Getting Pregnant Again..

I have three children ages 3 (boy), 2 (girl), and 4 months (boy). My first two are 13 months apart, my second and third are 22 months apart. None of them were really planned. I was pretty suprised when I got pregnant with my second -- my son was about 3 months old. I love having my kids close in age. They are a LOT of work but it is also a lot of fun and VERY rewarding.

First of all you are completely normal, I use to call it missing my pregnacy. When to have children is ones own choice.I wouldn't be to disappointed with the spotting after a baby is born our bodies go thru odd stages. Not me personally but alot of people I knew got pregnant shortly after delivering there baby including my sister-in-law she got pregnant before her 6 week check up.Good-Luck and Happy Mothers Day

I got a bit of baby fever after my son was still little, but luckily I snapped out of it because it was most definitely hormones. I now know its not what I wanted at all! Not to say that it wouldn't be perfect for you but maybe wait a little bit to clear your head! ;)

I think it's great to have your children close together, but I was recently reading an article that said if you have your children too close together the next child has a greater chance of being a low birthweight baby. You may want to wait another nine months or so to let your body recover from your son's birth. I have two little girls who are 21 months apart. My second daughter weighed more than my first daughter at birth, so waiting until my first daughter was one to get pregnant again seemed to work for me. Whatever you decide to do I hope everything works out for the best!!

Deneé

I wanted my children close together as well, but I'd never purposely get pregnant that soon after having a baby. My first two children were born 18 months apart, which was just right for us. The rest of our children are more spaced out, but still five in ten years. I think the first child is the most difficult, so I suggest not adding the strain of another pregnancy quite yet, especially until your body has had time to heal.

D., when I got pregnant with my second, I didn't realize I was pregnant because I had a spotty period when I was a month or 2 into it! I didn't figure it out until I was almost 3 months because of what I thought was a period. Don't give up yet, a light spotty "period" may just be the sluff off from your uterus from the egg implanting into the lining.

I think you should give your son and yourself time to bond and grow together before adding another child if you are not pregnant.If you are that's great and go with it but if not I say wait till your baby is atleast a couple of years old.I got pregnant with my second with my son was 2 almost 3 and we like to talk to him about things we did together before his brother was born.Once siblings are born the oldest tends to at some point feel left out or wants more of mommies attention which happens to them all either way but you get to enjoy and learn alot when they are spaced out a little and build special little memories together.Not to mention the load is MUCH greater with 2 than 1.I am thankful I atleast got time to have 1 child and all the work that comes with 1 before throwing myself and my husband into the extra work and money that comes with 2.For example,yesterday I went to a field day with my son...from 7 am till 2.I had to load a pack n play,a bookbag full of stuff for the baby and all the drinks and a 16 pound of ice plus the baby in his stroller and my 5 yr old from the parking lot to the school.Then I had to tote the baby all day other than the occasional stroller ride,he got tired an whinny,hungry and plus it was hot.By the time I got home I was sore to the bone,tired and barely walking.If I had only has 1 I only would have had to take a few things like sunscreen and the drinks but during the rest of the day all I would have had to do id walk around with my son during the events.And prob wouldnt have been neary half as tired or sore.And with 2 small ones that are both on diapers AND bottles thats MUCH harder than a 5 yr old and a 22 month old.I have thought about wanting another one b/c I want a girl.But after I go through my occasional baby blues where I yern for another I realize that I'm much happier and will be when mine are old enough to do for themselves a little and can actually do things without having to tote the whole house with me.I think your having baby blues especially now that you think you may be pregnant.I dont know one women that has suspected prengnacy and didn't began wanting it afterward.I go through my moments all the time and fight it off all the time.But on the days where it's really tough, is when I am thankful I didn't go nuts and get pregnant again.We tend to forget the small details of being pregnant and having a baby.Like the pain we go through AFTER birth.Or when were stressed out and kids are screaming and theres only 1 of you and 2 or 3 of them.Not to mention the economy is going down the toilet.Like I said, if you are pregnant that's great and go from there but if not, I say wait a little.You will see what I mean when I say that you will have that moment wether its when u and hubby are arguing over money and cost of this baby or when your baby is giving you a hard time,you will think to yourself...God, I am so glad I only have 1 kid right now.If you havent said that to yourself yet, you will eventually.

Let your body heal some before getting pregnant again. Having 2 babies that close in age is going to be difficult. When they are that young they need a lot of attention and care. I would wait until your 3 1/2 month old is more independent so when you have a new baby you don't feel like you have twins.

Sweetie, I think its great that you want to have more children, but have you talked to your doctor about getting pregnant this close to having had a baby? I think there are probably lots of Mother's out there who want more children as soon as possible, its an amazing experience. But having two children so small will take a lot of energy and strength. If your doctor says its safe for you and safe for the baby, then just be patient. It will happen when its time, I wish you the best of luck :)
Happy Mother's Day D..

Mine are 15 months apart and I love it. They are great friends and playmates and love to do most of the same things. You will have your hands full for the first couple of years, but then in some ways it gets easier as they keep each other entertained. If I had it to do over, I think I'd do the same thing. In no way do I feel I missed out on bonding with my first. In some ways, I think it may have been easier on her not to have so much time being used to being the one and only. I've had friends (who have two or more spaced farther apart) tell me that is can be hard to go back to the infant faze once you're a bit removed from it. So no matter how you space them, there will be good and bad. I think if you feel ready, then go for it.

