Hard Time Finding Work

Updated on July 26, 2008
L.B. asks from Antioch, CA
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I'm having a very hard time trying to find employment. I've taken interviewing classes and other job related classes. I have been on several interviews, done call backs, thank you cards etc. And nothing.. do any of you have any advice? This whole situation has made me very stressed and depressed and it feels like I am taking it out on my daughter.

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So What Happened?

Well I decided to move back in with my mother for a while.. since i cant get a job at the moment.. I'm doing okay now, I guess but I feel like im a teenager again with all of my mothers rules n stuff. Hopefully I will be back on my feet by next year. =/

And to everyones input.. thanks.. I went to a couple of temp agencies.. but mostly what they have is office work (which im not really into).. I have been on several interviews since my last post but still no luck.. oh well..

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J.A.

answers from Los Angeles on

Hi L.,

Granted I wasn't pregnant, but I had the same problem some years ago. I had been unemployed for about 6 months because I was caring for my Grandmother before she passed. Than to add insult to injury, I had later been kicked out of my parents house. I had become SOOOOO depressed that I felt it would be easier to die than recover. (I'm glad I chose to live!!!!!)

I tried my best to seem upbeat, motivated, and ready to start any job, but it still took me about 3 MORE months to land a job. Later, the boss that hired me told me that "on paper you seemed like just what I was looking for, but when you came for the interview, there was something off. I hired you on an instinct, and I'm glad I did. Now I know what was off is that you were depressed." The funny part is that I had never considered that anyone else could tell.

Now looking back, I can CLEARLY see that it was obvious to many of my interviewers.

I mention this for a Number of reasons:
1) Whether you are becoming depressed because you can't find a job, or whether you've been depressed because of your life's circumstances, it can affect how well you interview.
2) Depression is a normal side-effect of pregnancy.
3) There are SAFE medications to take for it while pregnant, if that's what's wrong and you need it.
4) THERE IS NOTHING SHAMEFUL ABOUT DEPRESSION

If you feel there is even the remotest chance that this may be part of your problem, talk to a doctor ASAP! Do it for the sake of your daughter, your unborn child, and most impotently, your own sanity!

Keep looking, and try to stay positive around your little girl. –Janell-

P.S. you can check www.capgroup.com for jobs you may be qualified for. My friends husband work for them. He says they pay well and have good benefits. Only down fall is he said it usually take about 2 months to complete hiring process.

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K.L.

answers from San Francisco on

I would suggest posting an advertisement of your skills and services that you are comfortable with and willing to provide, or for a specific job you are looking for, on Craigslist! People don't realize how much traffic the sight gets - I have two bachelors degrees and worlds of experience in my field of business, but have found most of my work placements and clients by simply posting my credentials and position desires under the appropriate link - and BAM - my mailbox was filled with offers.
You may have to post every few days, or even under more than one link, but I promise you WILL get job offers if you are patient. Its a wonderful resource.

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W.F.

answers from Los Angeles on

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C.Z.

answers from Las Vegas on

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A.R.

answers from Los Angeles on

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E.D.

answers from Las Vegas on

Alot of employers dont hire pregnant women unfortunatly because they know you will be going on maternity leave. Its totally wrong and if anyone ever tells you thats why they are not hiring you they can be in big trouble. Sounds like you have alot on your plate, but maybe this is a blessing in disguise. I also have two kids a 3yr old and 1yr old I am married but because my husband makes the most money right now, I have to work around him. I am in school parttime right now to be licensed as an aesthetician(skincare specialist)and all these things lead me to starting my Arbonne business. I am not sure what your past position was but our company has people from all walks of life from never worked SAHM's to doctors and lawyers and everyone in between. I myself knew I didnt want to work for someone else anymore for the simple fact that things like what your going through can and will happen plus Im limited to the income I make based on what pay is. But most importantly not only was childcare expensive, I wanted to be with my kids and watch them grow, but I still wanted a career and to achieve my personal dreams. Thats why Arbonne fit into my career goals and life perfectly because I can work it on my time and when I am working really commit to make my business grow and I see others that have built their businesses and are making great money, they teach and coach me how to do it as well. Let me know if you would be interested its a great opportunity to start making choices for yourself and your family and not waiting on others to make those choices for you. To see the products (which I highly recommend and use)go to www.arbonne.com. I wish you the best for you and your family and know that God has a plan for you,stay strong in him. Contact me anytime.

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R.

answers from Las Vegas on

If you are already showing, this could be a problem. Even though it is against the law for employers to discriminate b/c you are a mom or are currently pregnant, they do anyway. So my advice is to not mention your kid or being pregnant at all during the interview. And if at all possible wear clothes that hide the baby if you need to. Good luck! It's great that you want to work and all and maybe finding some community resources would help you since you are single with 2 babies. Call the Health Dept. and ask them for help with your situation.

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N.S.

answers from Los Angeles on

L.,

I had the same problem. And tried everything. I just recently started working a few months ago, after a whole year of being out of work. I also have a 14th mth old daughter and my problem was her. At interviews I was worried about her, and never focused on what the interviewer was asking me and not really prepared for the interview. Because I was always rushing, making sure my daughter was okay, before I headed for the interview. So just be prepared days before the interview. Have someone to watch your daughter,make sure you look nice(not rushed), do research on the position and have interview questions ready. Just keep focused and have faith. A job will come.Try not to stress and worry. Think positive, GOOD LUCK!!!

