My ex-husband's girlfriend lives with him. She has for a few years now and until recently we haven't had a problem. I'm not sure what the issue is but recently I've been getting midnight texts from her. She tells me if I have something to say, say it to her face...stuff like that. It's pretty childish and I really have no idea what she is talking about and have asked her to stop. She has even given my phone number to her sister so she can do the same thing. I guess my question is, what can I do about it. I tried talking to my ex, but he won't help. I think when she does it she has probably been drinking, but that's not a good excuse. Also, my daughter (11) has told me she says somewhat negative things about me to her. I know I can't control what happens over there, but I am sick of her contacting me. Help!
*My cell phone company doesn't do blocking. They told me to give her make her ringtone silent. I'm not even sure what that means. I have called and I can file a PFS but that seems harsh to me. I don't want more drama (that's why I divorced him in the first place!) but I also don't want her to think she can push me around.
Hi there - keep the texts and report her to the police for harrassment! Tell her that you plan on doing this if she continues and if she does do it.
Also, check out the custody arrangements - if she is a drinker and is telling your daughter things, tell your ex that he will not see his daughter at his place anymore. Its not a healthy environment for her at all and will do her some erious emotional harm. Goodluck ;)
Since the girlfriend is texting you, can you not block her phone number from your phone? If not then save them and report them to the police as harassment especially since the ex won't do anything. Also do trhe same thing with her sister block or save her calls for additional harassment evidence. Sorry you are going through this. What is the age when a child can make a decision as to what they want to do in your state? If it is 12 she can tell the court system that she does not wish to go and explain why. Good luck and keep strong. The other S.
Forward all the texts to your ex as soon as you receive them, don't wait. Inform him of your intent to contact authorities if he doesn't find a solution to the problem. Give him a week to solve the problem then file a report. continue to forward the texts. Ours is a bit different, my girls' stepmom is a control freak and texts them very negative things, they promptly forward to their dad and he usually fixes it. she has tried to call them babies for calling daddy to fix their problems, but they are old enough to know the problems are hers. unfortunately this doesn't keep them from crying about it, even at 16 and 18, she can be very nasty to them. Begin preparing yourself to escalation of her inappropriate behavior to you and then in turn to your child, you may have to go as far as contacting someone about custody issues if he cannot control her behavior your child.
Good Luck
If you have already spoken with her about the text and reassured her you do not have any other problem with her, it is time to forward the text to your exhusband. Let him also know very kindly that there isno problem (except for this and the bad talking about you) with the girlfriend.
If that does not solve the problem, let her know you will pursue legal action. You can report her to her and her sister to their cell phone companies and they could drop her service...
Or you can file a harassment report against her and let your husband know you are also going to take him to court for full custody, since he has an unstable person in your childs home.
You could also block her phone number.
Sorry, I misread your post.
I can't stand passive-aggressive behaviors!
The next time she pulls this nonsense; the minute you get that text in the middle of the night, call her up right then and there to ask her what her concerns are, place her on speakerphone, and record the conversation. At the same time, for all subsequent texts (and previous) -- get your phone company to send you paper documentation of all this, and call the authorities for harrassment.
