Hi H.,
Reading your letter a couple of flags went up for me. Please don't be offend. Personally, collecting rent?? that bothered me and it would bother me more if I was your daughter being raised in your home.
More important than collecting rent is the issue of the stubbornness and the disrespectfulness. You did not mention what kind of relationship you have with your daughter.
It sounds to me like the relationship needs attention.
Also why is she in fear. The root of panic attacks is fear.
Why is she fearful. What is truly bothering her deep inside.
She needs your love,understanding and a listening ear. I am
taking into consideration her age and other issues that may be going on with her, like peer pressure, low self-esteem, etc. However she needs you Mom more than even.
Of course they is a price to pay here. You said you are a full time Mom raising 4 daughters. Wow. That is a challenge. However, you have one daughter that is screaming for your help and understanding. Though she may not be coming straight out and telling you.
What kind of relationship does she have with her dad. A young lady needs her dad's love, affection and attention or she will look for it in the wrong places.
Seriously, I would make time, find time to spend more time with her. Heal and mend whatever is going on there and remember 3 others are watching, There going to be following someone's footsteps.
Once again i hope I did not hurt or offend you in anyway. God knows that was not my intention. I'll keep you in and your family in prayer.
Hope this helps a little.
debbie