FB Privacy Questions

The same exact thing happens with my husband - he sees EVERYTHING I comment on. And he doesn't do enough on FB for me to tell if it goes both ways. I have a sneaky feeling that the fact that I linked to him on my "about" page as being my spouse has caused this. In fact, I would bet he never set up any relative links on his which is why I haven't noticed his stuff popping up on my newsfeed as much.

And I get where you are coming from. I don't have anything to hide per se, but I have a lot of friends on FB that are from life before my husband and it was a little weird when I realized he was seeing everything I was commenting.

There are a number of places you need to go to chance privacy settings.
At the top right corner, in the blue strip is a picture of a lock followed by a sun looking shape. Both of these contain settings to look through and make sure it's all set as private, friends only etc. There is also a "View As". You can see how your profile looks to someone that isn't a friend with you and how certain people see your profile. Pictures, you have to go into the albums and set them all to friends only, sometimes you have to do each individual picture and can't just do the album. Comments and likes, I don't know if there is a way to stop that on your end. But, your friends can hover over your name, a box will come up, you'll see a box that says "Friends", click it, then "Settings" then uncheck "comments and likes". All your friends have to do it.
First thing I suggest is do the "View As" to see what is really visible to non-friends. Then go through, line by line, your privacy settings in the "lock" menu and "sun" setting.

You can lock what you show but you can't lock what others show. Next time look at the post you comment on. If there is a globe then your friend shows her status to everyone and if you comment on it, everyone can see it so if your husband "follows" you (meaning you are a close friend and he cares about what you do), it will show up on his feed that you posted something. This means that even I can see what you all post when posting on her status.

If the person has a small person that has shadow people on both sides, it means she shares her status with "friends of friends" so since your husband is your friend, he sees her stuff to but, for instance, I don't know any of you so I won't see it.

If there is only a small person and one shadow person on the right side, it means the status is shared with only her friends. That means that what you post is only seen by her friends. Thus, neither your husband nor I can ever see it. Well, unless he's her friend too.

You'll never see a lock below the post because that means it's locked to just her and that means no one but her can see it.

Hover over these little images and it will tell you who can see the post. Only way to fix this is to ask all your friends to change their privacy to only be "friends" who see it OR... don't post on post with open privacy.
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Also, if you are tagged to something, all your friends will see it unless you block anyone from seeing things you are tagged to.
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Basically, you can control what you show to others but like a secret you tell your friend, your friend might go out and tell others.
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To keep people from enlarging your photos, upload a smaller photo. The size of the profile pic is standard no matter the actual size of the photo so save a special small size photo and use that as your profile pic so when people click on it, it remains small.

Profile and Cover photos are automatically Public photos so everyone can see it.

To keep people from seeing your photos you just lock it so only you or only "friends" or even a particular friend group you created. I have "Family and Friends" "WI" "SOH" etc... Family and friends can see all my photos. People who don't know me in person but are connections do not need to see my photos but they are still friends. When selecting who can see your post or photos, go to Custom and then you can click on "Friends" except.... and then add the names of friend groups you created to exclude them. You can also exclude individuals.

If you are friends with your husband and you have your settings set to "friends only" then they will see it.
The only way to not let others in on your personal jokes is a DM. Anything posted to a wall, commented on, etc will be seen by others either through the settings your friends have or your setting as "friends only"

Facebook is public, not private. Do not expect "privacy" on a social media site:(

You've gotten some good advice about privacy settings, but I'm a little confused, if you don't want people to see your pictures then why are you posting them?
Also, posting photos or jokes or whatever on someone else's wall is like putting it on a bulletin board. Anyone who has access to that friend's wall will be able to see it, regardless of your privacy settings. It's your FRIEND'S privacy settings that affect who can see what on their wall.
If you want to share something privately and securely with a friend send them a message, don't write on their wall.

Katrina is right, you have to go through everything. People were sharing a picture I posted (over 5,000) because I hadn't unclicked something about tagging it, I now have it set so I have to approve tags.

Privacy is a misnomer, because everything you post is on the internet. All someone has to do is Google you and they can find it. They may have to search a little but it's there. I've found comments I've made from years back.

And like she also said, for your comments not to show up your friends ALL have to uncheck your "comments and likes." Basically, never post anything you don't want seen.

Z.:

If you do NOT want anyone to see you - close your account. period.

If you and I were friends on FB, and I commented on one of your pictures, it will show in my feed that I commented on Z.'s status or picture.

You can change your settings to "private" and make sure that the people that see your page, comments and pictures are "FRIENDS ONLY".
But still. The IDEA of facebook is to NETWORK! to be FRIENDS...to SHARE...yes, some over share...but still...

It will not be the way you want - so close your account.

ANYTHING you post on someone's posts will show on their posts. The only think you can do is stop commenting on their posts and private message them instead.

You are commenting on their post on "their" wall. All their friends and whomever they have their own privacy settings set to can see it.

