Does Anyone Think Teenage Girls Should Get Nails , Hair Eyelashes Dye?

I don't think it's anyone's business what other people spend their own money on.
Being spoiled doesn't have anything to do with beauty treatments (or designer clothes or nice cars or whatever.) It has to do with kids not appreciating what they have, or simply taking it for granted. Assuming that kids are spoiled for something like spending money on beauty treatments is unfair and judgmental IMO.

If my child would like to pay to get fake nails and eyelashes...than who am I. It's her money.
I don't know if it SPOILS the child...as much as it sends a message. I am hopeful that my child will feel like they are enough and that they don't need to get "fake" things to feel better.

This smacks of a question that is posed only to get support for one's own judgmental opinion.
Personally, I don't think any woman needs 90% of what you list, but just because I don't do it doesn't mean others shouldn't. If it's your kid, you control the money and get to decide what you will and won't pay for. Same for others.

It sounds like your expectations are significantly higher maintenance than mine we’re, but as a teenager I had minimal make up, painted my nails occasionally and did get my hair permed once or twice.

The teenage years are more about experimenting with hair and make up and learning what is appropriate and what works for you. I can’t imagine making anything permanent at that age.

My daughter is 23 and when she was a teen, there were no routine mani/pedi's, hair dye and lash work. We did go occasionally as a mom and daughter treat for a mani/pedi. Now that she is earning her own money, we do have mom/daughter regular mani/pedi's. She pays for hers and I pay for mine.

A teen does not need to be messing with eyelashes in my opinion. It is normal for teens to experiment with nail and hair TEMPORARY color, etc.

So what is the point of your question? If my daughter expected me to pay for these services when she was living under my roof... Hell no. As far as spoiling them.. I don't know it that is the case but who wants to be that high maintenance afford it or not?

I live in the Dallas area and I see FAR too many plastic people. It is gross.

I think it is pretty sad and says a lot about a teen (and her upbringing) who feels the need to be this high maintenance and drama filled. It tells me there is a kid with severe insecurity who need to work on themselves to gain confidence in other ways instead of being fake.

We pay for maintenance/grooming but anything more is considered a treat. That's how it was when I grew up.

So haircuts would be maintenance. Pedicures - a treat.

I wouldn't want my kids to think that they needed to do nails, dye their lashes etc. as part of maintenance. By spoiled - do you mean, would it make them be high maintenance? I would think so (personal opinion).

My daughter never wanted mani/pedis and had her first for prom at 17. She has had a few since joining the Navy but I think it’s more for the social aspect. She’ll do it if invited to go as a group, she would never on her own. She’s pretty down to earth, wears very little make up, wears her hair in a ponytail if she’s not on duty.

Please don’t get caught up in comparing what you do with what others are doing. If some of your daughter’s friends are doing these things, that’s their business. How their kids turn out is also their business. You make your decisions and stand by them. Don’t make the other parents out to be poor decision makers. You can say, wow, that’s not how I choose to spend money, but if you want to do that, feel free to find ways to earn extra money for it.

One of my daughter’s friends worked at a restaurant because it was important to her to have fake nails and her mom wouldn’t spend the $. I thought it was great and taught her daughter there’s nothing wrong with wanting something. If you’re willing to work, go for it.

It's not something I'd have paid for, my teen paid for their own hair dye, any salon visits other than haircuts would have been paid for out of allowance or money they earned or got as gifts. But some parents want to pay for this and are able to. It's possible that if the parents are wealthy and providing this, the kid will grow up to be a wealthy adult and be able to pay for these pampering treats themselves, so not sure what difference it makes or if it makes them "spoiled."

Eyelashes permed?

I think a few treats are okay, and self-expression is fine, up to a point. I'm okay with haircuts and hair dye, since they aren't permanent. Same with eyebrow tweezing and occasional waxing, and more regular waxing for things like mustaches.

Entitlement is a problem, absolutely - but that can come from other things too, like expecting the latest iPhone, designer clothes, or a car. It comes from expecting parents to drive them everywhere or missing the bus because "Mom can always drive me and the bus is gross with 8th graders on it" or whatever the complaint du jour is.

