Dreams - Alpharetta,GA

I'm so sorry to hear your loss has been so difficult, N.. An unexpected death often shocks the survivors – there was no time to prepare emotionally for the loss.

Shock and grieving can do strange things to sleep and to dreams. It is entirely possible you are still dreaming and don't remember it. But even if you're not, I hope you don't feel guilty for not remembering your mother in this uncontrollable way. Yes, those dreams are common, but not everybody has them.

After my dearly-loved granny died (and her death was not a surprise), I went completely numb for nearly a year, and don't recall a single dream about her for several years. But then I had occasional, and very lovely, dreams in which I got to speak to her. Unconscious processes take It different paths through different people's souls.

My dad passed away about 2 years ago and I didn't dream about him right away, either. Then, when I did start dreaming about him it was always about him being sick (he had Alzheimer's). It's only been recently that I have been dreaming about how he was before he got sick. I think these things take some time for our subconscious to process and work through.

I am so sorry for your loss.

My father passed away 8 years ago. My sister dreams about him all the time, but I only have maybe once or twice. It doesn't mean I don't love him any less, or that he doesn't love me any less, it's just the way it worked out. Perhaps, you have had dreams about your mother and simply don't remember them.

Sometimes, when we have so much grief and heartache, it is hard for us to reconnect and remember prior to that. I like Diana's answer, maybe that will help.

Don't think of it as being odd or abnormal not to dream of a passed loved one...I loved my grandmother dearly and we were very close and she died 13 years ago and I have never had a dream of her. I think it may just be a way our sub-conscious protects us and we have no control over our dreams or we would plan to dream of the ones we have lost every night! So sorry for your loss...

I wouldn't worry too much about this. Your loss is still pretty new and I'm sure your mom is all around you in ways other than your dreams.
I lost my dad 2 years ago yesterday and it still isn't real to me.
I dream about him often and it's like he's still here. Then, when I wake up, that realization that he's gone hits me. It's kind of a back handed blessing. My dreams are so real sometimes that I've cried and cried and just wanted to go back to sleep to get that dream and that moment back.
It hurts either way.
I've always believed that people visit us in our dreams, but for me, sometimes it just brings back that raw emotion of such deep painful loss.

I'm so sorry you lost your mom. I honestly do know how hard it can be.
Don't let not dreaming about her yet upset you.
Think happy thoughts of her. Think of her every time you see one of her favorite flowers or a butterfly or a bird.
You know she's still with you.....

Best wishes.

I'm sorry to hear about your loss, I lost my father when I was a teenager. It is impossibly difficult to lose a parent. But know that with time, the hurt is easier to manage, and you will be alright. Lean on your family and friends, and let yourself heal in your own time. Your mind and your consciousness need some time to make the adjustment that your mom is gone, so it's not surprising to me that you haven't dreamt of her. You could also be dreaming but not remembering your dreams. I seldom dream of my dad, but I have had dreams, usually all involving him coming back from somewhere but then needing to suddenly leave again. I'm not sure what they mean, and I'm not sure what triggers them. I don't think that you need to worry about whether or not you dream about your mom. It doesn't mean that you don't love her, remember her, mourn her passing, or anything like that. Focus on remembering her in your waking life, and healing so that your life can go on. Sending hugs your way.

I'm sorry about your loss. My mom passed away over 10 years ago and I'll dream of her every once in awhile. Usually when I'm missing her.

Believe me, you are dreaming. You aren't remembering because you aren't waking up during them. Google "lucid dreaming" and that may help you to remember.

If you want to dream about your mom, then try thinking about all the good times with her while your in bed before you fall asleep. Sometimes we try so hard not to think about our loved one either consciously or unconsciously because it makes us sad that they're not here anymore. Anyway, sorry for your loss.

It's my belief that you will dream of someone when you need that comfort the most. Maybe you feel her presence in other ways? I'll bet you do.
I'm very sorry for the loss of your mom.