sigh.
My daughter was like that.
She outgrew it.
Its not easy.
I taught her to do things on her own too, I taught her that there is "Mommy time" and 'her time' and that everyone in the house has things to do. That Mommy cannot play, every single second. I have chores. She can help me. We are a "TEAM".... and helping also means, letting Mommy have a couple of minutes to even use the bathroom.
That she can play on her own, because she has a great imagination.... I made her feel good about it... and capable.... because she is. Factually.
At this age, they do get clingy with Mommy.
It is developmental as well.
They grow out of it and one day won't even need you for anything.
Bittersweet.
You need to explain to him, that you have things to do too... for the 'family.' The day is playing and working/chores. That is family life.
And roles.
Don't feel guilty.
He will learn self-reliance.
My daughter did.
I did not cave in each time my daughter got like that.
It was not the end of the world.
You know that.
I merely taught my daughter, by way of DAILY 'routines' and schedules... that Mommy does certain things/chores at certain times. At those times, she can play by herself. I don't leave her alone, I am in the same room... but we both independently, do things. I had to teach her that.
Because she was SO attached to me and hated playing by herself. BUT she is and was capable. SO I taught her that. She IS capable and she knows it... and then she'd giggle. Because she knew it was true. I told her that it is a 'habit' to call me every second. But if she thought about it again... she'd realize she can do, what she is calling me for.
etc.
Anyway, they grow out of it. One day.
I know, not easy.
But enjoy this time too. Because, once they don't need you, you will miss that.
It is good, your son is bonded to you.
My son is like that too. And its nice.
But my kids, through 'habit' and my routines daily... KNOW that there is a rhythm to the house and me and what I do and what I do with them everyday.
It is learned.