Diaper Changing Struggle

Updated on January 19, 2009
T.C. asks from Minneapolis, MN
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My son is 17 months old and it has been a struggle with him for a good 6 months now when it comes to diaper changes, etc. Latley though about the last month or so it has gotten way worse. He isnt so bad with other people just with me. It is getting very frustrating for both of us and i dont know what to do to make it better. im hopeing some of you other moms out there have some ideas to help. i have tried giving him something to distract him but he trows it at me and that is not fun. He kicks like crazy, rolls all over the place and it gets to the point where i have to pin him to the floor just to get his diaper on. then we still have cloths to go. he is in tears the second he sees me grab a diaper and im practically in tears by the time we are done to because i feel so bad about how i have to get him ready. i try talking, singing, telling him no he needs to lay still but nothing is working. it took me 10 minutes this morning just to get his diaper on him. I would love for thing to just go smoother and have him work with me instead of against me. any ideas? i know he will grow out of it sooner or later but this has been going on for a while and we really need it to change. thanks!

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A.P.

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I used to work at a daycare in college and I always gave the kids who were not so fond of diaper changes a toy to play with when changing their diaper. It doesn't have to be anything exciting...sometimes a lotion bottle even works. I use the same technique with my son who is 10 and half months old and it works wonders! Good luck!

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B.H.

answers from Minneapolis on

To be completely honest and tell you what worked for me was a quick swat on the butt with diaper on. And a firm voice saying NO. Have to have the firm "man" voice.

I know alot of people are against spanking and I'm not talking about beating your child just a swat, it grabs their attention.

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R.K.

answers from Minneapolis on

I have the same problem with my 1 year old and have had luck with using a helium balloon as a distraction. We got one of those long-lasting helium balloons and tied it to his changing pad. He is so fascinated playing with it that he actually is still for a while. I don't know how long it'll last, but it works for now. Just be careful if you try it because balloons are also a choking hazard.

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C.S.

answers from Milwaukee on

Our son just turned one and we are having the same issues! My husband and I actually change/clothes him together when we are home-he distracts and I change. However, even that is challenged sometimes. We have in a way given in. He has a shelf above his changing table and he insists on standing while we change him, (getting him to lie down-he just rolls over and pops back up), so we put toys on the shelf and he stands while we change and clothes him. At night for bedtime I sit on the floor, put his bottle and a toy on the ottoman and he stands and plays/drinks and I change and put his jammies on.

It sounds hard, but once you get the hang of getting the diaper on while he's standing it's pretty easy! Plus it has mades for far less tears and struggles.

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Y.A.

answers from Sioux Falls on

have yo tried to get rid of the diaper and potty train him?
Maybe he is ready.
If hea actually hates a wet diaper, would it be an option to let him sit in it longer so that he is wanting to have it changed.

If you get him changed, and he is fighting the getting dressed, relax...go get a bowl of ice cream (one small scoop) and sit at the table to eat it. He wants to join in..fine if he is dressed atthe table. He will nedd to get dressed, does he need help with his pants? maybe this will work for a little while.

B.W.

answers from Minneapolis on

Put him on the potty. It iwll be something new, and I bet he will go for you. We used Elimination Communication for our boys, and both were out of diapers by 20mos old. It is stress free, and a new bonding experience.

www.diaperfreebaby.org is a good website for EC.

Otherwise I wholeheartedly agree with Beth H... I don't agree with spanking, but a swat on the behind will get his attention and make him realize that diaper change is not a time to mess around.

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S.S.

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Hello T. I can relate my son is going to be 1 year in a week and he does the same thing almost. Plus I had kn ee surgry a month ago and he kicks it all the time. What I do is give something of mine he really likes. I have a cell phone and he tries to get it all the time so when its diaper changing time he gets that or I let him play with the wipes lid or a bottle of lotion in a funny container. I'll also sing loud or whisper and he just is in shock he freezes or laughs. I hope something helps.

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N.P.

answers from Minneapolis on

I've never tried this, but my friend swears by it. She changes her daughter on a changing pad on the floor. She puts her legs straight out in front of her with her daughter's arms under her legs. She doesn't have to use any force, just having her legs on top is enough. She says her daughter lays still as can be with no complaints.

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E.C.

answers from Minneapolis on

My now 29 months old son....not even close to be ready to potty train and HATES getting his diaper changed. He just doesn't want to stop moving! I had also tried the distracting item and had it chucked at my head. I have bruises on my legs from him kicking me. But I just found the solution this past weekend. I had to change a stinky poo while at a family gathering, so I took him up to the changing table that was in the babys room.... and to my surprise he held still! I took down our changing table at home about a year or more ago... but yesterday I started using it again. Its working very well so far, no fighting, no throwing, to screaming and best of all neither of us are crying! If you still have a changing table give it a try or just try using the big mat that is contoured and had a buckle! Best of Luck

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A.K.

answers from Milwaukee on

Hi T.. I can relate, although it's more with clothing changes with my daughter. The great advice I received was to get a really great toy that he can only play with during changes. It worked wonderful for my daughter.
Good luck!

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L.M.

answers from Des Moines on

This might sound crazy but my daughter started calming down when started letting her wipe her own butt! I always clean her first (mommy's turn), then I let her grab a wipe and wipe herself for a minute (her turn). Your son is potty training age soon anyways, I'm sure he observes how parents go to the bathroom - you may give it a try.

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T.H.

answers from Minneapolis on

I used to have the same struggle and would give something to my son and he too would throw it or whatever. I learned to give him something at diaper time that he doesn't get to play with any other time, just when being changed. Another trick as he gets older is if he wants to do something do what is called firt-then language. First we need to change your diaper, then we will read a story.

Hope this helps.

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M.

answers from Minneapolis on

I know this isn't ideal, but for the messy diapers, I would give my son a really special treat (cookie, etc.) while I changed him. It worked, just make sure the treat lasts as long as the diaper change! He's 20 months now and just started to mellow out with the diaper changing.
Good luck!

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C.K.

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My son went through this phase. The first thing I did was have him stop wearing pants when we were at home, because that was one more layer I had to struggle with. I put those "babylegs" leg warmers on him, so his legs would still be covered.

Then I got really good at changing his diaper while he was standing. I would even change his diaper while he was standing and playing with something--he often didn't even realize what I was doing.

For when we needed him to lay down, I gave him a ball of twine to play with. We only gave it to him at diaper time, and it kept him enthralled.

Good luck!

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B.W.

answers from Minneapolis on

I mastered the art of putting a diaper on my daughter while she was standing up. She didn't want to take time form her 'busy schedule' to have a diaper change and would throw a fit when I layed her down. I soon realized that she would let me do it as long as she was standing up! Sometimes I do have to lay her down to wipe but then I let her stand back up again. We've also been using the potty (she's 17 months) as a distraction. She loves the feeling of 'importance' like she's doing big people stuff.

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K.R.

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My son is 9 months and changing his diaper has been a struggle for the last two months. Sometimes I get frustrated and I take it out on my husband because he wouldn't help me. Now I lay him on the bed (or floor with a pad) and pin him down with my feet across his armpits and shoulders. He also hates sitting still to get dressed so I take it in stride and dress him as fast as I can! Sometimes, when my husband is home, he will help me out. Make it a team effort!

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