It doesn't matter what you do, their post is on "their" wall and when you comment on it you are posting a comment on "their" wall. Nothing you can do about it but stop posting comments.

As for your own pictures you have to go to each picture and click on it then edit it. Change it to custom then decide who you want to be able to see your things. If you don't even want hubby to be able to see it then select "only me". If you want only your true friends to be able to see your albums mark them "friends but not acquaintances".

Then go to your name and click on it, go to "friends" and go through your entire list and hover over their name. Select friends and click on it. When the box comes up check acquaintance if you don't want that person to have access to your photo's. This will also eliminate them being able to see posts that you share with "Friends but not acquaintances".

This is a relatively new option for privacy and some may not have it. I like it because I have tons of friends that I have no idea who they are, I play Gardens of Time and I keep all this strangers as Acquaintances so they can't see my photo's, private posts, or anything I don't want them to see. So FB has made it where we can basically do 4-5 things with our posts and photo's, etc....

Public

Anyone who is on FB typing in names can find your name and can see each and every item you have ever posted or saved.

If you have your privacy settings all set at public you are sharing everything with the whole wide world. Your choice to do so, not FB's.

Friends

This means you only want your friends to be able to see your private posts and pictures and stuff. IF someone searching for a friend comes across your name they can still see a lot of your information though.

Friends of friends

This means anyone who is a friend of anyone you are friends with can click on your name in a comment and go to your page and see any item you have marked friends of friends.

Custom

This setting is the most time consuming because you can set the item for a group of friends, keep certain people from being to access it, all sorts of choices.

Then there is the option of clicking on someone as you go through your list as an acquaintance. This means you know them but aren't close friends with them. So you can select friends but not acquaintances on any post or share or photo or anything else just by clicking that option is the box where you select "post".

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Go through your friends list now, hover over their name, when the box comes up select and click on friends.

When you get the next box up it will look something like this.

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Notifications
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Show in News feed

Settings
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Close friends

Acquaintances

Add to another list.....
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Suggest friends

See friendship
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Unfriend

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Once you have decided what you want them to be go to Settings and click on that. The next page will look something like this.
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Go back
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See which updates

All Updates

Most Updates

Only Important Updates
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What types of updates

Life Events

Status Updates

Photos

Games

Comments and Likes

Music and Videos

Other Activity
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For people that I play games with I have every item un-checked except games. I don't want to see their status updates.

I don't want to see their life events.

I don't want to see if they make a comment on their great nieces high school pictures on their nieces news feed/wall.

I do want to see each and every game post they make though so I can help them out and get bonuses.

I do not want to see that they "liked" the oreo FB page or that they liked their sister's comment about her ex husband finally making a child support payment. I do not want to see anything they "like" or "Comment" on.

I "MIGHT" want to see what music they like and watch if I've seen that they have similar taste in music. I have one cousin I've never met and he often shares music videos off youtube and I have found several groups that I like their music due to keeping this checked on his settings. But he's just about the only one that I keep this checked.

As for other activity, if I don't want to see their other stuff I guess I am not going to want to see their other activity so I uncheck it too.

IF THIS IS A FAMILY MEMBER OR THE KIDS I KEEP EACH AND EVERY ONE OF THEM CHECKED THOUGH.

I have my close family and friends checked to as friends. Gamers I play games with get un-checked on everything except "Only Important" and "Games".

All others are acquaintances so they don't see my personal posts such as what we're doing for the evening or if the kids have something going on I want to talk about.

Privacy is MY issue and not FB's. I have the ability to choose what I want to share and what I want others to see. It is MY responsibility to learn how to manage my privacy and do it as well as I can.

BUT I also have to remember the internet is not private, nor is there any promise that it will be private, ever. I have the choice of how "I" have "MY" settings.

I am glad you are trying to learn how to do this better. If you go to the little symbol by your name where you can log out go to the very bottom where it says help, this should also help you learn more too.

Just remember, when you comment on someone else's post you are posting that comment where each person she is friends with can see it and if she has her settings set differently than yours even more people can see your comment on her wall. Her privacy settings are her own choice and not your business. So you should not ask her to change anything.

My husband has his settings to alert him whenever I say ANYTHING on FB. I don't know how he did it, but he's got that for me and his son, so our stuff doesn't get lost in the mix. Maybe your husband has some similar setting?

When you adjust your settings, there's a prompt to see what other people see. Check that out.

When you comment on on a friends page/post, the security of that comment is controlled by your friend, not by you. And, even if they have it set to FRIENDS ONLY, it can be seen by their friends, especially the ones you have in common. If you don't want someone to see a personal joke, then you should send a private message.
Your husband is mistaken. Not everything you say shows in his newsfeed. Only if you share the friend in common. Which is probably likely.
As far as photos go, if you have them set to FRIENDS ONLY, then only your friends can see them. However, if you tag a friend in the photo, then their friends can see them too!
Here's an article on maximizing your security settings.
http://facecrooks.com/Internet-Safety-Privacy/how-to-lock...

So you aren't friends with your husband on FB?