N.

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A.V.

answers from Reno on

Hi,
I'm not sure what your level of work experience is, but if you have none, you may want to consider going through a temp agency. They take a percentage of your pay, but it's great way to get experience and learn job skills quickly and once you have that, you can land the job you want.
Hope that helps,
A.

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D.R.

answers from San Francisco on

Hi L.,

Have you tried Bank of America's call center? They always seem to be hiring and seem to have alot of hourly positions open. From my observations, it appears that the call center staff consists mostly of young adults, and college students because of the flexibility with hours. The hiring office is on Willow Pass Rd and Galindo - where the Concord Main branch of the Bank of America is at. Good Luck!

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K.B.

answers from Fresno on

L.,

I know finding a job that is Kid friendly can be difficult! I am owner of a fitness program in North Fresno, Clovis area called Stoller Strides. I will be looking for instuctors. It's part time, and you have to get certified, but it might be something! If your interested in getting more information let me know.

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answers from San Francisco on

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C.S.

answers from Corvallis on

Hi there L.,

You must be getting so excited about your new baby coming soon! It really does go fast though. It seems like forever since my kids were brand new. Anyway...Hee hee!

Have you ever considered working from home? I'm not a pushy sales lady. I'm not going to pressure you. I just found this company that is helping me build a business and it is actually working. We don't have to sell anything either! I'm really excited about it! I'd be happy to chat with you about it if you are interested or just curious. You can send me a note here or check out my website...or both. :)

Good luck to you in whatever you do!
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S.D.

answers from Los Angeles on

Hello L.

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M.D.

answers from Los Angeles on

Hi L., first i want to say that i have been in your shoes and now i am in them again, i was just let go Thursday from my job, which i am not sad about in the least, i absolutely hated the office and the people i worked with. I am just trying to figure out how to handle being fired which i think was done unjustly, and i think was not handled legally. I left my prior job which i was with for four years and started from the bottom and worked my way to an assistant position, was given promotions regurly and before i left got a $4 dollar raise, but my coworked found another job and took me with her, only to make more money. Well i learned my lesson the grass isnt always greener on the other side. I am now searching for a job and its not fun. My suggesion to you, which is what i did 5 years ago when i had no experience really to speak for, i went to a temp agency and thats how i got started in the industry i am in. It was the best thing that could have happened to me at the time. I was so depressed and down on myself, i went to maybe 20 interviews and not one would hire me and those were $8.00 an hour jobs. when the temp agency sent me to my assignment it started me on my way to having self esteem and beleiving in my self again and being self sufficent for my daughters, and being a good role model for them. Well this is my thought to you...dont be down on yourself and let the temp agency speak for you, all you have to do is show up and be a hardworker and they'll hire you, if you want them to. Good luck and keep your head up.

Michelle

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S.T.

answers from Sacramento on

I understand alot that your going through. Try to breathe - i know its hard - im in the same boat. I got laid off on st. Pattys day & have found it very hard to kepp on putting out the apps, calling, waiting for call backs, interviews & all the other stresses & hassles. I remind myself to do it for my kid. It gets hard but, try to about 1 hour (hopefully) take some you time - relax a little - then get back into it. Please let me know how it works out for you.??

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S.L.

answers from Los Angeles on

You've been interviewing while pregnant? ECK...that could be an issue with employers. OF course no one would ever admit that, but that is a "liability" to them. As in, they would have to look for a replacement in a few months while your on maternity leave, etc.

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A.S.

answers from Reno on

L.,

Have you considered something temporary and something convient for you and your daughter. Like a daycare position. One that would definitly help with childcare costs, especially if you are expecting your second. Once you've gotten yourself settled there then you have developed a trust and support system with those you work with at the daycare that it would become easier to look for a more substantial position elsewhere.

good luck, be patient, things will fall into place.

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M.T.

answers from Los Angeles on

Why not go back to school? That's what I did. I went back when I was 19 and there are a lot of programs to help single parents? Where do you live? I have a lot of resources....free childcare, Children's Home Society, the C.A.R.E. Program at Long Beach City College, I know the lady in charge....just to name a few. This is an opportunity for you to go to school. I did and now I have my BA in Child Development and a teaching credential and am able to spend a lot of time with my son. God works in mysterious ways! Keep me updated! and contact me if you want more info

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C.O.

answers from Yuba City on

Hi L.,
I have 2 young boys and this has given me the freedom to work at home, earn money for the family and meet new girlfriends and business partner. You do not have to do parties...

I'd love to help introduce you to Rodan + Fields Dermatologists Line. (Creators of Proactiv) They used to be at Nordstrom's for 5 years - the # 1 Clinical skin care line. Currently they are expanding across the country(ground floor) and are looking for Sales Reps to start their own home based business. Have you ever wanted to be your own boss, now it's possible with a reputable company!.
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Thanks for your time.
C.

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J.M.

answers from San Francisco on

What kind of work are you looking for?

If you do/can do/are interested in office work, I would suggest signing up with some temp agencies. Out your way, AppleOne in Walnut Creek is very good. In addition to temp work they can look for temp to perm or even permanent jobs for you.

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