Getting Pregnant After a Miscarriage

I am trying to think back when I was in your shoes. I had 5 miscarriages in a row...so it almost became where I was no longer anxious I just expected to lose the baby. When I actually got past 12 weeks, I was losing them right around 10 to 11 weeks along, That was when I started feeling anxious because I had never carried that far before.

What I did was tell myself there is no way that I could do anything that would make myself miscarriage...either I would go to term or not, but my body was in control and beyond that God was in control. I gave the situation over to God.

It turned out that I had a medical problem that was causing my miscarriages and once it was fixed...I had my son. Then I had another miscarriage between my son and daughter.

Only one of my babies had a genetic issue incompatible with life Triasomy 16 or was it 13...that one would not have made it no matter what...but all the others tested normal.

Just try and relax and know it is out of your hands...and there is nothing that you can do or not do to cause you to miscarriage. It isn't your fault. Try and enjoy your pregnancy as much as you can.

First of all, congratulations!! My first pregnancy ended in miscarriage also. We saw the heartbeat at 6 weeks, but when we went back at 9 weeks, the heart had stopped. Mine was a "missed miscarriage" where my body didn't recognize the baby had died, so I had no symptoms of anything being wrong.

It was a terrible blow and my pregnancy with my daughter was filled with anxiety just like you are talking about. I felt like I was constantly waiting for something bad to happen, especially during the first trimester.

My best advice is just to try and find ways to relax as much as possible. There are MANY MANY women who have miscarried and gone on to have perfectly healthy pregnancies!! The further along you get, the more you will be able to relax...I promise!

What helped me is reminding myself that what was meant to happen will happen. It really is out of our hands and the best we can do is take care of ourselves and try to relax.

Good Luck!!

Well, I had three m/c's before I had my son.
I was 'getting' pregnant VERY easily but, for me, 'staying' pregnant was the challenge.

O. thing I know is this. If it's going to happen, it's going to happen. It's nothing you're doing or not doing. So take care of yourself & get some rest. It's out of your hands.
God Bless & Congrats!

I had a miscarriage after my first child. My first child was about 2 months old then got pregnant again. I stay pregnant for about 7 weeks and started to spot.Went to the ER and they did a ultrasound(vaginally) and after that I start to bleed. Never knew if it was from ultra sound or my body wasn't able to carry that baby,especially getting pregnant to close after a c-section. Had blood drawn that day and a few days later had my blood drawn again and the pregnancy hormonal drop.(which showed that I miscarry). It was very heart broken. A few months later found out I was pregnant again,which scared me really bad. I was afraid it was going to be the same repeat. Which I carried that baby to full term without any problems. :)

All I can say it don't worry so much and just don't try to think about it.(I know kinda hard to do.lol.) Just pray that everything will go good. :)
Praying for you!!!! :)

Not sure if I have good advice, but just try to relax, I had a Miscarriage too, and now have a 18month old and I was like you SCARED almost the whole time! the odds of it happening again are low (I think), so try to rest at least on that knowledge...I truely know how you feel and wish I had better words for you to comfort you! Good Luck!

Congratulations on your pregnancy!!
I also had hyper morning sickness with my 2nd child (didn't even get morning sickness at all with my first kid!). All day long. Such awfulness! I ended up in the ER at one point because I just didn't know what was going on--though the IV fluids helped immensely. My doctor gave me some anti-nausea meds that were safe for use and they helped me be able to actually keep food down. Hyper morning sickness is not usually something that will cause the miscarriage, but conversely, there could have been something within the pregnancy that was causing your hyper MS. My cousin-in-law was actually sick every day, all day, for all 9 months of both of her pregnancies. She has two healthy kids! It's just how her body responded to the hormone levels.

First and foremost, try to relax and rest up. Morning sickness does not indicate something bad--it's very normal. But if it does get to the point of you not being able to keep any liquids down, you need to see your doctor to see if there's something to help.

Good luck to you!!

I'm sure you've heard that they are sooooo common. I once went on a trip with 4 other women and 3 of us had miscarriages! Out of the two who didn't, one of them had never even been pregnant! So it does happen all the time, not that that makes it any easier.

I had two kids two years apart, then lost my 3rd and 4th pregnancies at 6-8 weeks. I was diagnosed with MTHFR and all it took was a baby asprin and extra folic acid and I now have a beautiful healthy 6 month old.

