Do You Ever Call Out with Your SO and Not Let Anyone Know?

Updated on August 23, 2011
J.F. asks from Doylestown, PA
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I really want to take a day off soon with my BF and just relax and not get out of bed all day! Just enjoy eachother watch movies, order in, and of course have "fun" all though out that time too. So do any of you both call out or scehdule a day once in a great while to enjoy eachother at home without any kids or anyone knowing, and just relax and reconnect? I think I really need that to wind down from all of the changes and just relax and not have anything to do soon. Have you done this? If so, what did you do with your SO? How did you do it, call out or take off? Did you let your SO other in advance or call out/schedule off for him and suprise him?

Edited: I am not planning on taking off for him, I was asking if you have, when I was married I could call my ex's boss and do this and ask when a good day would be and suprise him, but you have to really know someone to do that, it wouldn't work the same with a bf. I have done this before once with him by accident we were both feeling a little sick and called out and enjoyed the day together, and felt fine after sleeping a little

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You can schedule someone off by telling their boss its a suprise and you want them off. I couldn't do this with my BF obvously b/c I don't knwo his $ sittuation but I did when I was married,
Also if you feel guilty you can take off and not call out
And for those without babysitters, thats why this is needed if you have chool aged kids, do it on a school day! This is more for people that work outside of the home, you can;t call out if you're a SAHM.
Denise I'm not suggesting unpaid, and I'd rather have my weekend days with my daughter. I';d rather do it on a school day , where I would't see her anyway=) I have more than enough tme stored up, and I would do the option of scheduling it, even though I have sick days because I'd feel bad.
Donna, I havent taken one in a long while for me onyl things for my daughter, and I enjoy his company

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answers from Dover on

Yes, we do it a couple of times a year & I have termed it "Calling In Sex" instead of sick. It's essential for us once in a while to reconnect as he works rotating shifts & we don't have family in the area to keep the kids on any sort of regular schedule. What's more, I don't feel even one iota of guilt about it! ;)

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answers from Erie on

Yes. We call them "Mental Health Days" and don't feel one damn bit guilty about it. They don't happen often, but after stressful times we find them necessary.

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answers from Allentown on

Hi, Jen:

What do you do on your regularly scheduled days off?
If you need a day off, why would you want your
bf along?

J. wondering.

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answers from New York on

Yes we do. Sometimes we even schedule a vacation day in advance for J. the two of us.

Our favorite time of year to schedule our day home alone without kids is their first week of school. ;-)

We have teens and they J. don't even know all of the fun we have alone without them while they are at school. It is a beautiful and necessary thing for our marriage.

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answers from Los Angeles on

Never have.. sounds fun, but I am the guilty type and would suffer guilt all day long and wouldn't be able to enjoy it.

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answers from Dallas on

I say schedule it and do it up right! Maybe plan a nice breakfast (have your shopping done so there is no need to get out of your robe) rent a couple movies you've been wanting to see, or TiVO them, throw some dinner in the crock pot so you don't have to worry about that later. Have fun! Guilty? Are you kidding M.? How can you be a good mom if you can't unwind and J. get more and more stressed?


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answers from St. Louis on

I never have, but I love this idea! Do it! I would feel so guilty all day that I wouldn't even enjoy it - don't let that be you! Enjoy!

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answers from St. Louis on

Yes, we call it vacation. :p No surprises mind you. We both have jobs that ETO must be scheduled in advance. :( If we call in sick there must be a death notice attached. :-/

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answers from Pittsburgh on

How do you schedule someone else "off"?

I think if you're a mom with shared custody and/or visitation, maybe working might be better and having the "fun" day on a weekend day without the kids might be more profitable and responsible.

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answers from Milwaukee on

I would not and can not take off for my hubby, where my hubby works it HAS to be the employee putting in the request because many have important things to get done that even the boss does not know about. That is something he has to arrange at his work plus he has a handful of meetings through out the week he can not miss. If you want ask him to take that day off and you surprise him with the plans. My hubby would NEVER take a sick day if not sick, to M. that is J. poor work ethics (if you need a mental health day ok), it would have to be an vacation day to do what you are suggesting.

Yes we do take off at our anniversary. Sometimes we arrange a little getaway where our daughter stays with the grandparents while we get a hotel for the weekend. Otherwise we J. do date night, hire a sitter or have daughter sleep over at the grandparents, and we spend some good one on one time together. It is important to keep doing that in your relationship.

I have found that when hubby takes off if we are not getting away to somewhere we J. end up doing projects around the house instead of spending time with each other.

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answers from Detroit on

Nah, I would feel like a bum. Get a babysitter Sunday and do it.

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answers from Memphis on

I have never done this but have friends that have taken what they call mental health days. If you have accrued sick and vacations days, I don't see any harm in using one of them to have a day off. If you call in sick, I think it's ok as long as you don't leave your employer short-handed or leave something important undone. I probably would arrange it in advance J. to make sure that I don't find myself worrying about about something at work that needs to get done. It may not have the spontaneity but I would enjoy my day more arranging it in advance.

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answers from San Antonio on

Yep, I've done that. When I used to work and my days off were never the same as his it was hard to find time together. On rare occasions I called in sick to work and we had a day to ourselves. I got our kiddo off to school then went back to bed with hubby. We slept late, hung out, did whatever we wanted...until 3:30 when our kiddo got out of school.

I never once felt guilty for it either. I think it is fine as long as you don't do it often.

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answers from Oklahoma City on

I call in occasionally and don't let anyone know, including my husband! Sometimes I need a break J. for M. :)

I don't feel bad about it; I don't do it very often. It's a mental health day. There are some companies out there that actually provide for two mental health days a year for their employees!

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answers from Tallahassee on

No. I have trouble lying and I wouldn't be able to call in sick if I weren't actually sick. Even if I am sick I feel like I need to at least try to go to work because I might end up feeling better after I get there. I occasionally (very rarely) go home from work sick, but I almost never J. call in from home. I even feel guilty about taking time off when my daughter is sick because I feel like if I am well then I should be at work. Don't get M. wrong, I would never send her to school if she really isn't well and I do feel like I am the one that needs to be home with her when she is sick, but I also feel guilty about staying home with her and watching tv, etc. while my coworkers are working and there is nothing wrong with M..

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answers from Detroit on

I do it often I will schedule a vaction day off & it feels J. like a vacation! The very first time we slept until the late afternoon, most times we watch a movie and run errands. Couples should do this very often to reconnect esp if they are having babysitting issues.

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answers from San Antonio on

Hubby works third shift and they're short staffed at the moment. We have four kids and no family within 2500 miles.

No, we don't get the chance to spend time alone together like that. On Mondays he's awake during the day and off we usually have appointments and things we have to do. We do try to go out to lunch or something though, so we at least get a little time alone.

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answers from La Crosse on

My hubby and I have done it every year on our anniv. If our anniv is on Saturday, we take Friday off... on Sunday we take Monday off. Its our "gift" to each other. With two little ones still in the house we have a lady in town watch them for the day while the older kids are in school. In a month it will be our 5th time... and looking forward to it!

Have fun

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answers from Las Vegas on

Oh yes we call out at least every other month and enjoy the day together:)

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