Ectopic Pregnancy - Leavenworth,KS

Updated on November 11, 2010
K.M. asks from Newburgh, NY
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My sister is 35 and has been trying to conceive for over a year. She just told me last week that she's pregnant. Today she started bleeding heavily and went to the doctor (she's almost 6 weeks). The doctor is pretty sure it's an Ectopic Pregnancy. Please respond if you've ever gone through this! What are her chances for a healthy pregnancy? What do I say to her? Thank You!

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So What Happened?

The pregnancy was ectopic, so she had to go to the hospital and get a shot in her butt to terminate the pregnancy. I think she's dealing with it well--her hubby took it a little harder. They are going to keep trying!

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answers from Cleveland on

an ectopic is never viable, the best they can do is save her tube. As for what you can say. I had two miscarriages last year, both early, but both a much tried for, very much wanted baby. There isn't anything you can say, but understanding that it is a significant loss, even though it is early in the pregnancy can go a long way. I had a lot of people think I was over reacting because it was so early that I wasn't even really pregnant, but I was pregnant and it was my baby and even now I will miss them forever.

I will admit though after the first I really just wanted to move on and try again, and if she doesn't want to talk about it don't instantly think she's hiding from her pain. Moving on sometimes can be easier than grieving.

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answers from St. Louis on

I know many women who had them save their tube after an ectopic and went on to have healthy pregnancies later.

Another option for removing the ectopic pregnancy is a shot of mexotherderate (sorry, I know I butchered the spelling, but it is essentially a low dose of chemo that will ultimately remove the embryo.) I have never heard of this method leaving remaining tissue and it usually does not jeopardize the tube, nor does it cause issues with birth defects later. (Although it is a dose of chemo, it does not stay in your body indefinitely.) I also know of women who have had a tube removed and still got pregnant successfully later, and a woman who has had two ectopics in each tube but her tubes were saved and she now has a healthy baby girl. So, it definitely does not have to mean a decline in her fertility, and hopefully that will not be the case with your sister.

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answers from Dallas on

So sorry to hear about your sister. Well I've had two of them on both sides. The first ruptured and required surgery and I lost my right tube. I read that with each ectopic the chances increase that it could happen again. Well I thought not since the "ectopic" tube was removed but with the next pregnancy it happened again but was caught before it got so bad and I had some injections that caused the fetus to dissolve preventing the tube to rupture.
Did they do a vaginal sonogram and locate the fetus? Both times I was told that I was having a miscarriage because of pain and my HCG levels going up and down.
I'm not sure if you are asking about this ectopic pregnancy being healthy or if chances are still good for another normal pregnancy.
An ectopic pregnancy is very serious and should not be allowed to move forward. If it's out of the uterus it is very unsafe for the mother. Internal bleeding is very likely and can cause death for the mother.
If and when she gets pregnant again, her HCG levels should be closely monitored very early in the pregnancy. When the levels reach a certain level they should be able to locate the baby in the uterus, if not they will suspect that the baby is ectopic.
It's a very sad and scary time for her. I'm sure she is in shock. Alot of emotions. It's like something was given to her and then quickly taken away. To early to go into the "next time" talk. Let her be sad and scared and lend a good ear to let her vent all of them. One of the hardest things we can do is allow someone to feel pain, we want to make it go away. Distract them for it but really it's something that she will just have to go through right now. What's most important is her health right now. After the dust settles is when she will really start to feel things.
She is very blessed to have a sweet sister like you ")

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answers from Dallas on

I had one in Feb. 2006. It had started to burst my tube, and it was the most extreme pain that I have ever felt. I had to have emergency surgery to remove the pregnancy. It was very very hard emotionally and I went through a few months of severe depression. Almost exactly a year later I concieved my daughter and it was a long hard year of trying to concieve her, but so so worth it! Your sister will need lots of love and support through this, so just be there for her.

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answers from Austin on

Oh dear, this is not good.
If it is determined for sure, she will have to have surgery to remove this pregnancy to save her life.
I am so sorry.
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answers from Portland on

My daughter had an ectopic pregnancy. If your sister's is an ectopic the pregnancy has to be aborted. My daughter had chemo to end the pregnancy: no surgery. She was about 6 weeks along.

If it's not ectopic, then the pregnancy may be in the process of spontaneously aborting anyway. I don't know what the chances of the pregnancy continuing to a successful end. It depends on what is causing the bleeding.

There really isn't any one right thing to say. Just be there with her, offer sympathy, and most of all let her talk if she wants to. Be a good listener. Don't say things like, "it's God's will", or it'll be alright. Be realistic in what you say, considering how she's feeling. This is happening. Be open and honest.

Later: my daughters ectopic pregnancy was dissolved with chemo. If tissue remained after one shot, they would give another one. It's my understanding chemo can only be done when the fetus is below a certain size/age. Otherwise it has to be surgically removed. My daughter did not mention radiation as a possibility. An ultra sound after the first chemo, in my daughter's case, showed that the tube was intact and the fetus gone. The chemicals do gradually leave the body.

My daughter is now pregnant. Ultrasounds show that the baby is developing as it should. Don't allow yourself and your sister be frightened by what might happen. Get accurate info from the doctor. In today's advanced medical world it's highly likely that she can become pregnant again if this one turns out to not be viable.

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