Good Luck if you are pregnant again. On the other hand I have done it. My children are exactly 11 1/2 months apart. When you see this beautiful little baby you cant help yourself but to want many more. They grow up fast. It was very hard, but we made it through. Now my children are very close and always have a playmate. They are both girls. I did have a third child who is 3 1/2 years younger that the second and it is working out great. The baby is now almost 2 yrs and I am thinking about having another one. Coming from someone who has been there, done that I would say wait a little while. Along with my almost two year old I am babysitting my sisters baby who is almost 5 months old, they are 16 months apart and its not that hard. Good Luck to you

D., listen to your husband if you really love him. I understand that you want, but your body may not be ready and sounds like neither is your husband. Slow down, let your body heal and TALK TO YOUR HUSBAND!!!!!

Either you are crazy or I am crazy. I can not imagine getting pregnant again with 3 1/2 mos. old infant. I will assume the one you have now must be a dream child on a regular schedule with no fussiness and it must have been a very easy pregnancy. If so, don't assume the next one will be the same. You could be in for a rude awakening!!! If you have time to fully attend to the one you have now while keeping your house in order and your husband content, you should offer lessons to the rest of us. You are super mom indeed!!!! But on the other hand, could it be possible you are making compromises somewhere that short change someone in your care. I assume you are not breast feeding if there is much possibility of being pregnant again so soon. This might be something to consider. Some women are unable to nurse their infants due to job situations and time considerations. But if your situation allows for another baby so soon, is it possible it would have also allowed you to nurse (which any pediatrician will tell you is the absolute best method choice for your baby when able)? If so, maybe you could at least think through it a little more and consider if it is the love and devotion to the baby you love or if it is the attention you get that compels your desires and your family is not getting the attention they need. If you are honest with yourself and making the most of motherhood with this child, keeping your home in order and your marriage is not suffering, then you are gifted in a very special and rare way. I have never witnessed this before and would love to see it. Please share your tips with the rest of us!!!

Yes, you are crazy.

NO! --You are not crazy!!! Still, I would suggest waiting a little bit longer, if you are not pregnant this time. It takes some time for your body to replenish the things which were depleted in a pregnancy - if you want the most healthy baby with all the best opportunities, I'd wait. Why don't you talk to you OB-Gyn about that?

I'm happy to hear about loving families who look forward to and work together on raising children.

Hi D. -

My two girls are 17 months apart. Back in Oct, I had a miscarriage and eventhough my husband and I did not plan on getting pregnate then, it really made me want another baby right away. My daughters are 3 and 1 1/2 yr old. I actually did get pregnate back in Feb again. Due in Nov. I know exactly how you feel with wanting another baby. There are some pregnancy tests that can tell already if you are pregnate - I have always used first response. If you are bleeding, you could still be pregnate. I did bleed with my first child for a bit and everything was okay. How does your husband feel about having another baby so close? That is one thing my husband and I did agree on with our babies. You are not crazy, just a natural feeling. Everything happens for a purpose. Rejoice in all situations! Blessings to you and your family!

Well, if you are already pregnant, then congratulations and good luck! But if not, I seriously think you should wait a while longer to give your body time to heal and also to get to know your new son.

I am so glad that I've been able to enjoy my son before adding a second child to our family. He's 2 1/2 years old and I am now ready to have another one, but I would not have been ready when he was just 3 1/2 MONTHS old. Just my two cents.

But it sounds like you are more prepared to have multiple children in your home since you keep children already.

You need to wait for your body to heal. It tkes a year to get back to the way it was. At least do that and then decide on another baby.

I would wait if i where you,it take a year for your body to really get back in place after a baby.Why wear your body out,beside its not that great when babys are close i saw wait at least a year so you can give this baby the time it needs with you alone and enjoy him,you take away from that one when you have them so close together i feel.

I disagree with what the other one said about waiting so you can bond. You've already bonded! My first two children are only 14 months apart. I got pregnant with my second child when my first child was 5 months old. We would do it all over again and again and again, if we could plan it that way. But getting older, I suspect, is my problem in not being able to get pregnant when we wanted to.

It is wonderful to have kids close together. What a blessing it has been for us!

As far as being disappointed, I would totally understand that. You get used to the idea that you are indeed pregnant and then it can easily get bashed with having a period. But just because you have a period doesn't mean that you aren't pregnant. I spotted a good bit...conceived at the end of December and then had a regular period in January and still spotted here and there through March. I'm have way through my current pregnancy and all is well. (This is actually the first time, I spotted so much.)

I would go for it if you are feeling great about it. Go for it!

I can understand being excited about getting pregnant again, I have been there. But what I found was waiting until the baby was 9 months to get pregnant was just right. The boys are 18 mths apart and best buddies. The time I had with our first one was wonderful. You can to enjoy a lot of what they are doing as babies and all the milestones they are achieving. When you are pregnant you may have symptoms that might hinder you from enjoying everything - ie. being tired, queasy or very sick. As they get older you will be running but it is fun. I have had 3 kids in 3 years. They are now 5 1/2, almost 4 and 2. Take your time. Enjoy the baby, you will be glad you did and that the older one will be able to do a little more for themselves when the next baby comes.

As you and your husband know, it is a lot of work rasing one itty bitty baby right now. I would take the time and enjoy the bunddle of love you have right now. Your body needs to heal befor you carry another little one. I read or saw on the news that if you wait less then a year to get pregant again, you are more likely to miss carrie or have a pre-term birth because your body has not had time to heal. But if you and your husband are ready, go for it and enjoy the time you have with your first one before a new itty bitty baby comes along