Gender Selection - Deland,FL

If hubby only wants a certain gender child I would not have another. What happens if it doesn't work? Will a female child be treated different by him because of her gender? Will she grow up knowing that she was a disappointment because she wans't a he? Please really think about this and talk to hubby. When a couple has a baby it should be because they want another child, not because they want a boy.

Which ever way you decide to go though good luck and best wishes.

I thought the male determined gender. I'm not sure how mapping your body will affect that? But it sounds like a fun hobby. I would give it a try just for fun. What could it hurt? That's as far as I would go, if it were me. I wouldn't want real medical intervention.

I would've loved if one of my girls had been a boy. But that's not what God gave me. I have three beautiful girls. We didn't try to do make a specific sex.

If your husband wants a boy? Adopt one. That's the best way to ensure the sex.

E.,

The truth is, there wouldn't be the problems there are in China, India, and other places in the world...if people could somehow make themselves have a boy.

If your husband only wants a boy, then you should adopt, or stop the process of trying to conceive.

Personally I found it exciting to see what God gave me and I was happy with it all 8 times and so was my husband. We had 2 boys, 2 girls, 2 boys, 2 girls so it worked out perfectly for us. I also know people who have 4 or 5 of one sex and then the opposite so it's just not something you 'order'.

This actually is a touchy subject for me. Although I can certainly understand you desiring having both genders, really I get it. I have both and am so blessed to experience it.
But, there are so many people out there that would die for any baby, so, even if you are a little disappointed at first, just remember this baby is already Gods plan and there is nothing you do, say, hang upside down at a 90 degree angle holding a magic stick will ever change that.

I'm not sure what you mean when you ask if it's "worth it". Please clarify. I know several people that have used natural gender selection, some more than once, and it worked. I've never heard of anyone using chemicals or hormones for this particular process so that's not something you need to worry about. Best wishes.

ETA: To people questioning her about trying to choose the gender... She said the gender does not matter to her, but her husband wants a boy. (The sentence came out weird and I had to read it a couple of times to understand what she meant.)
Anyway, I don't see her ttc a boy as any different than someone simply --hoping-- they will have a particular gender. It's not as if she wrote that she plans to ditch the baby on the roadside if it's not a boy.

Seriously, if this was possible, China would have a country full of boys.

Ditto Cheryl.

Also, what happens if the baby is a girl?

Maybe your best option is to adopt so you pick instead of risking having a child hubby does not want.

I conceived my first (a boy) on my first day having a positive ovulation predictor test. I had been off the pill for six months and BAM!

I breastfed my son for a long time and my husband and I wanted another child spaced pretty close to our first, but I just wasn't ovulating while I was breastfeeding. Once my son did wean, I tested for ovulation for a couple months, but I was getting stressed out about it and decided to take a break from the "science" of it all.

A couple months later, it was icy outside. I had a fall and was sore a couple days later. My husband suggested I take an Advil. I know Ibuprofen is counter-indicated in early pregnancy and we weren't NOT trying anymore. So I took a pregnancy test. It was positive. I am really not certain when I conceived or what that date would have been in relation to my ovulation. Here's where the science gets kind of interesting....

At my confirmation ultrasound, they discovered I was carrying twins! It was pretty early so I had to come back a few weeks later to get a better estimate of gestational age. At that ultrasound they determined Twin A's gestational age to be 9 weeks and 1 day and Twin B was 8 weeks 5 days. I did some research and the odds were, since they were fraternal twins judging from the separate sacs, that I had one boy and one girl "brewing." The difference in their gestational ages supported my hypothesis. Not so. BOTH girls!

I share to let you know, I did an extensive amount of research into the matter and was interested in tipping the scales in favor of our preferred gender, but sometimes science just fails. I am glad I didn't put in a lot of time and money buying books or nutritional supplements....

The question I would ask in your shoes is if you get pregnant and it is another girl, do you want to be able to tell your husband you two tried everything you could to make a boy, it just wasn't meant to be? Or do you want to just embrace a more natural joy in child-making and accept whatever you get?

Either way you choose is really between you and your husband. No outside influences can determine your path. Good luck to you.

We had two girls and really wanted a boy--my husband is a 4th and wanted a 5th, although honestly he would have been okay with another girl (I was the one who would have been disappointed). I read Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler and followed it closely. I got pregnant in one try on the day I ovulated, lost that baby to m/c at 12 weeks, tried again, got pregnant in one try the day I ovulated, and had a baby boy (who is now 15 months old). SO, read the book, try to time intercourse as close to ovulation as possible, and that will up your odds of having a boy. It is not 100%, more like a 70% chance, but that's pretty good, I think. Good luck!

I'm all for it but you must be careful. A couple my husband and I know had a boy for their last baby. She really didn't want any more children but he wanted to try for a boy. They didn't do anything; but was stressed her whole pregnancy. She had a girl from a prior marriage and a girl from this marriage; her last was a boy. People tell me that the husband treats the boy better than he treats the girls. The older one will probably go and live w/her dad. Her ex tells her husband that he is a terrible father.

We have known them for years and do not associate w/them any more.

Have fun w/your quest. Also, I have two older brothers and I was an oops according to my mother. The third time is the charm. Although, I think my mother is more partial to boys. I don't care. I have a boy and a girl. We wanted two boys because boys are much easier when they are older. I am so glad that G-D said that we are having a girl. She is two and I can't imagine life w/out her; however, I am truly blessed to have one of each. I would love to have two more, another boy and another girl. Money is an issue right now; so we will most likely have just the two. I wanted each to have a brother and a sister. The post that had lots of each is truly blessed; she has an equal amount of both. I do have to say boys and girls are so different. They are unique and they are truly gifts.