My OB/GYN is a nice looking male professional. I am very happy with him and everyone on his staff. I am honesty amazed at how thoughtful and caring this office is. Also, I always see the doctor each visit, he takes time to sit with me and discuss all my concerns, and, if I have tests, he personally calls me with the results.
All this being said, I am amazed at how many women tell me they would never have a nice looking male doctor as their OB/GYN. There is a prejudice because he's nice looking and he is male. I have even heard this comment from a female doctor.
So, would you have a man as your OB/GYN? Is there a problem if he is young and nice looking? What is the problem if he is professional and thorough in your treatment? I really hate that this doctor doesn't get the traffic he deserves because of a weird preconception.
*FYI... I switched to him because my female OB/GYN was not present when in the room. She seemed to not be taking her job seriously especially with a high-risk pregnancy. She was also not treating another one of her patients having issues with fertility. She would just take what they said and go with their diagnosis instead of testing. I have been informed she is no longer in the practice. Thank goodness! I tried to switch to another female dr who could not accept me as a patient until I was too far along to start my heparin and I was referred by her office to this male dr. God was watching out for me!
I switched to my male Dr mid pregnancy from a female Dr.
I truly believe he saved my life and my daughter's life. He is one of the best in the area.
My female Dr is no longer in his practice. I feel she was simply in it for the money and didn't really care. She is working in the area on her own now.
I would if I liked him. In fact, I have a friend who LOVES her OBGYN who she thinks is HOT (and he's a he) -and that's one of the reasons she goes to him! I tried him years ago and didn't like him that much. I prefer a female, but I've seen really good males. The practice I go to has one male on staff, and I only saw him once during pregnancy -but he delivered my last baby. He was great! If I needed a checkup and they asked if he was available, I certainly would see him. How he looks doesn't really matter to me -although I think it would be a bonus if he was nice-looking instead of ugly!
I think the only thing that matters is that a doctor is genuinely concerned for your health and well being and are thorough in caring for you.
Looks don't really have anything to do with it, good or bad, unless one or the other makes a person uncomfortable.
Personality, "bedside manner" and follow through/follow up is most important to me.
Just my opinion.
I do have a male OB/GYN, but he is an older guy, and not hot. But I'm totally comfortable with him. I personally would not want a hot doc. Just too weird for me. Of course there is no kinky fantasy or anything, I just don't feel comfortable telling a hot guy about my last period, and being on display.
Of course, if there was one on staff where I went I would not refuse to see him, just my preference is the other guy. And, as I'm getting older, I am considering switching to a female. I feel like a female might better empathize with menopause, etc.
I see a male ob/gyn and I love him, he is a good doctor and while I have been told he is attractive he is not my type. I don't care what you look like just take care of me and the baby to the best of your abilities.
I started out with a male Dr then switched to a female Dr (she was an internist so she could do my pap and my regular medical issues)... the Female Dr never listened to a word I said, but oddly she listened to my Husband if he described my symptoms, for example when I complained of pain in my arm (turned out to be nerve issue) she gave me and anti anxiety medication, then when I complained of a heart issue she dismissed it completely so I had my Hubby come in from the waiting room and explain it to her again, and she immediately sent me to a heart specialist for a heart monitor. that was the LAST time I saw her, I switched to a wonderful Male OBGYN after that (and yes he is handsome in my book) but a great Dr with great heart and his staff is wonderful, I moved 8 years ago, but I still drive over and hour to see him every year. for me it is not what the person looks like on the outside but who they are as a DR/person.
If I can help it, I usually see female doctors, no matter if I'm being seen for a cold or a pap smear.
((I *have* had a young male doctor take a pass at me (especially uncomfortable since he was also in the process of feeling around my lower abdomen - Wait...did that just REALLY happen?!) but, that had little to do with his gender, age, looks, or sexual orientation, and a LOT to do with his unprofessional/unethical choice.))
My reasons for seeing female doctors are:
1. I am more often/easily triggered by male bodied and male identified people than I am by people who are not male bodied and male identified.
2. I am more able to advocate for my own health when I am feeling more comfortable.
3. I prefer to be seen by professionals who identify as feminist (the idea that men and women are equal and deserve equal rights) and, while there are MANY feminist men in the world, I have found that most of the feminist practitioners who *I've* had, also happen to be female.
I have worked with a few male doctors and dentists whom I felt entirely safe and comfortable and, conversely, women who I felt patronized and/or disregarded by. For example, my last pap was preformed by a woman and it was a simply awful experience.
For most things, I don't care if someone is male or female. Dentist, either is okay, Hair stylist, either is okay. But, when it comes to having someone look "up in there", I just don't feel comfortable with a male (hot or not, I don't care). I don't want to talk about problems with my period or back aches due to large breasts or any other embarrassing woman things with a male. Don't get me wrong, I don't want to talk to a female doctor about these things either, but I definately don't want to talk to a male.
There are many women who like/prefer male doctors and that's fine for them. I don't think being a male or female makes a better or more understanding doctor. For me, it is just that I am more comfortable around another woman.
Quality care is the most important thing. I saw an older male OB/GYN one time that I really liked, but then he retired. I saw a middl-aged male OB/GYN that I did not like at all. He wouldn't give me full information and would do things without asking/informing me. I now see a female OB/GYN who came highly recommended. I like her, her style, and her willingness to talk and answer all my questions. If a younger, good-looking male gave me the same care, I wouldn't have a bias against him. But, I think women can relate better, and an non-young doctor also can relate better.
If you like your doctor and feel comfortable with his care then you are fortunate you have found such an amazing doctor. I see a female obgyn because I prefer a woman. I would go to a male if I had to, but prefer a female. Why? I feel more comfortable with a woman doctor. In the end, the patient is the one who needs to feel comfortable and relaxed with their doctor.
My OB is male, he is one of the best in our town and I am very comfortable with him. I have had both male and female OB/GYN and I can honestly say that the males seemed to have had a better bedside manner than the females. I really have no preference it's just whom ever makes me feel the most comfortable. I guess this might have something to do with the fact that when younger my dad was military and I never saw the same dr twice and you didn't have a choice as to who you saw.
