax - I swear #1 was a miracle b/c we didn't have to chart, we said if it happened it did and if not it didn't...

Good luck though!

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V.W.

answers from Minneapolis on

You know... It seems like a lot more babies are born to people as "accidents" than to people as "planned" (Not saying that a planned B. is impossible, just telling you an observation that I have made). So my suggestion is that you throw out all the charts and calenders and pills, and then... Just have sex. Don't do it every day, or even every other day... UNLESS you are horny and you want to have sex with your husband, then by all means jump him! :)

Just do what you did before you were trying for another one minus the birth control :)

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C.W.

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I figured out when I was ovulating (there are usually certain signs if you really think about it-heavier mucus, cramps, I had some pink spotting, increase in body temp, and more the urge to you know..). When I figured it out, we tried to do it about once a day during that period. I did find that the more I stressed the harder it was. I don't think that having sex every day will hurt your chances, as long as it doesn't become a routine.

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S.B.

answers from Redding on

Well, I guess with that method of trying to conceive, you'd either have a lot of fun or get really burnt out trying.

I honestly, honestly, honestly believe there is such a thing as trying too hard.
I know people who spent fortunes on IVF treatments and nothing happened. They resolved themselves to the fact they just weren't going to get pregnant, went along with life as usual and SURPRISE!

There are stories after stories about people who eventually adopt a child and guess what? SURPRISE!

I really wanted another B. but I had been told that it was virtually impossible. I didn't even have all my parts left and I had such bad endometriosis that I suffered like you wouldn't believe. Finally, I got to the point where it was just time to let go. We scheduled my hysterectomy for January in order to get my insurance deductible out of the way and have the year covered.
Toward the end of October, I started feeling not quite right. I was really tired, the smells of certain things made me sick to my stomach. I thought I had the flu, but it just wouldn't go away.
I was in complete and total shock to learn that I was pregnant. That was the LAST thing I had considered especially since I rarely had periods so missing them was normal for me.

My point is that once I had finally accepted that another B. just wasn't going to happen, for real, dang if I didn't get pregnant! I honestly couldn't believe it. My daughter was 9 years old.

I do think there is something to just relaxing a bit about things and letting nature take it's course in it's due time. It's been my experience and that of many people I know that it's a better "method" if you want to call it that.

Trying so hard isn't working. Maybe trying less hard as far as totally focusing on it might help.

Just a suggestion and my opinion.

Best wishes to you!

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B.K.

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it's fun to have sex every day anyway!!! :) but yeah stop thinking about it so much - takes the fun out of it.

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B.M.

answers from Chicago on

It worked for me and we were not even trying.

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K.P.

answers from Dallas on

Well I see one of what might be a problem right there in your statement "aside from all that work". Sex is supposed to be fun, making a bady is supposed to be fun. You might be causing your body some uneccisary stress by thinking of this process in this way. Having sex everyday may help your chances but i think what will do you the most good is to relax and have fun and quit thinking of it as work.

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C.C.

answers from Chicago on

You do not have to have sex every day - I think that would hinder your chances. Do you take an ovulation test in addition to what you are doing?? Go out and buy the clear blue easy one with the smily face indicating you are ovulating. Then you have sex that day and the next day. Thats it. Your done. Or I bought a fertility moniter - not cheap but can find on ebay - or I will sell you mine. But it tells you the 5 most fertile days to concieve. You just pee on a stick every day "x" days after your period.

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D.R.

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Ideally it is sex every 36 hours, ex. Sunday am, Monday pm, Wed am, Thur. pm. You are doing every thing else right.

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A.H.

answers from Omaha on

Our doctor also said every other day was best. Also if you are B. dancing mostly at night, try switching to morning. I think that may have made a difference for us. My husband and I were in our mid-thirties when we started our family. After six months of no luck we did some fertility testing, I started clomid and we did a couple rounds of IUI. No success. Finally we just got pregnant on our own a few months later. When my son was six months old, we started trying for our second child. This time we used a digital fertility monitor (ClearBlue Easy). We were pregnant two months later with our B. girl! A monitor takes all the guess work out of it. You test every day and the monitor records your optimal days for B.-making. I highly recommend getting one!! A monitor and testing sticks will cost you about $300. We wish we had done that before doing those few rounds of IUI at about $1000 per session. So worth it!
Good luck!
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L.S.

answers from Fort Collins on

I have heard every other day is better also. With our second, however, we tried for 6 mths with no results. Finally we decided to try everyday for a month. We missed one or two days due to very busy schedules and not being at home at the same time. But...by the end of the month, we were pregnant!

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A.H.

answers from Chicago on

I would not do every day. If you are still trying in a couple of months, I would not delay having this checked out, as well as your overall fertility health with a fertility specialist. I wouldn't wait for a year before seeing someone-I did and it was a mistake. I would stick with the every other day pattern to give everything a chance to regenerate. I also would advise a morning pattern, since this is often when there is the best chance of conceiving. All the best to you and your family!!

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