However, I think parents going broke is wrong, and I think kids expecting parents to pay for it is wrong. I also think that an excessive amount of "correction and improvement" can be bad if it means the teen girl is unhappy with her looks or feels she isn't okay or acceptable the way she is. If she's doing it to please a guy, or if she's beating up on herself for not being "as good as" the others, then that's a huge problem.

My daughter had her hair cut a couple of times a year and her eyebrows waxed as needed. Her dad paid for the brow waxing as I found it unnecessary - learn to use tweezers. Anything on top of that she either paid for or it was a treat for a special event that we decided to splurge on. She did a beautiful job painting her nails herself.

No.
If they want to work to earn the money to pay for it - that's up to them.

But then - I don't do those things for myself either.
I think it's a waste of money that could be better spent on other things.

The bigger question is - why do teen girls think these things are desirable?
Teach them that they are not.

I don't think it necessarily spoils the child. You can choose to do it or to not do it. My daughter doesn't expect me to pay for these things for it. Just like anything else she wants/ needs, she asks me for it. Sometimes I say yes, because I like to treat my daughter to things she will enjoy, and other times I say no. Either way is fine. Buying hair dye is no different than giving money to go to the movies or go out to eat with friends. A treat/ something fun doesn't make a child spoiled.

Yes, I think it would definitely breed a sense of entitlement. Those beauty maintenance services are not needs, those are wants. Teens can get jobs and/or earn money for those kind of treats.

My kid was able to get that stuff when she had a job and could pay for it herself.

A few things here and there to keep up your daughter's appearance is fine. But going totally fake is not good for her self esteem or your wallet. She won't be able to find and appreciate her own beauty if she is constantly dyeing her hair and wearing fake eyelashes,etc. My daughter has asked on several occasions for these things. She only has her nails done on special occasions and has purchased false eyelashes for such occasions as well. She finds the lashes to be a nuisance and now loves her own. The only 'maintenance' that I would support her having is a spray tan ( and we haven't jumped to this decision yet). She is very pale and has occasional bumpy skin. She never wears shorts during summer and gets very hot.This is one thing that I feel would help her confidence tremendously without turning her into a spoiled diva too early. She can buy the other things when she makes her own money. She may decide it's not worth it!
My outlook.

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A few things here and there to keep up your daughter's appearance is fine. But going totally fake is not good for her self esteem or your wallet. She won't be able to find and appreciate her own beauty if she is constantly dyeing her hair and wearing fake eyelashes,etc. My daughter has asked on several occasions for these things. She only has her nails done on special occasions and has purchased false eyelashes for such occasions as well. She finds the lashes to be a nuisance and now loves her own. The only 'maintenance' that I would support her having is a spray tan ( and we haven't jumped to this decision yet). She is very pale and has occasional bumpy skin. She never wears shorts during summer and gets very hot.This is one thing that I feel would help her confidence tremendously without turning her into a spoiled diva too early. She can buy the other things when she makes her own money. She may decide it's not worth it!
My outlook.

Beauty is from within. As you mature, the outside of the bloom fades away and then what do you have? A person as someone said earlier "plastic" and fake.

Besides, adding up all the money spent on maintaining a look could possibly pay for a course or two in college for a semester. Teens and young adults are not known to take all precautions to prevent health issues. A young 20 something tried to color the whites of her eyes and that went wrong.

Self-confidence and personal esteem are needed to make it in the world. We need to stop faking it until we make it. Magazines are created to "sell" products to women to try to "enhance" their beauty to attract a man. Somewhere in the mid 80s and 90s we went off the track - I guess when they had the TV shows Dallas and Dynasty which were fantasies.

If you have the money fine. If not, don't. Look out for your purse strings and retirement. Oh well, I will get off my soapbox.

the other S.

My (now grown) daughters started with the mani/pedi trips for very special occasions in middle school. They added waxing, highlights, eye lashes slowly as they aged. Both of my girls are naturally very pretty (I know, mom's always say that!) and they don't put on a full face unless it's a big night/event. But, they did learn what to do, who to trust and how much these things cost.