I'm not sure what Hyper MS involves, or how it affects pregnancy. But I do know what it feels like to be afraid for your entire pregnancy. With my last one, I started bleeding at 7 weeks and I didn't even cry. I had already expected to lose that one as well. It turned out to be ok, but I still never let myself accept that things would work out. I felt much more detached from that pregnancy than my others.

There's no way to stop worrying, but you should absolutely talk to your OB about the anxiety. They've dealt with hundereds of women going through all different kinds of circumstances. I'm sure they can provide you with some resources (yoga, meditation, support group, therapy, possibly even a low level med) to help your specific situation. Anxiety is so unhealthy for you, let alone a baby. My anxiety was leading to insomnia, which is terrible when your pregnant.

Now that you've been diagnosed with Hyper MS, did that change the way they handle your pregnancy at all? Do you maybe need to see someone who specializes in MS to learn how to deal with it during pregnancy? I guess the one thing I would say is research, ask for help, and demand answers. Don't let anyone brush off your concerns.

Take care of yourself and good luck with your pregnancy. I hope it all works out for you.

Try to find a way to relax. When you pray, pray for calm and peace, too.

I lost my first pregnancy at about 6 weeks and was SOOO worried with the second. I had a subchorionic hemorrhage (sp?) which made me think I was losing that baby, too. I did not. She's 3 now.

Friend had a problem that is apparently only something non-first time moms get and until it was diagnosed, no pregnancy went past the first trimester. But her youngest is now 18 months old.

Some people call them "rainbow babies". You CAN have a healthy pregnancy. Discuss your concerns with your OB.

Oh honey, I have been there...
First of all, congratulations on your pregnancy!
Second,I truly mean no offense to anyone but when I was in your shoes hearing "try to relax" made me crazy. I'd TRY...couldn't...and then get MORE anxious.
What worked better for me was something I made up called conscious replacement and I would do that with my thoughts. I would pick a specific good thought and clearly think/feel it (usually it was thinking about something/praying for someone else...especially if I had a friend trying to conceive) When the fear and worry would creep into my mind I would push those thoughts out and replace them with the good one. Sometimes I would have to do it several times a minute but over time it gradually got easier. The fear and worry never did stop entirely but I was better able to reel it in before my anxiety went over the top. (most times but not every time!)
So many times I would wonder how I would get through the day (or hour or minute!) but thinking about someone else always seemed to help.
Remember, the chances are greatly in your favor that this pregnancy will be just fine.
Also remember, if (heaven forbid) it isn't...YOU WILL be fine too...it will be hard but you WILL get over it.
I have had a total of 5 miscarriages, the most recent was 2 years ago. At the time I lost that baby I thought my world would end. It didn't. It's more beautiful now than I ever could have imagined and I can't tell you how many blessings I have turned that pain into.
Everything is going to be just fine. Hang in there. This too shall pass...hugs :)

B.,
Congratulations on your pregnancy!
Do internet search on prenatal yoga for your geographic area. There are breathing and relaxation exercises that will be reallly good for you.
Avoid anything that uses your abs.
I remember enjoying listening to music when my first baby went three weeks past due date...
C.
mom of 3
prenatal yoga teacher

I have had 3 miscarriages and 1 stillborn and I did not know about SHARE & SHARE Hope until my stillborn. I wish I had known about the support group earlier as my subsequent pregnancies were filled with worry. I agree with "mommyofgirls" to try to fight those thoughts and to replace them with others. I know easier said than done but really it is all we can do is fight the thoughts. I am not sure if your area has SHARE Hope program or similar but believe me, the support group really helps and it does not matter how far along in pregnancy one was when the loss happened. We all love our babies as soon as we find out we are pregnant. Sending good thoughts your way.

RettaS-what caused the other miscarriages. My DIL lost two babies this
year after 4 very healthy pregnancies. Turns out she now has scar tissue
in her uterus. Doc thinks that is the problem.
BrenB-I would say try not to worry but you will. You would not be normal if
you did not worry. Just remember you have no control over things. Try to
keep your mind busy. Try Angry Birds that will occupy every waking moment if you get into iit LOL. Congratulations and good luck.