What do you do when your ex refuses to take your child to VPK? How many hours can my son miss before they remove him from the program?
He feels that although I gave him all the school information over a month ago that now it is inconvenient with his schedule. He does not pay child support and hasn't since our son was born. He claims to the courts he does not have a job and currently we are in court because he wants custody. To make matters worse he does not cooperate on any level, medical, education, visitation, nothing. I have an attorney but cannot call him till tomorrow due to how late all of the discussion today about childcare occurred. Does anyone have any advice? Has anyone else ever run into this?
The court case is not a concern for me but a possible blessing. Although the timing of the case can't seem to happen quick enough and in the mean time I am afraid my son will lose out.
Thank you everyone for your help! You were all very helpful. I called the school today and they said he could miss every wed for up to a month before they kick him out and that we could discuss that when it came time. I also spoke to my lawyer whom is in the process of sending his lawyer a letter and filing contempt for refusing the child education. I had made sure that in our agreement even the daycare was mandatory. Sad part is that we cannot get a trial date till at minimum November and by then he will be kicked out. I asked my lawyer if I should just go ahead and remove my son from school and skip the cost of aftercare. I am feeling kinda hopeless and figure why bother paying the school and attempting to get my son education if he is going to get kicked out anyway. Save the money and put it toward buying items to help educate him at home. I don't work right now due to a massive layoff so why not make it a long summer brake. Uhhhggg im so disappointed and high hopes for some good news from my lawyer. Thanks again everyone.
They can only miss just a few days a month otherwise the school doesn't get paid and they will ask you to leave the program. on a side note-how on earth does this guy think he will get custody when he hasn't paid a dime and doesn't do anything that's in your son's best interests? Amazing! I hope they stick it to him with a whopping back child support bill. Just because you aren't working doesn't mean the meter isn't still running!
Hi J.,
When my son was in VPK last year, they told me that he was only allowed to miss up to 5 days before he would be removed from program and someone else would take his place. If he was going to be missing school due to a doctor's appt. then all I needed to bring was a note and the school would excuse him being absent. I would check with your school to see what their rules and regulations are. Some programs and school are different. Hope this helps you.
At the risk of posting an unpopular opinion...
If dad doesn't have a job and isn't contributing financially, spending time with his child may be an excellent contribution. Too many people underestimate how important dad's are, for things other than a check.
VPK is not mandatory (thus the "V"...Voluntary,) nor does it even help the average kid get ahead. It's a little better than your average daycare, but still no comparison to time spent with an involved and engaged parent. If the dad truly doesn't think VPK is more beneficial than the time he is investing spending time with the child, this may actually work to his advantage in court also.
If your child knows his numbers, letters and how to tie his shoes, VPK isn't something he "needs." Time with his dad during what is likely a stressful period due to his parents being apart, is likely much more valuable.
As I said, I'm sure isn't the popular opinion. However, healthy relationships with both parents is always more important than strangers at daycare spending a certain number of hours per week with your child.
your X sounds pretty much like an idiot and VPK is very important to your childs kindergarden. I would explain to him if he couldnt take him to school that you would daily and he could see him on the weekends. If you have that child full-time piss on your X take him to school.
He can miss 54 hours before they kick him out...I just read that today.
Sounds like the dad is pretty worthless and you should just take him yourself even if it is out of your way.
VPK is suppose to be a free program. if u aren't maybe you should try to find a different place to put your child that doesn't cost anything. and then if he does have to leave the program it wont seem worthless to you. and i dont know all the rules, but i wonder if you could reapply (if you can find an open spot) after your court date.
