Ectopic Pregnancy in April, When to Try Again?

Updated on May 20, 2009
J.K. asks from Foristell, MO
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Hi all, my husband and i found out in april we were pregnant with baby #2, very much surprised since i was on the pill but instantly happy. 6 short days later i was in the ER and over a weeks time found out it was ectopic, had a d&c and methotrexate. All is well now, hormone levels are back to normal, don't have to go to the doc again until i'm pregnant again. He said wait 2-3 months to try again to give my body time to get back to normal. My issue is that while i'm waiting EVERYONE is popping up pregnant around me or is trying to get pregnant and right now we can't even activily try! Any tips on how to get through this next month and or any experience with trying again after a d&c with an ectopic? Anything would be helpful at this point, i'm running thin on patience!

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Thanks for all the responses ladies. I know i'm just being impatient but with only one more month to go i'm sure we'll be just fine. And i also want to clarify that while we weren't trying in the first place, we very much wanted the baby that we lost. I'm not trying to keep up with anyone else when i say everyone else is pregnant, just that it's painful when everyone else is pregnant and i no longer am when i was just a very short time ago. It's hard to keep a smile towards all the other pregnancies(although i'm happy about them all) when my heart is broken at the moment. I must have worded my initial posting the wrong way. It's a hard concept for me that our pregnancy ended when we already have a very healthy little girl. I know everything happens for a reason i guess i'm just still in my adjustment mode over here. Anyhow thanks for your words of kindness and encouragement. It really did help!

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answers from Kansas City on

Sorry to hear what you have recently been through. On that note, if you were on the pill and surprised to find out you were pregnant, then it sounds like you obviously weren't trying right? But, now that "everyone" around you is pregnant, you really want to get prenant too? Am I reading this correctly? Take a deep breath, relax and give your body time to recover. 2-3 months is not that long of a time to wait to make sure your body is back to where you need to be to try for a healthy prenancy. Best of luck to you. :-)



answers from Kansas City on

I know you already updated and everything, but I just wanted to say to hang in there. I know exactly what you are going through...18 months ago I had an ectopic (and we were trying). My doctor told me to wait 6 months due to the Methotrexate, but I couldn't wait that long and I got pregnant 4 months later only to have a miscarriage. I really think it was because my body was out of wack not because of the methotrexate (if the methotrexate is still in your system you won't conceive - at least that is what my doctor said). Anyways, everyone was/is pregnant around me and it is very difficult to put on a happy face when you are going through something as this. That is why I wanted to write you and tell you, you are not alone so hang in there and try to stay positive (it really is the best medicine for this situation). My heart truly goes out to you and your family.



answers from Kansas City on

I would agree with the other response. Relax and enjoy your little girl. I also have had four pregnancies and have but two children here. At church there are 7, 7!! other women pregnant. I was the eighth; just had a miscarriage two weeks ago. Now, after much thought and some tears, I feel blessed that I have two children. Some of my friends have not been able to have any at all. I guess what I'm saying is to try to think positive and love the little girl you have. On another note, my sister-in-law has had 6 miscarraiges, one of them ectopic, and was still able to have 7 kids, so don't loose hope.



answers from St. Louis on

relax! This shouldn't be a case of wanting to keep up with everybody else! Give your body the time it needs to prepare for the next baby. After losing one child already, wouldn't it be better to try to make the conditions as perfect as possible?

When I miscarried, I was told that 2-3 months was the minimum....with 6 to 18 months a better choice. It will happen at the chosen time....have faith!

That said, my heart goes out to you. Been there, done that. I've had four pregnancies, & have only brought home two children. My pregnancies were spaced over the course of 9 years, with only the 1st & last making it home. It was so emotionally distressing to watch babies popping up all through our friends/family....& to have to struggle ourselves.

I wish you peace, happiness, & your heart's desire.

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